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An Interview With... Daysha Love - Being a WOC in the Sex Work Industry

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22 minutes ago, lydiahardwood said:

I find that it’s either you’re racist or not and if you are it shows.

Great Interview. Totally agree with the above statement!! well done and best of luck!

 

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I agree, if only everyone was a little more kind to each other, great interview and can't wait for more!

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Very enlightening. Thank you so much for posting this and for sharing a some insight into your life.

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That was a great read. I think we could all do well to continue to look at ourselves and think about our perceptions and our attitudes. As you stated @Daysha Love, it's about educating ourselves and also about listening to people's experience. Then putting all the nonsense aside about race and color and just liking each other for who we are. Thank you @lydiahardwood for this thread. 

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What a great interview!  We need more powerful strong women to raise awareness to every day issues!  Amazing girl, keep pushing, keep shining! 

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I adore the bluntness of your expressions! A quality in & of itself.  

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On 7/28/2020 at 8:39 AM, lydiahardwood said:

Hi everyone,

Wow, I am so excited to post this! Over the past few months, I've been inspired by @Daysha Love and her activism on #BlackLivesMatter. Her content made me realise that there needs to be more awareness around this subject, particularly racism within this industry, so I asked her if she'd be happy to answer some questions to share with you guys. Here are her responses. Please do have a read through, I'll be putting this out on Twitter too and RTs would be appreciated. Thank you so much Daysha for your time and honesty. You are amazing. ❤️ 

Q: Hey beautiful lady! Thanks so much for agreeing to be part of Lyla’s interviews with Canadian Companions. So, tell me, what’s your story? When/how did you get into this?  
A: I got into escorting very young ( as soon as I was 18) after moving out on my own in high school. I had a regular job and got fired. I had bills to pay and didn’t know what to do. I had a few girls who I knew worked so I asked them how to post an ad. Next I found an incall on Backpage and then I was off! After making my bill money + some I realized I could really change my life

Q: What were your thoughts on the industry before you got into it? Is it something that’s always interested you?
A: Honestly I was always the friend who was most likely to be a stripper! I was and am comfortable with who I am. I’ve always been flirty and outgoing.

Q: I’ve seen you share a lot of important and relevant content regarding #BlackLivesMatter lately. Thank you - it’s important that the industry gets educated. What racism have you personally experienced in the industry? 
A: I’ve experienced TONS of blatant racism and subliminal. Even Colorism. It’s crazy and disgusting. I’ve been told by clients, “I’ve always wanted a coloured girl”, “I have jungle fever”, “I could never be with a black girl in public so this is great”, “you’re only so gorgeous because you’re mixed with other ethnicities”; I’ve also had blatant situations like being referred to as the N word,”black bitch” etc.

Q: Can you give us any examples of microaggressions you’ve experienced? (E.g. people talking about wanting mixed babies, “BBC”).
A: This has been my whole life. I know multiple girls who only date black guys. Almost every white woman I've met has mentioned mixed babies. Asking if my hair is real. Just general bullshit this happens everyday for black people.

Q: A lot of the time we see Clients looking for a Companion of a certain ethnic background. Do you see this as skin colour being fetishised? Is there a fine line between attraction/making it into a fetish? 
A: Most of the time I’m the fetish disappointingly; most clients have never been with a woman of colour and it seems like it’s a box they wanna check off. I understood this would be the case the majority of times before I started working.

Q: Do you tend to mention your race in your ads?
A: I always mention my full ethnic background (Caribbean,cree,white) to sound more exotic lol lots of girls do it. But I find I get asked a lot what my mix is because I don’t look “fully black”

Q: Have you had any race specific kinks/requests and if so how do you feel about them?
A: No I wouldn’t tolerate that at all.

Q: Do you feel like there’s enough representation in the industry?
A: For black women? No. You’re either treated like a luxury (typically when you’re very petite or “exotic” looking) or treated like garbage unfortunately (typically because you don’t have a exotic look, or they think you have a pimp, you’re cheap etc.) but most of the time black girls have to work 4x as hard as any other race in the industry. We have to have high quality ads etc and really push for the prices we want. It’s sad.

Q: Do you think representation within the industry will improve as a result of the #Blacklivesmatter movement? Do you think it’ll stay consistent?
A: I’m hoping it does I’ve had clients reach out to me and ask if I’m ok and to apologize about the current situations; I feel like in the industry the racism is really showing at the moment I’ve had three incidents working in the past few months ( all racially charged ) I find that it’s either you’re racist or not and if you are it shows. However I’m hoping through education we can abolish this way of thinking.

Q: For any individuals/brands looking to educate themselves, is there anyone you’d recommend following/listening to?
A: Just listen. There’s no one recommendation. Look up the #BlackLivesMatter hashtag and just read experiences from people first hand. Of course there’s other resources but I find listening to experiences and asking questions is the best way to learn

Q: Thank you so much for your time, Daysha. Have you got any other comments on this topic that you think will help educate the community?
A: I think everyone needs to be more kind to each other!
 

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Thanks again to Daysha for being our first interviewee. We will be doing more of these throughout the next few months. If anyone has any requests for topics they'd like to know more about/if you want to volunteer to talk about a cause close to your heart, please let me know on this thread/DM me. 

Lots of love. ❤️ 

 Proud of you girl for speaking out about this serious issue There is so much extreme systemic racism prevalent even more than before it sickens me to my core. I have a Middle Eastern background but luckily I have not faced any kind of racism For having an Arabic background  But that's not to say that it could happen Women of colour especially in this industry I'm sure are having a difficult time having to Deal with racism even in our line of work . Keep doing what your doing girl But remember one thing and this is coming from me I've seen your picks your beautiful young  Women. ❤💋

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