Asking SPs about testing

[SincereSerenade 15]

Genuine question here.

Health is obviously really important and I found out, whenever/if I ask a SP whether they've been tested recently, they find it offensive and block me! How do you ensure that they're taking care of themselves and you're not putting yourself at risk by seeing them? Obviously there is always a certain level of risk involved, even with someone you're dating, but it's a conversation that I always have with new partners.

There are some basic things to consider such as using protection and making sure they don't provide any unsafe services, but beyond that, is there anything else? Should we trust that they pay enough attention to this aspect?

[Donnyboy 0]

I noticed some (although very few) ladies explicitly describe in their posts that they are tested regularly and willing to provide proof of their last results. I would aim for those, but keep in mind they usually ask for yours as well so come with your results too.

[Pamela Luscious 129]

I understand that health is a valid concern, but asking a provider if they’re “clean” is inappropriate and shows a lack of self-accountability. Anyone can lie, which is why you are responsible for your own health. Practice safe sex, get tested every 3 months, and follow proper timelines after potential exposure:

 

• Gonorrhea & Chlamydia – test after 2 weeks

• HIV & Syphilis – test again at 3 months (to account for full incubation periods)

 

Most well-established providers already take their health seriously. it’s part of our professionalism. You can usually tell by reading their ads, websites, and how they conduct themselves. Use judgment, do your screening, and if you don’t feel safe, don’t book.

 

We shouldn’t have to defend our integrity or prove ourselves to strangers who don’t trust us in the first place.

 

If you feel the need to interrogate someone, they’re probably not the right provider for you. Choose someone whose professionalism speaks for itself.

 

But please stop asking providers to “prove” their cleanliness, it’s rude, mistrustful, and unnecessary if you’re choosing quality, vetted companions.

[MsManda 25756]

I'll also add that often after asking for my testing results/proof, especially if the person comes with theirs, I'm usually then asked if I provide bare services, because why wouldn't we, now that we're both presumed safe? 🙄😭

 

Like Pamela said, anyone can lie, things can be faked, and we're all responsible for our own health and safety at the end of the day 🤷

 

I ignore anyone opening this can of worms though