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derfla

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  1. I know this thread has been all talked out but I thought I would still throw in my 2 cents.

     

    For me at least there is no intimacy at all in being called by my name of convenience, my pseudonym. I would guess that most hobbyists who use pseudonyms don't really identify with those names--I certainly don't. On the other hand I think many sps may well internalize more their alter egos and really live out their pseudonyms. Hence they prefer to be called by those names. They are more individual, and specifically chosen, and not just a bunch of "John Does". In the throes of passion and intimacy I would far prefer to be called sweetie or hun or whatever than "John".

     

    After all don't GFs and BFs use pet names with each other? If I am after a GFE, shouldn't we be using pet names with one another? It is all part of the intimacy.

     

    Having said that, using such pet names in initial text messages and e-mails is another story entirely--no relationship yet exists--and one doesn't know if one is receiving a spam or a misdirected message or whatever. Here it is entirely correct to be polite and use names.

     

    For me though, the anticipation that comes from the shift that occurs when the messages move from using my name to being addressed by a pet name, is an integral part of the pleasure I take from the experience.

     

    Anyway, that's my two cents--

    "Al"

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