What would you do?

[explorer69 3513]

I had a very strange experience recently with a SP who gets fantastic reviews on this site and the other Board. Her website is super professional, she is incredibly beautiful and sexy, so I decided to make an appointment.,even though she requires more info than other SPs.

I am a very private person and value my anonymity and I broke my golden rule because this Sp seemed so great. She had a prescreening which required a referral from another SP. Even though I was not that comfortable, I did it and gave more private info than I normally would.

I'm approved, and we set up a rendezvous. I park my car and phone her at the correct time as I'm walking to her building....no answer. I call back numerous times and text for the next 20 minutes....no answer.(I never went in her building as I didn't know the ring # and was supposed to get it upon arrival; so she never saw who I am on the security camera)

I go back to my office and email her .I know that stuff happens so my email is polite and expresses concern as I figure something might have happened to her....no response. I send a few more emails over the next few days, but no response or explanation. I know she is fine and has been on a computer because she has been on CERB to advertise.

[SamanthaEvans 166766]

It sounds like you've done what you can. You might send her a message here, too, just in case she can't get into her e-mail.

 

Things do happen. We all make mistakes, like recording a meeting on the wrong day or at the wrong time.

 

Don't worry about your privacy or whether your personal information is safe with her. If she's so well-reviewed and respected, that's the last thing you need to be concerned about.

[docottawa 541]

I had a similar experience about two years ago with a massage therapist. It was my very first foray into this industry in any way. I, too, ended up walking on a sidewalk, phone in hand, getting nothing but a message machine. I called her again the next day and left a couple of friendly e-mail messages but never received an explanation or an apology. Nothing negative ever came of it, though, and when I returned to this hobby, just very recently, she was no longer active.

 

I think that what I'm trying to say is that you should try to not be overly concerned. I think that this kind of thing happens often enough in this industry; no shows from both sides. It's inconsiderate, granted, but not an indication that you need worry about your privacy.

 

Regardless of all that, I hope that the provider takes the time to contact you. There may be a perfectly reasonable explanation.

[jughead 45]

The only thing I would be worried about was if you gave out your credit card #..............LOL

 

After hobbing for awhile we all have had some sort of delima where the sp was a no show or not answering, I made an appointment with an sp throught the other board, on my birthday, as a present to my self. Showed up at the arranged time, and location, got to the door range the bell, and waited, and waited.....went maked a call and waited somemore.........waited 30 to 45 minutes in all. I got a respoinse for the sp, she got here wires crossed (normal for her i have learned since) thought it was another day.....she claimed, lesson learned her loss.

 

The only thing that she can do is, make things difficult for you in your personal life...........the only term that comes to mind is

psycho bitch. You know the type you go to bed with them once and they figure that your getting married tomorrow........they call your friends, family, where you work make things reall difficult for you............if the sp was this type of person she would not be in this indusrty long nor would she have any sort of good rep that you say this one has on 2 boards. Stuff happens and not always do 2 people click.......we all know at least 1 or 2 people of the oppisote sex that we either just do not get along with or out and out hate.

[Winnipegcub 21293]

Agree with the others. We too often hear about guy 'no-shows' in both a public way and I believe in the ladies private area. And I have no objections to these communications. I have never missed a date but have had a couple of times where 'our meeting' was forgotten. In both cases the cirsumstances made me question the sincerity of the lady. But if you've been genuine a client has no recourse but to just move on and not consider that lady again. The good news is that the majority of ladies are of the highest calibre in their business and as professionals. You would hope in your case you'll receive some kind of explanation. But don't count on that happening and move on. Odds are you next experience will be much better.

Cub

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[Katherine of Halifax 113931]

I have never messed up anyone's appointment but have come close to making errors. Hopefully it will never happen but if I made a mistake or forgot you I would do something to make it up to my client. At the very least I would offer a free massage or more than likely I would offer a make up date on me.

 

We all make mistakes but as a S P I would want to show my client I was really sorry and this would be a great way to make ammends.

[roamingguy 300291]

First off, I don't believe any SP requiring the level of screening that you provided will make life difficult for you. It is done to ensure their safety.

(btw does she have a icon with a ribbon indicating reference provider) A few ladies have this on their websites

I can't see a lady using this screening method for nefarious purposes. It would quickly backfire on her, as word would get out. Other ladies who use such screening methods would find prospective clients refusing to give out such info to any lady. Not to mention the sp in question would lose alot of clients fast.

As for what happened, don't know. We haven't heard her side of the story.

Maybe instead of an email, or text message or pm phone and talk to her

If after you try everything and no results, just move on.

I give you credit, for not mentioning her name, shows class.

Hope everything works out

RG

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Just a question, and it's something I do. About two weeks prior to the encounter I email to semi-confirm the date is still a go, and a couple days ahead of the scheduled encounter I finalize details, and confirm the date. Just wondering if you do something like that

Just a thought

RG

[VedaSloan 119179]

This happened once when I first started, literally, about a month in. I wrote down the appointment for the wrong day and when I realized what had happened, was too embarrassed to contact the client and say so. Being new, I really didn't know what the protocol should be for my error. These days, if I were to make such an error (it could happen, I am busy with many school deadlines), I would contact the client and apologize profusely and offer a free session.

[Lowdark 5613]

This is bound to happen, regardless of how much care you invest. I have never missed a date myself (though I admit to being late once or twice) and I have always contacted the lady in question the day before to confirm. But despite that, I have been stood up a handful of times. But in all but one occassion I was given a prompt explanation. Sometimes there's little you can do, despite tonnes of preparation.

[Luscious Laurel 205]

Gosh, I did this to one of my favourite clients! I got caught up in some stuff at home and completely forgot to go to the apartment. The poor thing stood out there phoning away.

 

It was months before I saw him again, and, I felt so lucky and blessed that he came back.

[yabut 1460]

Happened to me about a month ago to with a massage lady from here, drove all the way up town, appointment confirmed and when I got to the set point to call for exact directions to her place there was no answer, left a number to call back and heard nothing.

[Kubrickfan 12836]

Pike -- As has been pointed out, there are a lot of possible explanations for what happened. I also understand that you are concerned in a somewhat "compromised" situation by virtue of the detail you needed to supply to the lady involved, but its very unlikely that informaiton would ever be used against you especially by an experienced SP unless you did something to deserve it. However, from you explanation, and the failure of the lady to respond post-meeting, this one does get under my skin a bit.

 

To whatever lady is involved in this situation: You owe this guy at least a polite PM response if not an explanation. After all, he took the time to go through your vetting process and apparently did everything you asked. Quit avoiding the situation and respond. Sooner or later this type of information can get out, and its better to deal with it before the information gets out in a fashion "through the grapevine" that may not be entirely accurate or fair to you.

[Miss Scarlett 25073]

There could be more to the story then what is being said! Never judge someone or make assumptions based on one side of the story! Maybe this girl feels that for one reason or another that she can not come forward. Judge not less YE be judged!

 

Kubrickfan:

 

"To whatever lady is involved in this situation: You owe this guy at least a polite PM response if not an explanation. After all, he took the time to go through your vetting process and apparently did everything you asked. Quit avoiding the situation and respond. Sooner or later this type of information can get out, and its better to deal with it before the information gets out in a fashion "through the grapevine" that may not be entirely accurate or fair to you."

 

This comment is completely uncalled for! She does not OWE him anything! He did not PAY for anything, and to make a statement like this "Sooner or later this type of information can get out, and its better to deal with it before the information gets out in a fashion "through the grapevine"", is extremely presumptuous of you!

 

Now I am not trying to start an argument here, but everyone "assumes" that Pikes rant is 100% accurate! There is always 2 sides of every story!

 

And when people ASSUME, all you do is make an "ASS out of U and ME"!

[The General 11309]

I have to say I agree generally with Kubrickfan. Let's say the story is accurate, Pike has gone out of his way to make an appointment, provide a significant amount of personal information, take his time to go to the general location of the SP and for this he is owed nothing.

 

Sorry, unless you have no common courtesy, having someone make all that effort, regardless of whether any money was laid out, the person that was put out, is owed an explanation by the other individual. The person obviously does not have to do so, but this really depends on your own personal integrity. Things happen, no problem, just be honest and explain.

 

I agree, if the information is not correct, you could take any position you want, but if the story is accurate, and it does seem reasonable, anyone thinking the person shouldn't explain, has not grown up with an appreciation for good manners.

[Cleo Catra 178382]

I do have to say, to the OP, that if I was the SP in question (which I'm not), putting this up publicly would guarantee you'd never hear back from me about what happened. There is a reason cerb does not want to 'air dirty laundry'. It never leads anywhere good!

 

You gentlemen do not like to read threads where SPs complain about no-shows. This is basically the same thing. Never a fun situation and never something anyone wants to go through. However, the best thing you can do is move on.

[The General 11309]

I agree with Cleo, probably best to leave this kind of discussion out of here, but that doesn't change my view about whether I think it appropriate (which I do), that the individual contact and explain. And frankly, if the person didn't explain already they had no intent, regardless of whether this post was made or not.

 

 

 

I do have to say, to the OP, that if I was the SP in question (which I'm not), putting this up publicly would guarantee you'd never hear back from me about what happened. There is a reason cerb does not want to 'air dirty laundry'. It never leads anywhere good!

 

You gentlemen do not like to read threads where SPs complain about no-shows. This is basically the same thing. Never a fun situation and never something anyone wants to go through. However, the best thing you can do is move on.

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

I agree that there are two sides of every story. I no-showed once (though I did answer my phone when he called and explained I couldn't see him) because my 17-year-old cat was bleeding badly and I had to call the vet to have her put down.

 

Another time, a guy passed my screening and booked an appointment for the next day. Everything was fine. Then he started sending me creepy messages saying "Megan, I'm at work and horny. What are you wearing? I need to see you RIGHT NOW I can't wait for tomorrow I'm so horny."

 

I cancelled the appointment and cut off all contact. Yes, he contacted me wanting to know why I cancelled but I didn't feel I owed him an explanation. Sure he could probably complain on this board about me, but I had my reasons.

 

Two sides to every story. Let's not judge.

[Kubrickfan 12836]

No disrespect intended, but the only facts before us are those posed by the original poster. Everything else is pure supposition. Until there are other facts known, we should stick with those.

 

The original poster came to us for advice, based on his facts, and that's what he has gotten. I dont think its judging, based on the facts presented, that the lady involved owes the poster an explanation.

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

No disrespect intended, but the only facts before us are those posed by the original poster. Everything else is pure supposition. Until there are other facts known, we should stick with those.

 

The original poster came to us for advice, based on his facts, and that's what he has gotten. I dont think its judging, based on the facts presented, that the lady involved owes the poster an explanation.

Yeah but you weren't just giving the OP advice, you were calling out the SP in question who is a member of CERB (according to OP). You told her she owes the guy...... without knowing the details, how could you say she owes him anything?

[roamingguy 300291]

I still think it's best after trying to contact her (email, pm, text, and a phone call) if no response, move on. No need to dwell, life is just too short

RG

[Kubrickfan 12836]

Megan --

 

Simply based on the facts as presented by the original poster.

 

I'm not looking to rabble rouse, and I agree the roles are probably reversed far more often with the ladies coming out on the short end of the missed appointment. I have no idea of what the explanation is, whether its a good explanation or not, or who is being referred to. Frankly, I'd rather not have any of that be publicly known as I think this is something that should be dealt with privately simply as a matter of courtesy. And if the roles were reversed, and ... lets say ... you or one of our other cerb ladies were the aggrieved party, I'd feel the just as strongly that the client would owe a private explanation to the lady involved. I hope that makes sense.

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

I would imagine something came up, perhaps a boyfriend was close to discovering a double life? Or Family, I don't think it was right of the SP to not contact you after the fact, but perhaps she was embarrassed to do so?

If you think you connected well during the screening process, then perhaps try again? You just might find she IS the one you were looking for.If not, then look at all the fantastic SP you can choose from here! I hope you find the one that will fulfill your wants and desire! Also, I would never ask client personal info, I think discretion is paramount for you and SP's.

[MiaBella 10988]

I posted this on the other site and wanted to paste it here as well:

 

You know Gents, I've been sitting back and watching this all unfold while other people comment and say their piece about something they know NOTHING about. After taking time to calm down, think, and be rational I have this to say.

First, when honesty is betrayed, there is nothing that says I have to risk my safety, comfort or well being to Protect My Reputation or Please a Client.

Not only has Explorer69/Pike or whoever else this gentleman is lie to me about his identity, he also lied to me about being a member of any boards, and that he had NEVER seen me before. I have met him before, and after that meeting, never wanted to see him again. He is quite aware. Don't be fooled.

Once I realized he had been lying, which was in fact when he called upon arrival, that is when I decided that since he was not concerned with me and my rights/feelings that I should treat him with the same rude and inconsiderate fashion. As I've said many times, Respect and trust is a two way street. Yes, maybe I should have picked up the phone, said I refuse to see you etc. And for that I was wrong. However, once that trust is lost, do I really Owe Him Anything?

 

Secondly, The whole reason I ask for so much "personal Info" is because I've been put in situations like this Too Many Times. I'm very happy to be low volume, and see the people who love seeing me. If you want to be a new client, I encourage it! I love meeting new interesting people! But I shouldn't feel like I'm asking for too much. Lots of girls give references, and we have No Problem Doing It! It shows that we respect each other and care for one an-others safety, and that we aren't insecure that we'll "lose our client". It's not trashy. It's safety. What personal info do I ask for that others don't, other than the reference? Does the fact that I want your phone number so I know it's you when you arrive bother you? Frankly, good luck finding a girl who doesn't want Any Phone Number. It can be Any Phone Number You Are Comfortable Giving Me. Your choice.

Does someone really think I'm going to go out of my way to try and ruin a man's life just because he wrote something negative about me? Really? I'm sorry, but just because this man decided to act childishly does not mean that I am the same. And just because some gentlemen have been unlucky in having a crazy girl out them, does not mean all escorts, including me, are like that. Maybe those gentlemen should have been More Careful themselves in choosing a SP? So maybe being picky isn't so bad after all?

 

Also, my reviews have stemmed back for a few years as well. It's not like they all happened over night. I have been a trusted SP for a while.

 

Oh and by the way, even though it hasn't changed on on the other site, this site noticed and joined your two accounts Pike/explorer69. Funny, I didn't think two different gentlemen would be able to have the exact same experience and write the same post, and 5 minutes apart, on two different sites. Hmmm.... Weird huh?

 

Warmest Regards,

 

Mia

[docottawa 541]

Until now, I've followed this post with the impression that it was as good as an hypothetical situation, since the SP's name had never been mentioned. I'd taken the view that you could begin the post as a "What if this happened to me?".

 

I mean, if the OP was up to besmirching a woman's reputation he would have hinted at who he was referring to. Since he didn't his story seemed, at least, passably credible and worthy of an answer assuming that he was being honest. To my way of thinking, anyone who answered the post with words of encouragement towards him wasn't being unfair because, once again, it was all anonymous.

 

From this point forward the thread changes. Maybe it's time that The Mod stepped in.

 

Also, let me say that I don't think any provider should ever disregard her own suspicions or intuition in order to satisfy any potential client.

[Miss Scarlett 25073]

To quote miss Mia "I posted this on the other site and wanted to paste it here as well"

 

Meaning the words she has said were not aimed at the wonderful gentlemen of Cerb, the were meant for the other site in question where people were flaming her and bashing her just because of what the OP said!

 

She just wants everyone on our wonderful site to take notice, that this guy is not honest or 100% accurate in his accounting's of what happened! Again back to what I said NEVER ASSUME!