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    On 12/19/2023 at 8:17 AM, monogamishfun said:

    As a customer, it's all about letting the provider taking the lead when it comes to the conversation - and to know going in where your own personal boundaries are.

    For me, one of the reasons I hobby instead of entering the dating world for my non-monogamous encounters is that I don't want to create emotional bonds that conflict with my marriage.

    That all being said... I'd be lying if I said I wasn't curious about the lives and backstories of some of my favourite SPs! 🙃

    It's definitely more than okay to be curious! You can ask away. I don't feel as though seeing your SP as a person creates the illusion of a relationship. In my experience anyone who's crossed boundaries has LACKED empathy and seeing me as a person. They may ask questions, but it's only to get a confirmation bias to their already held beliefs. Example: I had a client ask me "do you have a hard time dating?" I answered honestly, "No, I find my dominatrix roommate has a harder time," and he burst into tears wailing that he 'didn't want to hear of my boyfriend creampieing me before appointments'. It took me a very long pause to understand what the actual fuck he was talking about before I could even address it. But the way he jumped to such insane, emotional conclusions can illustrate clearly that his fear was that I had a boyfriend, but his hope was that I have a very, very difficult time dating. 

    Genuine curiosity isn't going to get you into trouble but make sure that you're not holding some deep seeded hope that you're the one she's going to find true love with. As I said above, if you find yourself lacking the empathy to understand that most women don't get into escorting to have a traditional life, then you're likely too far gone already. You have to be really honest with yourself, and that's hard for a lot of people.

     

    And this rant is by no means directed at monogamishfun just an extension of the idea that communicating isn't going to get you in hot water, lmao. 

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    For me I just treat clients like good friends and often remind them of the negative repercussions of dating me, lmao. If they really can't keep it together, like once I had a client stealth me because he saw my OF vids not using condoms, then I block them and I'm sure they understand why. I think to fall too deep into the rabbit hole, like the client I just mentioned did, you really have to lack empathy and that would of course be the initial issue to address with yourself. 

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