wellie

I agree with KF and Notch. All (or most) of the above would be my choice.

The new thread might get into trouble then.

Bums??? Redheads??? LOL

Katherine's new name is more majestic and serene. Congratulations to Katherine. Stevecurious is great as it is. Keep it AND keep your avatar.

An observation, here: AFAIK the STD risks with DATY are almost entirely on the giver's side (and someone please correct me if I'm wrong about that), but the risks with digits are all on the receiver's side. It's the receiver making the decision on whether they're OK with either or both of these, and there's no way I'm going to argue with whatever decision each individual chooses to make on this.

If your understanding that the risk of DATY is mostly on the giver's (men's) side is correct, the predominant response of ladies' being concerned about digits is understandable. It was mostly the ladies that replied and not the gents.

I am sorry for your loss, Samantha. Thanks for sharing a very moving story with us.

Now that the temperature in this thread has cooled down a bit, I would like to make an observation. Before I started the thread, I believed that the percentage of ladies who would permit DATY but nor digits would be about equal the that of ladies who would allow digits but not DATY. I was clearly wrong. The concerns expressed about digits were much more numerous than those about DATY. This is surprising, because there ARE health risks associated with DATY. There is no complete agreement about the precise level of risk of transmitting an STI through DATY but most experts suggest that there is some. This post is not about fear mongering, but about my surprise that readers were totally silent on the health risks of DATY.

A great post, Luxie. I am looking forward to many more of your posts.

The news of Cindy's retirement may have been premature, or the retirement short. I am glad Cindy may make a return.

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On the DATY vs digits thread, which was explicitly complained about: if that thread means that a single SP somewhere doesn't get her cervix bruised and her vagina scraped by an over-enthusiastic but ignorant client, I think it'll have been well worth it. Knowledge is good. The squeamish are free to look away. But really, it'd be nice if people would contemplate the consequences of ignorance before getting too offended by someone asking a well-meant question in one of the few places anywhere where they might get a sensible answer from a knowledgeable person.

 

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Thank you Phaedrus. I think all readers of CERB should note your point..

Dear Erin,

Is the second paragraph your opinion or castle's? I believe it is a direct quote from castle's post. I further believe the the OP castle is referring to is the OP of the "digits" thread, and that would be Wellie, who is a male.

If you agree with the second paragraph, I am very pleased.

All I have to say right now from this quote is I'm not a "he." I'm a "female" provider that expressed myself. I agree on many points but I am not a "he."

 

And as for certain topics being offensive, I agree some may be, but others which are being deemed as offensive, I think really are not...a good example is the Daty vs Digits thread. The OP just had an honest question, I don't think he views the women here as just a list of acronyms and services..it's just that, where else can he ask such a question and get an unbiased, non-judgmental female point of view from multiple sources?

The responses above are very informative. It would never occur to me to use a finger as a jackhammer or reach as far into the vagina as the cervix. My idea of digits is slow gentle stimulation around the clitoris, on the hood and along the labia. When lubrication is sufficientle availabe, move on gently to the tip of the clit. Take direction from the lady, as to speed and intensity of the stimulation, but always be gentle. I have never had objections from the lady.

I am assuming that men interested in digits would have very clean hands and trimmed nails.

Jafo recently started informative threads about "sensitive breasts" and "greek". Quite a few ladies gave their reasons why they liked certain activities but not others. Many readers of these threads found them interesting and revealing.

Here is another question: Why do some ladies allow Daty but not Digits, and vice versa?

the sensation was

I just clicked SinCindy's name and the parenthetical message (retired) came up. That is very sad. Even if she has retired from her service role, I hope she stays a member of CERB. Her posts were always refreshing and brought sunshine into the forum

entered the room

in the meantime

fondle her legs

I had labrador retrievers for a number of years. They are very loyal, smart, obedient, gentle with people, and sensible. No wonder they are used as the most common seeing eye dog.

Thanks Cato for letting us be your friend.

but caught himself

A great review Cato. My fantasy went into overdrive. I had all sort of thoughts of what I would do in that situation. Just one question, Cato. How did you handle all that arousal in the confinement of the CR?

throbbing mons venus

This is a very instructive thread, Jafo. I hope a lot of guys read and apply it.

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