JennDDD

Yes, Happy Canada Day! As an Aboriginal woman might I also say, You are Welcome! :0)

Hope the women of CERB are loving life today in all it's good and bad glory.

Not Nude Not dressed, skydive me stressed!

Would you have sex with someone's foot? (or use your foot for sex if a male)?

#lamequestionjenn

Yes as long as they wiped.

Would you tell your partner if they didn't make you come? (if male would you like to be told?)

I am an old fashioned gal and use the The Pearl Rabbit, but really any old shoulder massager will do for a quickie, just when I need to get off to get to sleep!

how do you make the little smiley face icon comments? :) thanks!

To prove your point about the mind body connection, how many woman are out reading "Shades of Gray" right now. their minds turn them on long before anyone has touched them.

i think the most important thing in mind body connection is respect; without respect we have nothing and with it, let the fun begin!

I've been sitting here, reading some of the thought provoking threads regarding ettiquete, whether it be from an initial email, pm, initial meet and greet or an encounter.

 

And one thing continually strikes me. In this service regarding intimacy, why is it some dont recognise the mind body connection?

 

From the very first it begins with nothing more than a thought. Who is she? What does she look like? Will I find a gratifying experience?

 

The excitment in a reply, the nervousness that comes with an initial encounter. Us ladies are no different.

 

Our (my) hope is to seduce, enchant, charm, tease, entice and please you, not only your body but your mind as well.

 

It shows. In the surroundings, the preparation, from the scent I'm wearing to the lingerie I've chosen.

 

All to engage your senses. Sight, smell, sound, and then comes in the ability to have a thought provoking conversation.

 

Now touch, once again, only a thought to begin with, I want to touch (her/him) here, or there. Ect you get the drift...lol

 

I see no rush to reduce the pleasure that can be brought in an encounter from not taking the time to think about what will bring more pleasure.

 

Even "that feels so good", is the mind only enhancing that pleasure.

 

I may not kiss you during an encounter, but it wont stop me from hovering my mouth a half inch from yours asking you only to think about how much you want to....

 

We often want most what we cant have! lol

 

Our minds are the biggest sex organ in our body. Why not utilize it to its fullest potential?

 

Just my two cents :)

Thanks, very sweet and helpful! I will update my profile this weekend to be more clear, thanks, I appreciate that advice! :

Cheers.

Of course you are, but so are the rest of us.

Welcome to Pervy Woman Central, a.k.a. Cerb.ca

Enter, stay a while, some of us live here.

Seriously though....

 

 

You may not be the Cerb status quo, Jenn,

but you are a most wonderful addition.

As Porthos stated, a trail blazer. Kudos!

Now I prefer Outties as opposed to Innies, no offence, that's just me, lol.

However, there are many SPs here who love to see ladies or couples as clients.

You are already doing everything right. In this section, asking questions, receptive to feedback,

honestly expressing concerns.

A wonderful start.

A couple of ideas on how you might reduce this, by no means a criticism,

just observations from an SP viewpoint.

On your profile, it says I am a w4w.

Maybe you could put in along the lines of

Bi-Lady Hobbyist or Female Client, something like that.

You could tweak your board handle, too.

At first glance, theDDD part seems like advertising your cup size since a few SPs do exactly that.

Of course it could also mean you are a fan of

Diners, Drive-Ins & Dives,

but men won't assume that! LOL.

As for the guy asking to share an SP, (seriously dude?) I share

Angela's opinion, as it comes from first hand experience.

 

 

Lol, wanna bet?

If you followed one of us just one day in our lives,

rest assured, you would see things very differently!

You are a respectful guy, sadly not all are.

You would be stunned at the amount of men who come to an escort board,

looking to hire on as our photographer,

driver, security, incall, be our boyfriend,

all of which is code for " it'll be free then right? "

And of course the one used so often I weep for the future is

" I'm really hot, do I still have to pay? "

No exaggeration.

 

Jenn, you have no idea.

At one time or another we have all heard variations of:

" can I try you out first;

what do you mean I have to pay you both;

if you're already here can my friend take a turn too;

I don't want sex, just a BJ;

do you have student discounts;

my rent's due, can you cut me a deal;

I'm on a budget/pension/unemployment;

I know your ad says 250, but I'm over my ATM

limit & can only get 80....cool? "

And I swear, every one is a real request.

Welcome to our world!

 

Unfortunately this behaviour is not limited to junior members & as for this:

 

 

there is simply no excuse for not taking no for an answer.

Sorry you had to deal with that.

 

Jenn, you are new, yet clearly appreciate proper etiquette.

With your considerate, respectful & open attitude,

your connections with SPs, when you choose them, will surely be wonderful.

I also envision your Cerb tenure to be a long & positive one.

You offer the truly singular perspective ( and already have )

of being a woman & married & a client all at the same time.

I sense your presence, opinions & contributions will serve

as very illuminating & educational for all of us.

In fact I am looking forward to it.

Sincerely, Jenn, welcome & have fun!

Sandi

Additional Comments:

At first glance, theDDD part seems like advertising your cup size since a few SPs do exactly that.

Of course it could also mean you are a fan of

Um, how do I change my Cerb handle? I've tried but not too tech savvy, thanks!

No worries, not bothered, certainly not flattered and let me tell you they so would not get their monies worth with me! :)

I don't know, I have had three people solicit me even after I tell them I am not an SP. Even after I told them I was only looking for women and that I don't sleep with men who aren't my husband.

But most yes are here for pay to play (I kind of like that saying) but I bet some of the men even try to negotiate with the SP's rates even though they say not to. There are people always looking for "cheaper" which is sad because most women I have viewed through CERB (their sites anyway, haven't made the leap yet) seem to be exceptionally classy and quite educated and lovely women whom I would say deserve every penny they get. Also each time I have been solicited by a man through PM it is a new account user, so maybe they don't know the ins and outs, as I too am still learning.

Cheers.

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My take on the guy who wants to share an SP with you is its because he wants either free sex with you and/or for you to help him share the costs of the other SP.

As long as you assert yourself' date=' I think you'll find we have a pretty friendly and respectful community here.[/quote]

Thanks :). If I wanted free sex with a man I'll make love to my husband, I'm def. here for women! :)

Hi,

Just wondering if there are other female clients or future clients here on CERB. I am not sure if it is unusual to have a non service providing woman on CERB but i get soliciting emails from men here on CERB. They are fine when I tell them I'm on the clientele end, except the one guy who asked to share an SP.

Anyway, just wondering, if there are others, or if I'm just really pervy for a woman.

Thanks!

You ladies are really great, seriously, reading through some of the forums/posts/threads, there is a great wisdom and intelligence that is demonstrated. Kudos!

Thanks, that helps. I guess because no one has seen me naked for 14 years except husband and Dr., I get a little self-conscious. And when I finally do this, I will always be 100% respectful, and hopefully whomever I am with enjoys a good laugh because i'll likely be cracking jokes :)

Hi,

I have started a few conversations with SPs, although still have to have my first experience. My main question, and I am asking for 100% honesty please :) is, what about tubbiness? I'm a big gal, part of my reason for not wanting to try to meet a woman in the club, I am really just looking for some experiences to fulfill some desires, but am otherwise fulfilled in my life (am married). I am attractive for sure, but being plus size, I wonder if that is a factor for the SPs, say maybe they are not attracted to the person but then they have to act like they are.

Just something I was wondering should anyone wish to discuss. Again, I love all bodies and types (though am a breast woman) but know how looks are perceived in general society, and in fact, the double standard is out there that I am here trying to fulfill my fantasy/desires based, among other factors, on your beauty.

Not sure it that made sense, but thank you for allowing me to ask.

Jenn

would not dream of it, can't believe people do!

Interesting backrub but alas, no secrets in the marriage. He may even agree to me going alone but I would never do it without talking to him, it's just the way we've been for 14 years, no secrets.

And the reason we say focus on me is because I have the desire to be with a woman, but he would have no problem watching for the most part or having some involvement but yes it is more W4W in our situation.

Thanks.

Thank you everyone, this certainly helps. Talking him into the idea is not hard, he likes the idea, especially as it fulfills a sexual need of mine that he cannot, but he is just cautious. He's also cheap lol when he found out the going rate he was pretty surprised, which is when I got to explain again that we are talking about women with sophistication etc.

Anyway thanks, I'll send him what Samantha wrote, and if more SPs respond it will help me get a better general idea. (although cool for other responses too, lots of good information!)

Cheers,

jenn

Hello,

I am interested in meeting with a service provider with husband (with focus on me) but convincing husband has been not as easy. His main concerns is that the industry is not regulated, so he has questions about safety (sexual and otherwise, although I would say the service providers themselves also must stake precautions in this industry) and exploitation.

Any tips to convince him? Is there a way to verify that a sp is clean? (also a way for sp to verify clients are clean?) Is recommendations the best way?

I mean no disrespect as I hope most women here are not being exploited and here by choice, and these the women i am interested in meeting with)

Thanks for replies and all my relations,

jenn