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  4. Posted

    I must confess to not having paid too much attention to this issue, but I don't see the thread being closed as really having much to do with the question of whether it was about the "best" SP in Winnipeg. I also don't see it as being about political correctness.

     

    It seems to me it had to do with the tenor of the posts, which were becoming rather rude and disrespectful. Essentially, a fight was developing, and the MOD decided to shut it down. Correct decision in my opinion. The fact that the OP, who was the primary bad actor in terms of disrespectful discourse, has been suspended would seem to confirm that.

     

    I knew why the thread was closed, the point of this thread was why the comments (respectful comments btw) were made in the first place. I was wondering why some members chose not to participate in the thread but to question whether or not the topic should even be broached.

     

    I think I am reading the responses correctly and the reason those who chose to comment did so was because they felt that asking who the "best" SP is, is not an appropriate question.

  5. Posted

    Because saying "X is the best SP" is not the same as saying "X is my favourite", and neither of those is the same as "X is very good and I recommend her".

    The last of those... a simple recommendation is uncontroversial. It says something positive about the person who's recommended, and nothing at all about anything else.

     

    But both of the first two are making judgements... they're judging that not only is X good, but that everyone else is inferior - and that's what annoys people. At least someone announcing their particular favourite is implicitly acknowledging that this is their subjective judgement, and the potential consequences of implicitly putting down everyone else are theirs to bear.

     

    But announcing that "X is the best"... I see at least three problems with that. First, as with a personal preference, it puts down everyone else. Second, it assumes that there is some objective definition of "best", which I think is an assumption that most of us would question. And thirdly, it's arrogant in its assumption that any one person actually knows the objective definition of "best". Any of these might annoy some people; the combination of all three pretty much guarantees that you're going to annoy a lot of people.

     

    On other questions that get asked... people asking for specific recommendations/suggestions on who to see are often (not always, but often) looking for something quite specific. People are asking for an ethnicity, or a particular service, or in a particular location (or some combination of those) The request being made quite often naturally excludes most of the people here, and most of the SPs who do fit the requirements will often be suggested (at least, that's been my experience of threads like this where I've actually had a good idea of what the possible answers actually --are--). But yes, sometimes we get much more general questions (like "looking for a SP in Ottawa", for example), and when things like that come in the collective answer is often a far more general one ("go read the reco section and the ads") than suggestions for particular people.

     

    Well I was going to address your post point by point but I'll just address it generally.

    I just think way to much was made about a word, best. I started this thread for a reason and now I'm glad I did because now I understand the real genesis of the issue.

     

    From previous posts there is an aversion here to using the word best, there seems to be a history with using the word as well.

     

    I think Kubirckfan and bewlayb made great points, people shouldn't get too upset about using the word best. IMO best=fav because it's an opinion, if you disagree then we have a disagreement, no need to go back and forth I've stated my point of view and you've stated yours.

     

    It also seems the men of the board are more concerned than the ladies are about this. Maybe some guys feel the need to be protective but I have no doubt that the ladies here on CERB can fend for themselves. There's another thread here talking about jealousy between the ladies and generally speaking most have no issues because they are confident in who they are and the services they provide. I'm sure if I stated who my best/fav SP was they wouldn't be hurt. They know there's a lot of their clients who would pick them, they show their fav/best SP that by being a regular.

     

    Btw I appreciate all the feedback, whether we agree or not.

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    First, I truly believe the intent of the thread was positive.

    But here lies the difference.

    When you post a recommendation, you are posting why an encounter you had with a certain lady was enjoyable.

    It is so to speak, a snapshot in time, when you were with a specific lady. A recommendation doesn't compare one lady against all others. It is just about the encounter you had with a specific lady.

    In the case when you answer a question, "can you recommend a____" (fill in the blank)

    you can answer based on your experience. For instance, if the question was can you recommend a spinner, you can answer by providing names of all spinners you have seen and had good encounters with. Also, quite often, when those questions are asked, the poster will say you can PM me.

    But asking who the very best lady is you saw. Well if one lady is the best, by inference it can be taken to mean by the other ladies they were worse. Even though their names not mentioned, those ladies will feel offended by not being named in this list. I'm not a ladies man, no Romeo, not great with lines. But this much I do know about women. What lady doesn't like to be complimented and flattered.

    And how uncomplimentary and unflatteirng it must be to not be included on a client's "who's the best" list. Even if not public, the ladies not listed may be offended and hurt.

    Like I said, I truly believe the thread was started with the best of intentions

    but would imho cause hurt for many unnamed ladies

    My take on the subject

    RG

     

    Well RG I see what you're saying and I will agree to disagree.

     

    Although I think too much was made about the title I respect the fact that each of us can read the same thing and take away different things.

     

    I think OutForFun made a great point about BEST=FAV since best is subjective. As an aside best bj/dt threads always annoy me :)

     

    Well ok, I think I know what triggered the responses, obviously a better response from the OP could changed things but I think he got defensive after starting what he thought would be an interesting thread.

  10. Posted

    Lowdark I agree with everything you said, well almost :) I understand why the thread was closed, I understand that innocent threads can sometimes go off the rails. I don't want this to be an extension of that thread. I'm truly trying to understand why recommending a SP is ok but saying she's your favorite is not ok. I could understand if it was asked in a disrespectful way but in this case it wasn't. At the risk of sounding corny, I'm really trying to learn something here.

  11. Posted

    I need some help, I followed a thread here for a couple of days, it was closed today and it made me angry. The thread started with a VERY positive post with praise and appreciation of the ladies of CERB and it turned very nasty and I don't know how it came to what it did.

     

    I'm not looking to rehash the thread, I understand that it got nasty but what I don't get is why this thread elicited comments from members that other similar threads have not.

     

    Just so you know where I'm coming from, there are a multitude of posts here asking for recommendations.

     

    - Can someone recommend an Asian girl in Ottawa?

     

    No problem.

     

    - Can someone recommend a BBW in Toronto?

     

    No problem

     

    - Looking for suggestions for a Duo.

     

    No problem.

     

    - I love and appreciate all the ladies here on CERB, <sp name> is my favorite, who's yours? Should be a fun thread!

     

    Big Problem!

     

    For those who haven't read the thread - http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=107411

     

    What I don't understand is why singling out a girl for a recommendation is that different than saying who your favorite is. If you don't want to say who your favorite(s) is I understand, but I don't understand why you would post on the thread. How much different is it than recommending a particular lady of an ethnic group? How do other ladies of that ethnic group feel when you don't recommend them? Or recommending providers of a particular service or whatever, if you give the names of 1 or 2 ladies then there are countless others who are left out.

     

    So I'm just wondering why those who responded by saying that it wasn't an appropriate question (and that specific word, appropriate, was not used but clearly implied) think singling out a lady is ok, sometimes. Why did all the previous inquires go unchallenged and this one didn't.

     

     

    Just a couple more random comments about the thread.

     

    There was some talk of freedom of speech in the thread, CERB is not a democracy, words are censored, people are censored, the MOD(s) decides what can and cannot be said here on CERB and who can and cannot be a member. That doesn't mean people shouldn't enter discussions, just an observation.

     

    If you look at the comments on the 2nd post of the thread the OP is called a douchebag, really?, you read the OP and thought douchebag?

     

     

    So, again, the posts got nasty which is why the thread got closed, I get that. The OP got defensive which imo is understandable because reading his first post clearly he had good intentions, he could have responded MUCH better in subsequent posts but many senior members stoked the fire as well and I also feel he was ganged up on.

     

    In the end I'm not looking for an argument, I'm just curious how the 2 scenarios I've written about are THAT different. Whether you recommend a lady or say a lady is your favorite you are excluding every other SP.

     

    Ok that's it, no matter what I got it off my chest :)

  13. Posted

    I wanna thank everyone for there feedback it is appreciated I know in my heart it is only a fantasy but if I had the chance I would happily marry this woman and dedicate every day of the rest of my life to making her the happiest woman alive.

     

    Take a break and see someone else, you sound a little too smitten.

  14. Posted

    There's one thing that is really bugging me about the season premiere, though. There's just no way you can kill yourself like that with a sword. Masuka mentioned hari kari, but in that case samurai would stab themselves in the gut (where it's softer and you have a better angle). You cannot get a sword through your sternum. To do that he would have had to have fallen on his sword (if you've heard the term fall on your sword - that's what it means. It's suicide, not clumbsiness, lol). Lying down and impaling yourself --while on fire!!-- is just not going to work. But everyone bought it right away.

    Those are the really sloppy things about Dexter that get on my nerves. I love a lot of the subtle things they do and I love the characters but I find that they ask us to suspend belief a little too much on things like how Dexter gets away with his kills.

     

    I agree the whole suicide thing was a stretch and very few questions were asked, normally there is a lot more back and forth with the characters about a murder/suicide scene. I did find a lot of things about the first episode pushed the boundaries of how much they expect us to overlook. At least they saved a little face, imo, when Deb came back at Dexter with the clothes he was wearing and some of the things he said at the crime scene.

    I mentioned in a previous posts that some series go off the rails when the know the series is coming to an end, I hope Dexter doesn't push it any more than they did in the season opener.

  16. Posted

    Yeah I made sure to avoid this thread like the plague until I watched it lol

     

    me too.

     

    I have debated whether or not to read the books. I don' think I will, I've seen every season of Dexter so I can't see the books being entertaining.

     

    I'm not sure what OutForFun meant when he said I won't miss LaGuerta, I don't see why her character would leave the show, and if she did I would miss her, she's hot :).

  17. Posted

    I don't mean any disrespect canfit but I think you're worrying way too much about this. As previously stated unless you're into child porn or some other illegal venture there's basically nothing to worry about.

     

    If someone finds porn on your computer they might go rub one out in the bathroom but other than that I'm sure you don't have anything on your computer they haven't seen before.

     

    I know you're worried about what is on your computer that you don't know about but like you said, clear your cache and history and if you have any folders store them on a memory stick and delete the folders.

     

    Again, no disrespect intended.

  18. Posted

    And poor Deb. She just can't fall in love with a guy without him getting killed or turning out to be a serial killer. She has no luck at all.

     

    That is so true and funny in a weird way, but I love Deb she is my favorite character.

     

    Like others I thought it could be a dream sequence too, look what Dallas has done to us all. There just seemed to be way too much revealed in the very first episode so obviously there are some twists and turns in store for us.

     

    Just a personal observation but in previous seasons the suspense seemed to build throughout the season and this season started so dramatically I hope it doesn't disappoint me. Sometimes when series are winding down they can get a little weird.

     

    Like MG mentioned LaGuerta adds another storyline, although I found her interest in that one piece of evidence a little strange I'll let it go so I can enjoy the show :)

  21. Posted

    I would only add one thing to what BRM said, and I'm no expert. But any emails between you and a SP should be deleted if you take the computer into a shop or have someone look at it.

     

    I don't know of any email programs that are not password protected but there may be some. As long as you make sure you don't automatically log in to your email program when it is opened I think you would be ok.

     

    If you're worried about the place hacking in to your personal email don't take your computer there.

  23. Posted

    I don't want to hijack the thread, or imply anything. True story, a guy's wife (the guy being a well known radio personality) took his computer in for repairs, the people repairing his computer got to poking around and found child pornography on his computer. He ended up spending some time in jail, forget what the actual sentence was, when he got out he had to leave the area of course.

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