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I think from now on I'll set my own alarm for about 10-15 minutes past my time just in case.

I think I can usually read the "time's up" clues. If I'm offered to wash up or the girl gets dressed or asks me "when will I see you again?" I assume that's saying that my time's up or almost up without her explicitly saying so.

I don't wanna be seen as the kind of client who is purposefully trying to extend his appointment as long as possible.

I'm still relatively new at this and I'll start by saying that I never purposefully stayed over the time unless I was explicitly told to stay ("you can stay longer if you like" - "would you like to grab a bite to eat" or something similar). Even then, I never assume it's a free pass for me to stay longer than the agreed upon allotted time on every visit.

But there has been some instances where we don't realize that time's up until an hour or so after it's been up (I book longer appointments, as an hour or less seem far too short). When that happens I feel bad and I leave a tip which I would do anyways and I apologize for going over, and then I'm assured that it's no problem. That doesn't stop me from feeling kinda bad as I never want to impose myself or overstay my welcome.

So my question is this. Should I feel bad? Do I bare any responsibility for going over? Or is it all on the SP to manage her own time?

I agree about the importance of the goodbye hug and/or kiss. It's the last thing you remember about the encounter and something you carry with you for the rest of the day if not longer.

Yeah this is in regards to an encounter with a professional. I made sure she's into the idea before making any plans and arrangements. :icon_wink:

The business part is already pretty much taken care of, now I just want to make this as fun for me and the lady as possible.

Thanks for the replies!

Though I guess I should've been more specific, cause my question was more about mood setting rather than what activities take place in the hot tub cause I agree with the comments saying to go with the natural flow of things.

I was thinking of stuff more along the lines of wine and music to set up a nice and pleasant setting.

I was wondering if anyone here had any fun ideas that utilize a hot tub for two. Thanks!

I just realized how my last question may come off, and I apologize for that.

The reasoning behind my question is cause one of the girls I've seen told me she doesn't like french kissing but is able to tolerate it (regular kissing though she enjoys) and when I asked her why offer it she said it's cause she finds that it's expected in a gfe experience and she also likes to please so she doesn't hate it. So I was wondering if other girls had things like that.

I don't mean to hijack this thread, but another question came to mind.

If there's something you offer as stated on your ads and/or website does it necessarily mean that you like to offer that service? Or does it only mean that you're able to tolerate it? If it's the later, why offer something you don't particularly like doing?

Great thread!

Here's a few questions of my own.

1) As someone who started about 6 months ago I would like to ask: How do I become the ideal kind of client? Keeping in mind that I always arrive freshly showered and clean shaved. I bring a small gift with me, tip afterwards and stay within the girl's boundaries and even left a glowing review. I also pre-book my next appointment as I'm leaving the appointment and never had to reschedule or cancel (knocking on wood :p) So, how can I even better the experience of the girl I'm seeing? What else should I be looking into doing?

2) Do you generally like regulars more or new clients?

3) What's your definition of a regular client? (once a month? a couple of times a year? once a week? etc)

4) When it comes to booking times, what range do you prefer? (half an hour, 1 hour, 2 hours, overnight etc)

5) What's your opinion on a client contacting you to wish you a happy birthday, or merry Christmas or something of that sort?

6) Separate but related to the last point. How do you feel about a client sending you a brief thank you note after the appointment?

7) If you contact a client between bookings, is that an open invitation to keep in touch between appointments?

Thanks in advance! Sorry if that's too many questions!

I have my own bread maker and I love it. The bread I make for myself is cheaper than store bought bread and doesn't contain any preservatives.

For me the most important aspect is chemistry, which is admittedly untangible and you can't really tell what it'll be like till after you meet in person and that's chemistry is what makes me repeat repeatedly with my SP.

Of course, attitude is a big part of chemistry since it would be hard, if not impossible, to develop chemistry with someone with a poor attitude.

I was actually looking for something like this after checking out this blog.

http://peachyval.com/blog.html

I thoroughly enjoyed it.

"Smile, though your heart is aching

Smile, even though it's breaking

When there are clouds in the sky

You'll get by...

If you smile

With your fear and sorrow

Smile and maybe tomorrow

You'll find that life is still worthwhile

If you just...

Light up your face with gladness

Hide every trace of sadness

Although a tear may be ever so near

That's the time you must keep on trying

Smile, what's the use of crying

You'll find that life is still worthwhile

If you just...

Smile, though your heart is aching

Smile, even though it's breaking

When there are clouds in the sky

You'll get by...

If you smile

Through your fear and sorrow

Smile and maybe tomorrow

You'll find that life is still worthwhile

If you just smile...

That's the time you must keep on trying

Smile, what's the use of crying

You'll find that life is still worthwhile

If you just smile"

Coffee - I have a preference for medium roasts but I'll drink light and dark roasts as well. I usually put just enough milk that the color starts changing, no sweetener. I can drink my coffee black.

Tea - I usually drink green or white tea. Sometimes I'll add milk and honey to be my tea but usually I don't add anything.

I think it's definitely possible to be friends. Like SPs, attorneys charge for their time and I'm friends with an SP and my attorney.

I think some of the posts here are not taking into consideration that there's different levels of friendships. I'm not talking about true friendship vs real friendship. But a friendship scale that starts off as a little over the level acquaintances, and highest level being best friends.

I can't speak for others but I can say that my relationship in both cases is over that of an acquaintance but wouldn't classify either as my best friend though I value their friendship all the same.

I think as long as both parties know where the business-friendship time boundary begins and ends and nobody is taking advantage of the other person then a true friendship can truly blossom.

I've shared things about my personal life with my SP that I don't normally share with people and vice versa. Was that fake? I don't think so. Neither of us was under any obligation to share those things but there was mutual trust that made us feel comfortable enough to share.

I hope this long post makes sense.

I met my current established duo partner through a suggestion by a gentleman who had seen us both.

 

He had seen us each on our own, so he knew what we were like, and he asked us each individually. She and I were open to it, met for a coffee, and the rest is history.

 

I have received an occasional request from a prospective client, who I have never met, to offer a duo with a lady I have also never met. I decline.

 

There is no harm in asking a lady, as of course each lady has her own opinions. But I would recommend knowing each lady first... a duo is the best when there is a comfort level there, coming in not knowing the other parties can be, awkward.

Thanks for that story, I enjoyed it a lot.

I've fully decided to get to know another lady first before setting up the duo. Which'll mean my dream of having a duo will take longer to reach fruition :p but should be worth it in the end if at least both ladies know me even if they don't know each other.

Thanks for the replies.

I understand why established duo partners would be ideal, which is why asked my SP if she had an established partner. There is more of a guarantee that they would have chemistry which would result in likely better time for me.

Given my SP's situation sounds like my best option is to see another SP and then ask if she's cool with it too and hope the two end up having chemistry when they meet. At least in this scenario I know I have chemistry with both of them individually. Basically only one variable left in the air. Do the two girls have chemistry or not.

Contacting someone who I haven't met and my SP haven't met would leave even more variables up to fate.

I apologize if there is a thread on this already, but search failed me.

What do I need to know when setting up a duo experience for myself? More specifically, I've asked the SP that I've been seeing and she agreed. She doesn't have regular duo partners and basically said as long as I pick a reputable SP she's ok with it.

How do I approach other SPs about this? Is it better if I meet up with the other SP before hand? Looking ahead, how do I approach the appointment itself when the time comes? And is it better to do this at one of their incalls or should I get a hotel for this encounter? Any specific duo etiquette I should keep in mind before, during, and after the encounter?

My first experience was only a few months ago so I remember it very well.

I was extremely nervous and did research for about a month, deciding back and forth over and over whether to go through with it or not. Eventually I narrowed down my choices and contacted my first choice and she agreed to see me. I booked a longer session with her knowing that I'd be nervous and so that I don't feel like I am in a rush.

When I saw her she was extremely personable, laid back, and easy going. I thoroughly enjoyed every second spent with her from the moment I walked through her door to the moment I left.

As a matter of fact - I enjoyed the experience so much that I haven't branched out, but I went back to see her a few times already and have an upcoming appointment with her that I am very much looking forward to. I got really lucky to find someone like her on my first try, and don't wanna risk seeing someone else only to have a bad experience. Besides every booking has been even more enjoyable than the last. That's not to say I won't branch out in the future though.