No Response - what to make of it?

[calee3470 102]

So I've been interested in getting a massage from ... well, let's just say a semi-regular CERB lady. Last time I was in Ottawa, I emailed her once when I got into town, and then again two weeks later... but by the time she responded, I had left town.

Now that I'm back in Ottawa, I tried emailing her again. To my delight, she responded right away with several availabilities over the next few days. I returned her email right away, and waited ... and waited ... and waited. I emailed her again a few days later, and proposed another time and date, but no response still. This was a week ago.

So my question is, should I read anything into this? Is she not really interested in me? Should I try emailing again, or is it too awkward now? Anybody have a similar experience?

[doubledave 100]

Unless you've seen this lady and something happened that soured the relationship, I doubt very much that her not getting back to you has anything to do with you and everything to do with what's happening in her life right now.

 

So either be patient and keep trying or find another.

[mmad 2842]

I'd suggest text messaging on her phone; I've always found that more successful than e-mail. Worth a try anyways!

[Winnipegcub 21293]

Agree with mmad it is always good to try all methods of connection the lady has provided. It also depends how much you like things planned/organized or how willing you are to just start calling, PMing, at the last minute.

For me I like to be organized and get frustrated when ladies advertise and yet aren't responsive to when you try and contact them. I posted a similar thread recently; http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=54042

In short, I've learned to try and connect early and if no response, move on quickly. If we don't connect then I take that as it wasn't meant. Best of luck.

Cub

[The General 11309]

If you are looking for something more immediate, and presumably she has a phone number to be reached at, just call. I often message and it can take a bit of time, so if you want to set something up firm, use old Ma Bell.

[Platypus 104]

I actually had a very similar experience. I had a MP that I'd had several excellent sessions with, and with whom I thought I shared a rapport completely drop me out of the blue (didn't answer phone when I showed up for appt, didn't respond to email after the fact). I was pretty hurt at the time, and more so reading reviews that others posted about how wonderful their sessions were during the same time period. Eventually I just decided to put the negativity aside and move on... whatever her reasons were, they were hers, and I wasn't getting anywhere by dwelling on it. One thing I will say is that there are plenty of beautiful, talented, intelligent women here on CERB, and I'm sure you'll manage to recover from one missed connection...

Platypus

[stevecurious 42059]

...and honest it sounds as though you have done all that can be reasonably expected from a potential client. There comes a time when, cold as this sounds, we have to cut our losses sort of speak and move on. I mean for all we try to maintain a sense of community here on Cerb we are all here for one underlying reason...the buying and selling of sex. To that point if a lady doesn't want your money there are others who probably do.

 

I realize my post was a bit pointed but none the less that is why we are ultimately all here.

[MightyMouse 839]

I agree completely with SteveCurious.

[BarrhavenWoody 10776]

I agree with WinnipegCub. You should have followed up with a phone call. We all have our preferred method of communication. I prefer email, but lots of people prefer phone calls or text messaging. If email isn't your thing, you may only check it periodically, leaving others frustrated with the slow response time. Clearly this lady isn't on her email all day long so you need to find what works with her.

[Reddog01 30280]

I know it is hard to give up. I had a great experience with an SP. We repeated and she gave me all the right vibs that she would be happy to have me as a regular and see me again. We exchanged emails a couple of times over the next week and she ended her last email with keep in touch, etc.....

 

I might be back in her neck of the woods in Sept and so i am trying to reconnect again. No response to my last couple of emails. Her website is still up and contact info the same. I am asking myself the same question.

 

But if I have too I will forgive and forget, but I will still be a little disappointed. I will try one more time and let it go.

 

Same advice to you.....Have fun elsewhere.

[calee3470 102]

Thanks all for the replies. Her website stipulated that she'd only receive texts from guys she's met before. Anyway, I feel a bit better now. Still disappointed, since I'll have to move on, and she was really really good looking.

 

I very much wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt, since I know that stuff happens all the time, and you get busy with one thing or another... but that went out the window when she added a CERB post with her upcoming availabilities. :frown:

 

Cheers...

[Old Dog 179138]

There are lost of ways of looking at this... here are just a few:

 

1. She may have had an offer that exceeds what you could provide - perhaps a client has offered a getaway for consideration that could not be rejected. It happens in this business.

 

2. It may just be a slow time in business combined with fantastic summer weather. If you realize that you could take off for a few days to pamper yourself in lieu of seeing a client or two over a stretch of time, leisure generally wins that argument.

 

3. I do know some of the MPs work from home or alternate incall locations. There may be issues regarding scheduling or a potential conflict which makes the conduct of business during a certain period either difficult or impossible. It may be completely beyond her control; her incall location may just be unavailable.

 

4. There is the potential that she may just be (for lack of a better term) spooked by you. You may be the nicest safest client on the face of the planet, but a bad vibe in communications translates to cancellations or a halt to further correspondence. We have to respect that MPs and SPs have to rely on screening, shared experiences and other methods to preserve their own safety - when that fails, many trust the gut reaction. If that is the case, you may be best to try someone else who is willing to accept you as a client.

 

There are lots of reasons ... don't necessarily take it personally. Read the recommendations, find alternatives and move on. You can be assured that this city has a wealth of wonderful providers to ensure your needs are met.

[stevecurious 42059]

I agree with WinnipegCub. You should have followed up with a phone call. We all have our preferred method of communication. I prefer email, but lots of people prefer phone calls or text messaging. If email isn't your thing, you may only check it periodically, leaving others frustrated with the slow response time. Clearly this lady isn't on her email all day long so you need to find what works with her.

 

I politely disagree. If the lady in question provides an email address as one of her methods of contact then I submit that it is not up the client to find what works for her. If a lady provides an email address, phone number, Cerb PM, Skype, carrier pigeon or smoke signal, etc. as methods of contact than she should be checking ALL of these media for messages and therefore potential clients.

 

I understand from the OP statement that he tried on many, many occasions to gain contact with the lady in question but to no avail. I am assuming since he is attempting to contact her by email that she has listed this (email) as an acceptable method of contact. Of course this thread is a moot point if he chose to contact her via a "non preferred" method of contact.

 

So I've been interested in getting a massage from ... well, let's just say a semi-regular CERB lady. Last time I was in Ottawa, I emailed her once when I got into town, and then again two weeks later... but by the time she responded, I had left town.

Now that I'm back in Ottawa, I tried emailing her again. To my delight, she responded right away with several availabilities over the next few days. I returned her email right away, and waited ... and waited ... and waited. I emailed her again a few days later, and proposed another time and date, but no response still. This was a week ago.

So my question is, should I read anything into this? Is she not really interested in me? Should I try emailing again, or is it too awkward now? Anybody have a similar experience?

[Guest f***2f***]

The sad fact is that there are some in this business, as in other business, that are not well organized and diligent about answering their messages and keeping their appointments straight. They haven't got their booking of appointments and their service act together. It drives me crazy to have this happen and I just drop it like I would any other business operator. I just don't have the time or patience to deal with people who are unprofessional.

 

There are wonderful ladies on here who have their business and service act together...move on and find one of them.

[Ice-T 157]

I personally don't put up with that crap. There are many options out there, just like any business. If I send an email/text and don't get a response, or a very late response, to me business must be good and she doesn't want mine. I must say that this is very rare, most ladies are very good at responding.

[Kate von Katz 49953]

I do need to throw the caveat in there that some ladies do not receive texts or return phone messages. I am one of those ladies.

 

This is not the case in this instance, but I feel the need to remind people that you should thoroughly read the information on the appropriate methods of contacting a lady before assuming she accepts certain methods of communication.

 

In this case, I would agree with most of the gentlemen on here: she is likely on holiday or has personal matters. We do have our own lives outside of this industry, and sometimes personal matters require all of our attention.

 

Give her one last message politely and non-threateningly worded basically conveying your confusion over why she has not returned your messages. If she doesn't respond within a reasonable amount of time, then move on to another lady.

 

Best of luck!

[Pink Kitty Escorts 6195]

Here's another issue with Txts and Emails, and I know some of you guys won't like or agree with what I have to say about this.

 

ALOT (not all, but a very high percentage of ppl) of txt messages and email requests are basically tire kickers. Just sniffing around and window shopping and in many cases are not truely serious. Many of them end up to be last minute cancellations or no shows. So normally if they are unwilling to call, its not gonna happen.

 

Another big reason is without hearing their voice, there are alot of vibes and tones and you can miss. You hereif they sound drunk, or not all there. So from safety point of view it's a bit less secure.

 

Another reason for the phone call is we, (and I am sure many providers) log numbers of ppl that are no shows, or are aggressive, (we have had a few lately unfortunately), or rude and ignorant ppl, or guys are drunks or have brought drugs into their calls. By going through emails that is circumvented.

 

For us we will answer a txt and ask the client to call. If they can't at the time, I will give basic info and tell them if they are interested to call so my receptionist can organize things for them.

 

I do understand the convienience of email or txting. But in our opinion the security measures outweigh the convienience factors.

[passionseeker2010 112]

I totally disagree with Jason. A text has the phone number it came from same as a phone call does. It gives you the same information about the requestor. Same as a PM. PM's are from members of a trusted board.

 

People lead busy lives and I am rarely in a position to make a phone call that will not be overheard by someone else. It is your perogative to only book by phone, but it is 2011 and I personally will not use a service that doesn't allow me to book through a modern method of communication.

 

Here's another issue with Txts and Emails, and I know some of you guys won't like or agree with what I have to say about this.

 

ALOT (not all, but a very high percentage of ppl) of txt messages and email requests are basically tire kickers. Just sniffing around and window shopping and in many cases are not truely serious. Many of them end up to be last minute cancellations or no shows. So normally if they are unwilling to call, its not gonna happen.

 

Another big reason is without hearing their voice, there are alot of vibes and tones and you can miss. You hereif they sound drunk, or not all there. So from safety point of view it's a bit less secure.

 

Another reason for the phone call is we, (and I am sure many providers) log numbers of ppl that are no shows, or are aggressive, (we have had a few lately unfortunately), or rude and ignorant ppl, or guys are drunks or have brought drugs into their calls. By going through emails that is circumvented.

 

For us we will answer a txt and ask the client to call. If they can't at the time, I will give basic info and tell them if they are interested to call so my receptionist can organize things for them.

 

I do understand the convienience of email or txting. But in our opinion the security measures outweigh the convienience factors.

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[April Dawn 12207]

whoa. I'm not trying to be insulting to the tons of wonderful clients on this board but just because somebody is on CERB doesn't make them trustworthy. Also as cell phones dont have breathalizers how would you know if someone is drunk or high when they are texting you?

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[whiteman 14028]

I find it's best to never get hung up on one particular lady. Just have several options lined up, and try them individually. I've even run into the situation where I had a dozen contacts lined up and I couldn't get in contact with any of them!

 

Also even in this day and age, the best method for contact is the good old fashioned telephone, voice-to-voice. People size each other up better with a direct vocal conversation than they do with texts or emails.

[toine 30556]

.... Also as cell phones dont have breathalizers how would you know if someone is drunk or high when they are texting you?

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maybe thier spellnig willbe ttally messsed up? :icon_smile:

 

I got to agree that there is much info to be picked up in a live conversation that will not come across through text or email. The rule can be different for people one has got to know and trust over time.

[Megan'sTouch 23875]

I think it's best to move on, as much as you were wishing to see her.

 

I don't necessarily agree with what people are saying about telephone being the best route. You should contact her the way she requests to be contacted. I prefer email for new clients and welcome phone calls and texts once we've become acquainted.

[Bethany Westbrooke 7532]

2. It may just be a slow time in business combined with fantastic summer weather. If you realize that you could take off for a few days to pamper yourself in lieu of seeing a client or two over a stretch of time, leisure generally wins that argument.

 

3. I do know some of the MPs work from home or alternate incall locations. There may be issues regarding scheduling or a potential conflict which makes the conduct of business during a certain period either difficult or impossible. It may be completely beyond her control; her incall location may just be unavailable.

 

4. There is the potential that she may just be (for lack of a better term) spooked by you. You may be the nicest safest client on the face of the planet, but a bad vibe in communications translates to cancellations or a halt to further correspondence. We have to respect that MPs and SPs have to rely on screening, shared experiences and other methods to preserve their own safety - when that fails, many trust the gut reaction. If that is the case, you may be best to try someone else who is willing to accept you as a client.

 

There are lots of reasons ... don't necessarily take it personally.

 

I have to agree with OldDog, there are so many reasons, and I am starting to wonder if this might have been me! I have recently moved and it has been a little hectic at best! Though I am normally quite organized with weekends and getting settled it is possible I might have let a few emails fall through the cracks- I agree with everyone, highly unprofessional, but we are only human!

 

Just because someone posts that they are available doesn't mean that they are %100 committed to working the hours they listed, often I'll post my availability but if no one books me right away or if something comes up (lately lots has!) I might decide shortly after to take the day off... Sue me for being a slacker, lol, I am normally quite the hard worker, just not so much in the summer!

 

If nothing has happened to upset your communications apart from a couple missed emails, like others have said, send another email just to find out if this person might get back to you! There may just be a reasonable explanation for your crossed lines. If you are truly interested in seeing this girl I would suggest you keep trying, you are not choosing her for her office skills, more so her sensual skills! Some of the best MPs I have known have been terribly organized! In a perfect world we would all be perfect! In reality...

 

Now, off to see if I missed replying to anyone:oops:

 

Bethany

Xoxox

[cordsboy 184]

sorry i meant to answer you the other day then put it off a few days then another day, the something came up.... (get it...)

 

Call or txt much better then email.

[passionseeker2010 112]

The same way you would know if they were drunk or high on the phone. Last I checked phones don't come with breathalizers either. If they do i apologize ahead of time.

 

My point is phone or text.... It is all the same. I also said that it is the providers discretion to choose the methods of contacts they want to accept. The same as it is my right to choose the methods I wish to use.

 

whoa. I'm not trying to be insulting to the tons of wonderful clients on this board but just because somebody is on CERB doesn't make them trustworthy. Also as cell phones dont have breathalizers how would you know if someone is drunk or high when they are texting you?

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