Have you ever had “burn-out”? How do you deal?

[Jenesis 294]

So I have had it before with my mainstream work. Things get busy, deadlines, huge projects etc. But then I posted a thread a few weeks back about my responses to some LL idiots and it made me realize that I have escorting burn out. It manifested in such a different way, I didn’t realize it. I am/was enjoying the company of my clients still, nothing wrong there at all, but I took a look back and realized that from May until the end of October, I spent maybe 4 nights a month in my home. The rest was either hotels or my trailer. I am guessing I went from stuck at home all the time with COVID restrictions to WAY overboard in the traveling/touring to get out of the house and I think I took it a little too far and it took its toll.

I always thought if I got burn-out with escorting, it would mean I became less interested in sex, or I was giving mechanical service, or something along those lines. I thought my normal stress triggers would show, I would be biting my nails, etc. But it was none of that. 

So reflecting, I figured that yeah - I have burn-out. More from travelling then clients, but the burn out is real. Which I realize I am very privileged to be able to take time off now. Which makes me feel so bad for others who have to keep working through it. I don’t know how they do it, and while I feel bad for clients who may get a jaded escort, but if she keeps having to work and has no way to get out of burn out, I just can’t imagine how hard it is. 

I know that burn-out can be from many things. Home life, work life, etc. Have you ever had burn- out? How have you dealt with it? How do you get out of it when you are still stuck the environment that gave you burn-out?

For me, it is time off for a few months. Keep a select few regulars to still get some companionship and sex of course, but no more touring for right now and back to more of a 3-4 clients a month only. Mental health is important to me and again, I am extremely priviledged in the fact that I can take a step back and regain myself again without the worry of loss of income, etc.

[NotchJohnson 214065]

@Jenesis you are lucky that you felt it coming and realized it and that you can cope with it.  I  many cases people detect it too late and can't deal with it the way that you are.  Back when I was a firefighter and risked my life many time I sat back and decided to quit before I would lose my life or get injured really bad.  I had lost the fear of going into fire engulfed house or rescuing people stuck in their vehicles without considering my life.  It was only when an explosion that projected glass at my face and left me with some scars that I decided to stop this and directed myself towards another field while I was still young enough to do it.

I do get the withdrawal form the rush but I think it's for the better now that I stay away from it.  I have been asked to come back because there is a shortage of fireman/woman but refused it.

[Phaedrus 209521]

Good for you for catching it. It's not always easy to realize it's happening.

I've had it in the past. TBH I think the only real solution is what you've done - to step back, and give yourself the time and space you need to recover. Of course, that requires that you have the luxury of being able to do so, and not everyone does.

The other option is to keep going until something breaks, and that's never good.

[Guest lydiahardwood]

19 hours ago, Jenesis said:

For me, it is time off for a few months. Keep a select few regulars to still get some companionship and sex of course, but no more touring for right now and back to more of a 3-4 clients a month only. Mental health is important to me and again, I am extremely priviledged in the fact that I can take a step back and regain myself again without the worry of loss of income, etc.

Super proud of you for realising this and making caring for yourself a priority. I could definitely learn a lot from you. Will this be the first time you've taken a significant break from being a Companion?

19 hours ago, Jenesis said:

I know that burn-out can be from many things. Home life, work life, etc. Have you ever had burn- out? How have you dealt with it? How do you get out of it when you are still stuck the environment that gave you burn-out?

I've suffered with burnout loads throughout my life (I'm a Capricorn so being a workaholic comes naturally to me) and the best way I've dealt with it is by taking a step back and reassessing my priorities. Previously, in order for me to feel "successful" and productive, I've felt like I've had to be busy all the time. But in reality, taking time to rest is often the most productive thing you can do. Better for your body, your mental clarity, your circadian rhythm... and since I've stopped taking on so many projects, I seem to have accumulated more wealth and happiness, because I'm able to dedicate time to the things that really mean something to me.

Thanks Jenesis for your honest wisdom and I hope that we'll still hear from you on here over the next few months ❤️ 

[Jenesis 294]

6 hours ago, lydiahardwood said:

Super proud of you for realising this and making caring for yourself a priority. I could definitely learn a lot from you. Will this be the first time you've taken a significant break from being a Companion?

I have taken breaks before when mainstream work goes through our busy season but with COVID, one aspect of our business dries while the other picked up. But I don’t have a “busy season” anymore. It is more overall consistent so I have not needed to in a couple years. 

 

6 hours ago, lydiahardwood said:

I've suffered with burnout loads throughout my life (I'm a Capricorn so being a workaholic comes naturally to me) and the best way I've dealt with it is by taking a step back and reassessing my priorities. Previously, in order for me to feel "successful" and productive, I've felt like I've had to be busy all the time. But in reality, taking time to rest is often the most productive thing you can do. Better for your body, your mental clarity, your circadian rhythm... and since I've stopped taking on so many projects, I seem to have accumulated more wealth and happiness, because I'm able to dedicate time to the things that really mean something to me.

I use to be the same. If I wasn’t doing something, I was not successful. Took a while, some experience and maturity, but I finally realized success is not measure by how much you do but what you put into what you do. I can do 10 things with no heart or 1 thing with heart. I’ll take the one now. 

 

6 hours ago, lydiahardwood said:

Thanks Jenesis for your honest wisdom and I hope that we'll still hear from you on here over the next few months ❤️ 

You will see me still. Can’t get rid of me that easy!  LOL