Why Do People Not Write Recos?

[Cumquat 494]

Ever since becoming a member I have noticed more and more hobbiests that do not write recommendations. I have heard numerous excuses as to why they don't write them, and I heard a new one today so it prompted me to post this to see what others think.

 

Excuses (in the order I have heard them):

 

Negative Reco:

This one I completely understand, if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything.

 

SP has a Do Not Review policy:

Also completely understandable, no reco should be written if the SP doesn't want one done.

 

I Don't Write Recos:

Somewhat understand that some people don't want to make it known that they are seeing SPs, but you are a member of an Escort Recommendation board, so most people here assume you are a hobbiest and seeing SPs. So write the reco to show the SP you had a good time and show your appreciation. (The other thing I find funny is some hobbiests that recommend an SP to me and say they had an awesome time but they don't write recommendations will then turn around and write one for another SP a week later.)

 

She's not my normal body type:

(e.g. I had an awesome time but I normally see spinners and she wasn't a spinner so I am not gonna write a reco.) Is there a law that says you can't see SPs with varying body types, hair color, eye color, etc.? Are you afraid other hobbiests are going to make fun of you if you didn't choose the head cheerleader as your SP? If you have a great time, let people know, and let her know. How do you think this makes an SP feel if you tell them you have a wonderful time and you repeat with them but you won't do a reco and yet you do them for other girls?

 

I don't want her to become too popular if people like my reco:

Crazy reason, if you don't write recos and she doesn't get business she won't be around for you to see.

 

I told an SP I love her, so I don't want her to know I see others:

She is probably is hesitant to believe you when you say you love her. I'm sure there are lots of hobbiests that tell SPs that they love them. I see the word throw around some as if it means nothing, so I'm sure SPs are very cautious to believe when the word is thrown out. They are going to be very careful and will know that you are still seeing other SPs whether you write a reco for them or not.

 

I don't have the time to write a reco:

It takes a whole 5 minutes to write a reco, you don't have to go into detail if you don't want to. It's easy to say you saw her and had a great time and show her you appreciated it. If you have the time to spend an hour or more with an SP, I'm sure you have the time to spend 5 minutes to write a reco.

 

The Latest one:

I can't write a reco because an SP I see will get mad if I write them for others:

This one threw me for a loop. Do SPs really get mad if one of their regulars writes a review for another SP? I'm pretty sure most SPs know that hobbiests will see more than one SP. Most hobbiests like variety. Yes there are those that choose a regular SP but they will still seek variety from time to time. Do the SPs that get mad give you worse service if you write a reco for another SP or do they stop seeing you? Is this the new way to catfight with other SPs without being open about it, just make sure your hobbiests only write recos for you?

 

 

I'm sure these are just a few of the excuses people have heard. Just thought it was an interesting topic and figured others might have more insight or more excuses to share.

 

 

Closing thought:

Show your appreciation to the SPs and write a reco, it only takes a few minutes, and they will really appreciate that you did.

[Emma Alexandra 123366]

Ever since becoming a member I have noticed more and more hobbiests that do not write recommendations. I have heard numerous excuses as to why they don't write them, and I heard a new one today so it prompted me to post this to see what others think.

 

I Don't Write Recos:

Somewhat understand that some people don't want to make it known that they are seeing SPs, but you are a member of an Escort Recommendation board, so most people here assume you are a hobbiest and seeing SPs. So write the reco to show the SP you had a good time and show your appreciation. (The other thing I find funny is some hobbiests that recommend an SP to me and say they had an awesome time but they don't write recommendations will then turn around and write one for another SP a week later.)

 

Yea thats one doesn't make much sence...???

 

She's not my normal body type:

(e.g. I had an awesome time but I normally see spinners and she wasn't a spinner so I am not gonna write a reco.) Is there a law that says you can't see SPs with varying body types, hair color, eye color, etc.? Are you afraid other hobbiests are going to make fun of you if you didn't choose the head cheerleader as your SP? If you have a great time, let people know, and let her know. How do you think this makes an SP feel if you tell them you have a wonderful time and you repeat with them but you won't do a reco and yet you do them for other girls?

 

This one can make a lady feel bad...we are all not spinners but that doesn't mean that we don't provide quality service ..sometimes even better service then a spinner...hehe

 

I don't want her to become too popular if people like my reco:

Crazy reason, if you don't write recos and she doesn't get business she won't be around for you to see.

 

how many times have i heard that exuse...lmao

 

I told an SP I love her, so I don't want her to know I see others:

She is probably is hesitant to believe you when you say you love her. I'm sure there are lots of hobbiests that tell SPs that they love them. I see the word throw around some as if it means nothing, so I'm sure SPs are very cautious to believe when the word is thrown out. They are going to be very careful and will know that you are still seeing other SPs whether you write a reco for them or not.

 

haha heard this one many many times...boys we are not stupid...lol

 

I don't have the time to write a reco:

It takes a whole 5 minutes to write a reco, you don't have to go into detail if you don't want to. It's easy to say you saw her and had a great time and show her you appreciated it. If you have the time to spend an hour or more with an SP, I'm sure you have the time to spend 5 minutes to write a reco.

 

Can't even comment on this one...hehe

 

The Latest one:

I can't write a reco because an SP I see will get mad if I write them for others:

This one threw me for a loop. Do SPs really get mad if one of their regulars writes a review for another SP? I'm pretty sure most SPs know that hobbiests will see more than one SP. Most hobbiests like variety. Yes there are those that choose a regular SP but they will still seek variety from time to time. Do the SPs that get mad give you worse service if you write a reco for another SP or do they stop seeing you? Is this the new way to catfight with other SPs without being open about it, just make sure your hobbiests only write recos for you?

 

I heard that i get upset about this too...i didn't even know i did...someone should have told me so i could stop crying...lmao...:shock:

 

 

I'm sure these are just a few of the excuses people have heard. Just thought it was an interesting topic and figured others might have more insight or more excuses to share.

 

 

Closing thought:

Show your appreciation to the SPs and write a reco, it only takes a few minutes, and they will really appreciate that you did.

 

We do appreciate you taking the time to let others know what you thought of your time with us...it really does make us feel special...until you write the next reveiw for your next sp...lmao....i'm so kidding...write boys thats what this board is all about...

kisses

[Guest i***k***]

I love writing recs! :)

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[buggernot 588]

I think another excuse for some new posters would be that if they only have a few posts to their credit, they fear being slammed as a shill.

 

I choose to be low-key myself and don't really see a lot of girls. And there have been a few times where I've had a good experience overall, but there were other extenuating factors where a rec wouldn't be appropriate. I've been with a couple of girls where the initial meeting was obviously very stressful for them and in spite of that, we made a connection from distinct commonalities between us. Now for me to think that only I would be able to get something positive out of them would be wrong but, in varying degrees, neither of them wanted to be an escort. I stayed as a client in both cases, but ultimately they were not looking to continue on as an escort publicly.

 

And another example is that one of them I had amazing sex with, and her orgasms were by far the sexiest thing I had ever seen. Now when I first started seeing her, I told her about CERB and the benefits of getting involved here and that if she was into it, I would write a review. She wasn't...just wanted to keep me and one other guy in her stable, that was enough for her financially. But I thought about how I would go over certain details if I did do a review so that I could be truthful and respectful.

 

She was very pretty, but didn't have the best body, and had lost 60lbs so there were stretch marks and some cellulite. That shit I didn't care about at all - perfect body and perfect skin is nice, but that's not the only ideal of beauty out there. So if I don't mention that in a review, there would likely be some guys disappointed if they saw her, but then again I don't want to talk about her as a thing to be judged out of respect to her. It wasn't as simple as saying she was a BBW because she was not. No matter how confident a girl is about how she looks, reading any commentary about having a "few extra folds" or that someone is focusing on your stretch marks is likely to be somewhat upsetting. And I didn't want to do that. Yeah, there's tactful ways of putting some things, but the point's the same though and will be dissected.

 

Fortunately, it wasn't a decision I had to make, but something else to consider when wondering why a review might not get written...

[Kubrickfan 12836]

Maybe its not more complicated than they simply didn't have a good time?

 

... or at least not a good enough time to justify an additional investment of time after the investment of money toward the visit to begin with. Also, bear in mind that its a bit tricky on cerb to pass along important information that may affect a possible customer's decision on whether to make an appointment without being possibly being accused of running afoul of the posting guidelines.

 

That being said, I always offer to write a recommendation when the situation merits one, I always ask the SP if its OK to post a recommendation and I will even edit the recommendation for the SP if they would like me too.

[Cumquat 494]

The excuses I got were ones from people who recommended the SPs and said they had an awesome time and I should see them, but then they gave excuses as to why they wouldn't write a reco. To me if you are going to that length to say you had an awesome time and recommend the SPs then that merits a reco.

 

I understand that it is tough to pass along the details of your visit and your thoughts on the SP because not everyone has the same tastes. You don't have to describe every single thing that happened and every single aspect of the SPs body. It is simple to just write a short recommendation that you had a great time, if you thought she was sexy you can say so, great services, non rushed, etc etc etc, Each person is going to form their own opinion on someone's looks based upon the pictures and the girls description of her self. If a girl has curves she is not going to lie and say she is a spinner, because the guys will see in her pics that she is not a spinner.

 

If you see the SP, you think she is sexy, you tell her so and you have an amazing time, but then you don't write a reco because she is not your normal body type; imagine what she is feeling. This is a very very very emotional occupation and the ladies put themselves out there every single day, and to not be recognized for the effort they put into the job can be very demoralizing. I know some will say why do I have to show any more appreciation than the payment and a tip, but this job also requires a lot of emotional strength in order for the ladies to continue doing it and a simple recommendation can do a lot to boost the attitudes of the ladies.

[kih 458]

If I have time which I usually do -- I'll write and share my experience for the majority of the ladies I frequent. However its not absolute. There are a few ladies that because of time constraints or circumstance, I did not share the experience even though it was positive.

[E.D. man 691]

I only write a reco if the lady has been exceptional. And her personality fits mine. I have written 4 recos and had to remove one do to personality conflict and did not feel comfortable recommending this person anymore.

Some have requested me to write a reco. But I was honest with them and told them they did not perform on that level. And I would not be calling back.

I have only had one sp ask me not to write a review, she would have never made there anyway.

These days it is hard to find a right fit even though I have 3 female sp's that fit me comfortably.

One from here one from quest and one from Mtl Sex is great :lol:8)

[E.D. man 691]

Ever since becoming a member I have noticed more and more hobbiests that do not write recommendations. I have heard numerous excuses as to why they don't write them, and I heard a new one today so it prompted me to post this to see what others think.

 

Excuses (in the order I have heard them):

 

Negative Reco:

This one I completely understand, if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything.

 

SP has a Do Not Review policy:

Also completely understandable, no reco should be written if the SP doesn't want one done.

 

I Don't Write Recos:

Somewhat understand that some people don't want to make it known that they are seeing SPs, but you are a member of an Escort Recommendation board, so most people here assume you are a hobbiest and seeing SPs. So write the reco to show the SP you had a good time and show your appreciation. (The other thing I find funny is some hobbiests that recommend an SP to me and say they had an awesome time but they don't write recommendations will then turn around and write one for another SP a week later.)

 

She's not my normal body type:

(e.g. I had an awesome time but I normally see spinners and she wasn't a spinner so I am not gonna write a reco.) Is there a law that says you can't see SPs with varying body types, hair color, eye color, etc.? Are you afraid other hobbiests are going to make fun of you if you didn't choose the head cheerleader as your SP? If you have a great time, let people know, and let her know. How do you think this makes an SP feel if you tell them you have a wonderful time and you repeat with them but you won't do a reco and yet you do them for other girls?

 

I don't want her to become too popular if people like my reco:

Crazy reason, if you don't write recos and she doesn't get business she won't be around for you to see.

 

I told an SP I love her, so I don't want her to know I see others:

She is probably is hesitant to believe you when you say you love her. I'm sure there are lots of hobbiests that tell SPs that they love them. I see the word throw around some as if it means nothing, so I'm sure SPs are very cautious to believe when the word is thrown out. They are going to be very careful and will know that you are still seeing other SPs whether you write a reco for them or not.

 

I don't have the time to write a reco:

It takes a whole 5 minutes to write a reco, you don't have to go into detail if you don't want to. It's easy to say you saw her and had a great time and show her you appreciated it. If you have the time to spend an hour or more with an SP, I'm sure you have the time to spend 5 minutes to write a reco.

 

The Latest one:

I can't write a reco because an SP I see will get mad if I write them for others:

This one threw me for a loop. Do SPs really get mad if one of their regulars writes a review for another SP? I'm pretty sure most SPs know that hobbiests will see more than one SP. Most hobbiests like variety. Yes there are those that choose a regular SP but they will still seek variety from time to time. Do the SPs that get mad give you worse service if you write a reco for another SP or do they stop seeing you? Is this the new way to catfight with other SPs without being open about it, just make sure your hobbiests only write recos for you?

 

 

I'm sure these are just a few of the excuses people have heard. Just thought it was an interesting topic and figured others might have more insight or more excuses to share.

 

 

Closing thought:

Show your appreciation to the SPs and write a reco, it only takes a few minutes, and they will really appreciate that you did.

MAYBE THEY HAD SUCH A GOOD TIME THEY WANT TO KEEP THEM FOR THEMSELVES!:evil::evil:

[spud271 47779]

I have written some recommendations on here, but not many. I don't usually like to get into detail about my encounters with the women I see as I find the time I spend with an SP is between us. Usually I just give a quick positive review and that's about it. I also see a couple of SP's who don't want to see more than a couple of clients as they only do this part-time, they would prefer not to have reviews done and I totally understand their point.

 

Now if someone I know sends me a PM and asks for a recommendation on an SP, then I would be more than happy to let them know a bit more detail.

[d*mm*y 887]

Every woman I have written about has received hate mail of one type or another associated with seeing me. Unless I think the lady is strong enough to take the hate for what it is I don't bother putting her (and me) through the process. Most of the ladies only know me from a few encounters so they, don't know who to believe and stop seeing me and I don't like that.

Things that have hurt me are the emails telling ladies that I am pimp and that I am only trying to recruit them (Ya that's why I give them $1000 cause I am a pimp) or that I have lots of diseases so they can't trust me (if that were true we know how rampant the "horrible diseases" would be arouind here I think have done 30% of the laides you do the math) or the forged chat log about me saying mean things about the ladies, anyone ever see me in chat being anything but fun and jovial? Love to know when I have time to wrtie all this bad stuff about the ladies. Or the peice de resistance, playing the diferent boards off against each other and saying I have said nasty things about them on another board?

 

That's my excuse, and frankly when I discuss it with the ladies some of them are getting a lot of hate mail as well and don't need the added visibility.

 

Please do not take this as a negative comment or jump on the slagging and bashing band wagon of me or the BS'ers. I am appealing to the community to come up with a way to deal with this BS. We have a warning section for bait and switch and bad dates. Perhaps we can develop some kind of warning system for BS emails that are circulating as well? I know that Mod has mentioned that if we recognize these people that it only encourages them. However there has to be something we can do to limit their success? Those of us who have been around know to ignore them, but how do we explain that to people that don't utilize the board but that we recommend and interact with.

 

I am in the process of developing my own ideas about how to combat this however it is going to persist.

[PistolPete 61421]

Good Morning everyone,

 

I'm Pete...I'm an sex addict:shock:...I love women, they are so generous to give their souls,their hearts,their time, and of course their love to us gentlemen.

 

I have done,completed numerous recommendations on lovely ladies that I've encountered over my time here.

 

Some ladies asked not to be reviewed, some said please do, while there has only been a few where I did not write a rec simply that there was no chemistry or simply put not a good date.

 

On the most part 99.9%, over my time I have shared my thoughts,feelings, my personal views of my closed door events with special ladies, while other's (hobbiest) have stated nothing.

 

I have also shared my personal views through pm's with well known hobbiest that have also shared their wealth of information.

 

Afterall that is what it is all about, sharing, giving and keeping these specials ladies busy so they can also enjoy their time and life with us lucky men.

 

I like to finish by thanking Cumquat for producing this thread, it is about time that something was said about this topic.

 

Pete, not your sex addict, but a man that loves ladies!

[Seymour 3970]

For the most part, I try to post shortly after the encounter. There have been some situations where I did not post right away but I do try to follow up within a few days. I've been fortunate that most of my experiences have been worthy of a positive recommendation and future visits.

 

Also, the style, level of detail about the encounter is always as per the lady's comfort level. I typically do not mention details like tattoos, piercings, stretch marks or anything so personal. Most always preface with YMMV.

 

Now I also have seen ladies while they were not officially working (not officially posting an ad) but still available to a few clients. In these cases, while I did have a great time, I did not post nor will I post unless the lady says it is OK to post.

 

If a lady is not advertising and recommendations start showing up people will get accused of shilling, showing favoritism and create drama. I don't need this. This also goes back to respecting privacy and being discrete.

[PistolPete 61421]

Every woman I have written about has received hate mail of one type or another associated with seeing me. Unless I think the lady is strong enough to take the hate for what it is I don't bother putting her (and me) through the process. Most of the ladies only know me from a few encounters so they, don't know who to believe and stop seeing me and I don't like that.

Things that have hurt me are the emails telling ladies that I am pimp and that I am only trying to recruit them (Ya that's why I give them $1000 cause I am a pimp) or that I have lots of diseases so they can't trust me (if that were true we know how rampant the "horrible diseases" would be arouind here I think have done 30% of the laides you do the math) or the forged chat log about me saying mean things about the ladies, anyone ever see me in chat being anything but fun and jovial? Love to know when I have time to wrtie all this bad stuff about the ladies. Or the peice de resistance, playing the diferent boards off against each other and saying I have said nasty things about them on another board?

 

That's my excuse, and frankly when I discuss it with the ladies some of them are getting a lot of hate mail as well and don't need the added visibility.

 

Please do not take this as a negative comment or jump on the slagging and bashing band wagon of me or the BS'ers. I am appealing to the community to come up with a way to deal with this BS. We have a warning section for bait and switch and bad dates. Perhaps we can develop some kind of warning system for BS emails that are circulating as well? I know that Mod has mentioned that if we recognize these people that it only encourages them. However there has to be something we can do to limit their success? Those of us who have been around know to ignore them, but how do we explain that to people that don't utilize the board but that we recommend and interact with.

 

I am in the process of developing my own ideas about how to combat this however it is going to persist.

 

 

Well said Dummpy,

 

I had also gone through the same BS where an SP started a smear campaign against myself and others here on CERB (BTW she has been booted off CERB).

 

It leaves a bitter taste in your mouth when we are attacked, but yet the recent ladies that I've visited are total sweethearts and really have enjoyed my time as I have.

 

At times I feel that I should say nothing, review no SP simply because their is always that animosity between hobbiest that very well could be a jealousy factor.

 

Rest assure, however things pan out in the next while, the individuals that try to stir the pot or give myself others a bad name through emails the SP's should have some kind of reporting system as Dummpy states.

[etasman2000 15994]

I lurked for several years before writing my first recommendation. It was really the fear of public writing akin to the fear for public speaking.

 

It took an incredibly wonderful SP who showed me what GFE really meant that got me started. I realize a recommendation would be the best lasting gift I could give her as I was just visiting her city.

 

Recommendations don't just benefit other hobbiest: by writing you relive the encounter obtaining an after pleasure, it helps subsequent encounters by informing SPs what you liked (unless you have muted reco like me :-|), and acts as a form of textual foreplay.

 

Not sure how to start ? See an SP :-D Find a reco you like and copy the structure. Fill in your details. Click "Submit".

 

Happy hobbying

[A***** A***** 510]

I think there are some people, that might just want to keep all the "goodies" to themselves, and yet others would like to let everyone know what a fantastic time they had. To each their own I guess. I would not be offended either way if they did write a rec on me or not.

[whatsup 11893]

I am appealing to the community to come up with a way to deal with this BS. We have a warning section for bait and switch and bad dates. Perhaps we can develop some kind of warning system for BS emails that are circulating as well? I know that Mod has mentioned that if we recognize these people that it only encourages them. However there has to be something we can do to limit their success? Those of us who have been around know to ignore them, but how do we explain that to people that don't utilize the board but that we recommend and interact with.

 

I am in the process of developing my own ideas about how to combat this however it is going to persist.

 

Just a thought Dummpy.

 

What about creating a Social Group here on Cerb that you could post the email addresses of the perpetrators for all to see. Basically it would become a database of perps.

 

Cerb nor it's members do not need slanderous individuals and whatever we can do to rectify the problem - Lets do it.

[buggernot 588]

I think in regards to dummpy's quagmire, there's not a whole lot that can be done period. If whoever it is that has taken it upon themselves to start a smear campaign knows a little bit about the internet, they can keep coming back here over and over again as someone else from another IP address no matter what measures are taken to try and prevent it.

 

Dummpy, for whatever reason, you have pissed somebody off or become a target for no other reason than you were just there to go after. That's bullshit that it's getting to the point where girls won't see you or are getting vindictive emails for seeing you as a client. What the fuck? You may have to go drastic and create a new identity for yourself on the board and only let those you trust in on who you are/were. It sucks for sure, but the girls have to recreate themselves sometimes, might be getting to the point where you do too.

[Sputy 128]

I think another excuse for some new posters would be that if they only have a few posts to their credit, they fear being slammed as a shill.

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So if I don't mention that in a review, there would likely be some guys disappointed if they saw her, but then again I don't want to talk about her as a thing to be judged out of respect to her.

 

Well said Buggernot, you are a wise man. I will admit that the reason I started posting on cerb was to get some ?street cred? (but now it?s just because it is great fun and there are some really smart and funny people on here) because I have a very positive recommendation to post for someone who is being much maligned on some of the ?less kind? boards, and who is being victimized by rumor mongering ? Winnipeg?s Mandalay. Although I definitely feel some of the ?I want to keep her all to myself? thing, I also care enough for her to try to help her along in her recently chosen career. I want for her to see it first so that she can read it in private. If she does not want me to post it, then it shall never become public. It is most definitely a positive recommendation, but like a critic who?s been assigned his real assignment, I kinda feel that I have to nit-pick a little, just to be credible and make sure that I don?t build expectations that are unrealistic. It is a difficult balance to strike.

 

 

I told an SP I love her, so I don't want her to know I see others:

 

 

That?s just not healthy for anyone. This is fantasy folks, enjoy it as such. Not that I don?t have my own issues ? I?m cheating on my wife by seeing an SP that I consider my girlfriend ? and after much introspection I?m ok with that. And yet I feel like I would be betraying my new girlfriend if I was to see another SP without her consent. How fuct up is that?! It?s gonna take a full 40 oz of scotch to analyze that one.

[mod 135639]

If any of the ladies receive one of these "WARNING" pm's please REPORT them so I can see who is doing this. I suspect someone is trying to cause problems for some of our members (Trying to cause problems for the site even) so let me know who is doing this.

 

I suspect if you look at the person making these claims they probably have little or no posts here but I could be wrong.

 

Whoever is sending out this hate mail and rumors is causing big problems here and I don't want to shut down the PM system here but it may come down to that if we do not get to the bottom of this.

[VedaSloan 119179]

I really like when clients post recs about me. It lets me know that I did a great job and it is always nice to read that virtual pat on the back. Or ass ;)

[d*mm*y 887]

I really like when clients post recs about me. It lets me know that I did a great job and it is always nice to read that virtual pat on the back. Or ass ;)

 

I really enjoy writing them and then you can go back and remember the event weeks or months later.

[Seymour 3970]

We are all newbies at something at some point in time. Please contribute. Do not try to keep these gals to yourself because that really does not make sense. They have their lives away from this work just like we have lives away from this hobby. No one can possibly justify "keeping her all to myself" - I think that would be marriage, which by the way, most of us are escaping in some fashion by visiting these ladies.

 

If the experience was worthy, take the time to give a little back and above all, everyone has feelings and emotions, be respectful. We're here for a good time, not a long time.

[MissAva 376]

We do appreciate you taking the time to let others know what you thought of your time with us...it really does make us feel special...until you write the next reveiw for your next sp...lmao....i'm so kidding...write boys thats what this board is all about...

kisses

 

Totally agree with you Emma!

[caveman 147]

We are all newbies at something at some point in time. Please contribute.

 

At the same time, the more experienced folks here shouldn't automatically jump on a newbie and call them a shill if they *do* post a reco as their first contribution. This didn't happen to me as a newb (I posted a few times before posting a recommendation), but I've seen it happen here several times over the last few months--a newbie posts some positive comments, and three or four of the more senior members (you know who you are!) are all over them about being a shill.

 

Maybe if we practice a little more "innocent until proven guilty" here, we'd encourage the newbs to contribute a little more readily... :-)