VedaSloan 119179 Report post Posted March 10, 2009 I'm working on a presentation for Thursday and I am trying to represent the diversity of experience within the sex industry, and in terms of arousal and attraction, if there are any male escorts, or T girls on the boards, perhaps they can answer my question. If you have a client who are absolutely not attracted to, can you still achieve an erection? If you cannot, do you use any drugs (viagra, cialis) to help you achieve an erection? My feeling, from the few guys I've spoken to thus far, is that for men, their arousal is very much tied to their attraction. Whereas, for me, at least, my parts can work independent of my brain. I can be not attracted, but if you are stimulating me, I will still get turned on, I will still get wet, etc. My arousal is not directly tied to how attracted I am to a person. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
antlerman 17064 Report post Posted March 10, 2009 Even though I have not met you Erin...I feel so used....but I love it...hehehehe Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bylogger 136 Report post Posted March 10, 2009 This sounds very much like an "individual differences" type of question, as opposed to men versus women. I've never needed drugs to achieve an erection. But I do need the personal connection, an emotional tie-in with my partner to ejaculate. Otherwise my poor partner is stuck with an erection that won't go away. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PistolPete 61421 Report post Posted March 10, 2009 There has been times where there was no attraction and also no chemistry, but rather then making the worse of the situation, mind over matter,and you both get it on by great stimulation,the result is the same, wet for her,and explosion for moi:shock: Those were times years back, by not doing correct searches, but today here on CERB,and EC.. I would say my batting average is a thousand...so thanks ladies for allowing me achieve my explosion. May your encounters always be wet, and addictive:smile: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest i***k*** Report post Posted March 10, 2009 I definitely have different reactions to different women. If I'm not attracted there isn't much she's going to be able to do to make it "happen" :) and this isn't limited to physical looks either. I suppose medication could help overcome it but why bother, mind you I'm not an SP so I don't "have to" perform lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VedaSloan 119179 Report post Posted March 11, 2009 This sounds very much like an "individual differences" type of question, as opposed to men versus women. I've never needed drugs to achieve an erection. But I do need the personal connection, an emotional tie-in with my partner to ejaculate. Otherwise my poor partner is stuck with an erection that won't go away. Well I was thinking more from an escorting point of view. For those guys who would need to get it up. I spoke to a friend today who is a gay male escort and he said he can usually tell based on how a guy writes to him whether he is a top/bottom/versatile. If he doesn't think that he would be a good fit (ie, he doesn't think he could get it up for the guy) then he'll say that he doesn't think they'd be a good fit and recommend a friend who might suit the client better. But your attraction does have an affect on your ability to get it up. If you aren't attracted, you have to use other means, like mags, or cock rings or a really good imagination. Whereas, I don't need any of that. I can makeout with any guy, and get wet, regardless of how I feel about them. I was just curious to hear about the biz from a males point of view, since male escorting is a completely different world. In terms of gay male interactions, there may not even be any penetration depending on the clients preference and whether they are a top/bottom/versatile. Whereas, on the whole, (hahaha) there is always penetration for me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
spud271 47779 Report post Posted March 11, 2009 I personally have never needed to use any drugs to get or keep an erection. I can go for hours without any issues whatsoever. Just lucky I guess. :D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rickoshadows 937 Report post Posted March 11, 2009 I personally have never needed to use any drugs to get or keep an erection. I can go for hours without any issues whatsoever. Just lucky I guess. :D I remember those days too, and I could do it again and again as well. Now for the bad news, it doesn't get any better than it is right now:lol: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
A***** A***** 510 Report post Posted March 11, 2009 I definitely have different reactions to different women. If I'm not attracted there isn't much she's going to be able to do to make it "happen" :) and this isn't limited to physical looks either. I suppose medication could help overcome it but why bother, mind you I'm not an SP so I don't "have to" perform lol I am the same way, and I am an SP, so go figure.... ( at myself :roll:) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
