A Newbies Journey: Observations so far.

mister_crufty · January 25, 2013

I expect that there are lots of you out there lurking, looking at ads, reading reviews, trying to screw up the courage to try this out. I'd like to share a few things I've learned and noticed so far. Perhaps some of you might decide to jump in. Much as I'd love to keep all the ladies for myself, unless I win the lottery I don't think I can bankroll the whole city. A lot of this is common sense and has been written about before but it never hurts for people to hear it again.

I'm not really sure what I expected from all this. So far it seems like any assumptions I might have had have been wrong. I never expected this level of friendliness and acceptance. This place almost feels like family, like home.

I watch TV. Prostitute, ------, whore, call-girl, escort, courtesan. Labels that get thrown around like darts, sticking into their targets. What do they mean? What's the image in your head? What expectations are you carrying?

Understand this if nothing else. They are just women. Very real women with families and friends and lives and thoughts and hopes and dreams. You can understand that in your head but until you have the experience of meeting one of these beautiful service providers, getting to know them a bit, it's hard to get past whatever images may have been put into your mind.

This is the true essence of YMMV. You can't escape it. No matter how professional a lady is, no matter how much pride she takes in her job and the quality of service, she's a human being. If you hurt her feelings, make her feel badly, treat her poorly, there is no way that she be her best with you. If you smell bad or look dirty, or haven't shaved, it's not going to be as pleasant for her so it won't be as pleasant for you. So be your best. Your best might not be that great...we're men. Maybe not as young as we used to be. Maybe not as successful with the 'real life' ladies as we'd like. But do your best to try to be the type of guy that you think a lady would like and I believe it will be appreciated.

We all have different goals and expectations of what an encounter will hold for us. Communication is key. You are not a unique butterfly. Chances are she's heard the request before. She's not going to think poorly of you. She might say no but that's okay. It's not personal, it's just not the right match. She might even be able to recommend someone if you're not a douche about it. I've missed out on some experiences because I was too shy to discuss it up front. Just like not being the rude guy, don't be the shy guy either.

On a more personal rather than general level, a few things surprised me in all this. I kind of expected that I might feel a bit weird thinking this lady has been with so many men but I find it doesn't bother me at all. I do prefer independents for their lower volume (I think agencies might work their girls too hard?) but not for the reasons you think. I find I really want to please them and I think that if they were too busy, they might not find as much pleasure in our encounter.

I'm kind of a conservative guy and I thought I might feel sorry for them or look down on their lifestyle. If anything, the opposite it true. I think it's a wonderful way to make a living. It has it's challenges obviously and isn't for everyone but I think it's marvelous what these ladies do.

I feel like I would be proud to have any one of them as a friend in real life and don't see any stigma attached to their profession at all. To be honest, I think I could easily fall in love with any number of the ladies I have met and I would be proud of their job and thrilled to walk down the street with them. Maybe it's just my own hang-ups from my up-bringing but I kind of expected this to be a little sad and pathetic so it's surprising to me that I feel the exact opposite. These women are amazing.

Go forth and prosper my friends.