rexscott 520 Report post Posted May 26, 2015 I've come across two popular providers, well known on CERB, making profiles on online dating web sites. Does anyone know if these ladies are genuinely looking for dating/relationships, or are they using the sites to market their services? If the latter, I wonder if they would be open to be approached (through the site email/chat system) in men who engage providers, or those who have actually engaged their own services at some time. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest N***he**Ont**y Report post Posted May 26, 2015 They are probably looking to promote their businesses. If they are caught by the operators of those sites their profiles will be deleted. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amber Rose 19012 Report post Posted May 27, 2015 They are probably looking to promote their businesses. If they are caught by the operators of those sites their profiles will be deleted. No, nope, nooope. Are they using their work name on there? Does it seem like a personal page or is it quite obviously for business? If it's geared towards gaining clients, then you're right. If not, or there's no indicating factors showing that it's for business and you just recognized their photos, then please pretend you never saw the profile and move along. I have and still do have a profile on a dating website, and some of my photos are similar to my ad ones so some people recognize me. I have also started talking to men, gotten to know them, told them personal things about myself, and then told them about my work only to have them say "uh, are you just on here looking for clients? Because I don't want to pay for anything..". I have had guys book with me, and cancel when they find my profile because they are "more interested in pursuing a relationship with me then meeting through my work". Unless(and this is a big unless) they make it obvious in their profile they are searching for clients, then this is their personal profile, and the last thing they probably want is to be disturbed by guys who are just looking for a sneaky way to get with an escort without paying. I'm sure I'm not alone in saying I like to keep my personal and work life completely separate, and there's nothing I hate more than being approached by guys on dating sites who only messaged because they recognized my photos and think I'll be easy to sleep with. Most companions aren't "searching" or trying to find clients, they search for us not the other way around. Posted via Mobile Device 12 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
xxxAxxx 21016 Report post Posted May 27, 2015 What I choose to do as a single person is no one's business but my own. I am an escort presently, and I am on a dating site. Perhaps I am one of the girls in question, perhaps not. That's irrelevant. I'm a little peeved that this is even a topic for discussion as what I read between the lines here is that we are all expected to not have feelings, to not want relationships in our lives, cause we are just hoes right? The first comment after the OP is that we must be on there to round up business....SHEESH. I don't mean to put words in your mouth, but this is just how I see this discussion. Why not ask yourself why ANY women are on dating sites? What does my profession have to do with my personal life? nothing. Yes, I have run into clients via this dating site, no I do not date people who have paid me for my time. Thanks for giving me a reason to return my photos to private, even if I wasn't one of the girls in question. 8 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Taylor, Olivia Devine 16934 Report post Posted May 27, 2015 I agree with the 2 ladies above, I was on a dating website at one point and some of my pictures were the same as the ones I use in my ads. However this was a personal page and not work related, using my real name/information. I don't mind being approached on the websites as long as we are not discussing business as again it is a personal page and I prefer to keep my work and personal life separate as well :) 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bcguy42 38594 Report post Posted May 27, 2015 Does anyone know if these ladies are genuinely looking for dating/relationships, or are they using the sites to market their services?. Does anyone know if ANY of the ladies on the site are genuinely looking for dating/relationships? I have a daughter who is signed up on a couple of places and the last thing she wants right now is a serious relationship. That's her choice. You've stumbled upon an artifact of someone's private life. Let it be. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
star99 4852 Report post Posted May 27, 2015 With my experience with adult dating sites, more than likely are idiots stealing thier photos. Its certainly not uncommon. Most are fake trying to rip you off 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bianca Jaguar 39183 Report post Posted May 27, 2015 I'm on dating sites myself and totally agree with the other ladies...my pic are totally different and I show my face there...that's my personal life! Bianca 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bewlayb 7480 Report post Posted May 27, 2015 I'm a little peeved that this is even a topic for discussion as what I read between the lines here is that we are all expected to not have feelings, to not want relationships in our lives, cause we are just hoes right?. I don't understand why this topic would bother you so much. The fact there appears to be many misconceptions about why you and your colleagues use these sites suggests there is a need for this discussion. What better place to have it than here (especially here). I certainly feel better informed because of it. Let's not turn someone's curiosity into something it isn't. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meaghan McLeod 179664 Report post Posted May 27, 2015 I don't understand why this topic would bother you so much. The fact there appears to be many misconceptions about why you and your colleagues use these sites suggests there is a need for this discussion. What better place to have it than here (especially here). I certainly feel better informed because of it. Let's not turn someone's curiosity into something it isn't. I'm not on a dating site, but it sure feels like airing out dirty laundry. I've come across two popular providers, well known on CERB, making profiles on online dating web sites. Does anyone know if these ladies are genuinely looking for dating/relationships. I can see the pm's, who are you referring to? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rexscott 520 Report post Posted May 28, 2015 OP here. In the case of one lady, it did seem she was genuinely looking for a date/relationship. The other, she used her professional name, so I would assume it's for business. I'm a bit perplexed as to why one respondent said, "give us our privacy and move along." If you're on a dating site, then you have to be open to meeting people. So one of my original questions stands - are providers open to having dates/relationships, genuine ones, with men who are hobbyists and perhaps were even a client at one point. This isn't about guys trying to take advantage of what they might perceive as an "easy lay", but those who have a genuine interest. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
star99 4852 Report post Posted May 28, 2015 (edited) OP here. In the case of one lady, it did seem she was genuinely looking for a date/relationship. The other, she used her professional name, so I would assume it's for business. I'm a bit perplexed as to why one respondent said, "give us our privacy and move along." If you're on a dating site, then you have to be open to meeting people. So one of my original questions stands - are providers open to having dates/relationships, genuine ones, with men who are hobbyists and perhaps were even a client at one point. This isn't about guys trying to take advantage of what they might perceive as an "easy lay", but those who have a genuine interest. I highly doubt its legit. reason on my behalf is this: there was one particular lady that I googled for reviews, and on one of the sites her ad claims that she was on an adult dating site with a strange name. I went back to that ad a few days later, and the name on the dating site was totally different. so as I said earlier, probably some moron stealing her pictures and posting them, or the dating site themselves doing that to sucker people into paying a monthly fee for getting scammed by fake profiles. I also searched for the names claiming they were on, and nothing came up. no user found Edited May 28, 2015 by star99 additional comment 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amber Rose 19012 Report post Posted May 28, 2015 As for the adult dating site, I'm assuming you probably meaning Adult Friend Finder, which is a scam site and when you're clicking the ad and it has the different name, that's because they stole the photos and are trying to get you to go over there, it usually has nothing to actually do with the SP's. If he is talking about Okcupid, POF, Match, etc, which I think he is, then the photos are probably not stolen and it's probably legit. To the OP, I thought I had touched on your question a bit, but I suppose not, so let me get to it. Each lady is an individual, and your question is impossible to answer. What one woman will want another will not, so how can anyone actually answer that for you? However, speaking from a personal side here, no, I'm an not interested in dating a hobbyist or client, unless I have met them and a genuine connection was made and both parties openly communicated trying a relationship. As I had mentioned before, I and most other ladies, like to keep our work and personal life very seperate, so when you are a hobbyist or a client I've seen before, you're mixing those two, which usually does not end well. As for the whole "I'm a bit perplexed as to why one respondent said, "give us our privacy and move along." If you're on a dating site, then you have to be open to meeting people." No actually, we only have to be open to the type of people we want to meet, we aren't obligated because we're on that site to meet and talk to everyone. And many of these woman probably keep their work very discreet, so by contacting them because you know them through their work or recognize them that way, it's similar to approaching an SP on the street because you noticed her from her pictures - it's indiscreet and not altogether appropriate. As I mentioned before, your best bet it to pretend you never saw the profile and move on. Posted via Mobile Device 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LastRide13 250 Report post Posted May 28, 2015 If you're GENUINELY interested... I'd say contact her through the site. Be prepared for the fallout though in case she doesn't reciprocate (and don't be a jerk if you get rejected). 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
xxxAxxx 21016 Report post Posted May 28, 2015 I don't understand why this topic would bother you so much. The fact there appears to be many misconceptions about why you and your colleagues use these sites suggests there is a need for this discussion. What better place to have it than here (especially here). I certainly feel better informed because of it. Let's not turn someone's curiosity into something it isn't. I guess I'm more irked about the 1st response more so than the OP... Ridiculous assumption that all any of us want is money and we have no actual human feelings or needs whatsoever. On that note, I guess that means every hobbyist is a deranged pervert? (I don't actually think that just showing you the opposite sex equivalent of that 1st response) I don't think it should be discussed here, as unanimously all SPs speaking up on the topic are basically saying any profiles we have for our PRIVATE LIVES should stay PRIVATE. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
funrat1 110 Report post Posted May 28, 2015 Just to throw my two cents in here, and please understand, I mean absolutley NO offence. Basically I would like to say that not all of the people on here necessarily are wondering about a free or cheap "experience". I know pesonally, I have come across a couple of profiles that seemed to match up with SP's I had recognized from various sites, such as here, or BP. I was curious as well, whether it was another advertising route, or if it was as you ladies have stated, a real interest in "normal"(for lack of a better term right now) dating to meet people. I have had a personal friendship with a couple of ladies before from the trade, both SP and MA's, and understand you are normal human beings and lovely ladies with the same wants needs and desires as the rest of us. The problem, I feel, is when I do discover a dating ad from a ladyI recognize, I am unsure of what her expectations are, as there is a few that are using it for business. I would never wish to contact a lady with the expectations of building a relationship, then finding out she was only wanting more business, way to uncomfortable for both parties, or contact the lady of interest thinking it was a business ad, and cause a hurtful experience for her(something that should never be done!) I would like to believe if I contacted her and it was an "unprofessional" date, anythhing that happened was because I was worth it, and had treated her properly to deserve an escalation of affection, no matter what her career may be. So I was interested in the question being asked as a possible direction to take when confronted with this situation with a lady that truly "caught my eye" and I wished to date personally not "professionally". So please ladies, I know "I" mean no offence, and I like to believe the OP likely did not either, we were just misguided in thinking this may be an easy answer, which it (now) obviously is not. So on behalf of all of us, please accept this heartfelt apology for any offence caused. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Highsexdrivebabe 11800 Report post Posted May 29, 2015 Hello, I am on dating sites and used to be on AFF with my own pics so no Amberxx it's not only stolen pics for I met quite a few gents there but I am now only looking for a BF and only seeking on 'normal' if I can say dating sites and NO I am not looking to promote myself theren gents!!! I would not date a client on such sites and if one try to make his way through well he won't have s e x before quite a while and will have to go through a whole long list of questions, etc.... On these sites I am there for a real true love adventure not only for well U know what right?! On AFF back then it was different I mean it's a p o r n dating site more or less and yes had fun quite a bit there but now done with it but if and hopefully some still do well great!! Et voilà !! We R only human beings and looking to be and it's always bizz all the times and we have a heart and a life and we want to live it normally and with TRUE feelings sometimes!!! Barbara xxoo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LatinLover 100 Report post Posted June 3, 2015 Just adding my two cents although it may sound repetitive. I guess some of the concerns from both sides is due to the fact of the fantasy being "sold" by the ladies in the industry, regardless if they are SP, MAs, dancers, etc. Many guys fail to see that these ladies are people too just like any other girl with the exception that these ladies have chosen to do something particular because they feel comfortable with themselves. Men can sometimes be easily fooled by the charm, no offense to guys or ladies. However trying to take advantage because a lady has also a profile on dating site is just simply cheap. If a girl is into you then trying to know her better and be straightforward in letting her know that is HER you want to know better and not the (business) persona you want. The gestures, chemistry and signs are not different than from a random normal girl; it just makes the guy to work a little harder. After all, the girls are human, with their feelings and insecurities. They are very aware that because of their portrayal (the image, the fantasy), many will try to easily get them, but they can also sense those who are genuine with them. .. hmm it's late and I'm tire I may return to finish my toughs later lol... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
defensedave 1158 Report post Posted June 3, 2015 You don't mix business with personal. It is expected by both sides to provide each other with a veil of secrecy. As the client, we expect the provider not to call us out and the same goes for the provider. Connections can be made and are expected when physical relations occur, but these are short term. Any expectations for something more by either party is recipe for disaster. We are typically looking for something that is missing in our lives when we seek the relations of a SP. The same goes for the SP when they are on a dating sites, but they may be looking for a long term relationship, not a quick fix. As long as we all maintain a level of separation, all will be fine Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Layah 7013 Report post Posted June 3, 2015 Just a thought but why not PM the ladies and ask THEM what they're looking for? Seems to me that the best way to get answers is straight from the source. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Satai 1933 Report post Posted June 3, 2015 Just a thought but why not PM the ladies and ask THEM what they're looking for? Seems to me that the best way to get answers is straight from the source. Layah, no-one ever accused you of not being blunt and cutting through the bull****! And please take that as the highest compliment, my dear! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
misterdiscretion2014 2032 Report post Posted June 3, 2015 The intent of people on dating sites is so wide ranging that even if an sp was using it to promote their business, it wouldn't even crack the top 10 forms of internet dating insincerity. There are people who want one night stands pretending they want to settle down, there are people using fake photos, there are people pretending to be different genders ... hell, there are so many forms of disingenuous behavior on the average dating site that trying to list them is an exercise in futility. All that said, I've used them in the past (with varying levels of success) and have learned that you have to accept that there's a pretty low ratio of people you will actually be interested in, but that's just a price you have to pay to try to find romance in the modern world. As traditional avenues of meeting people go away, the net has become a fairly convenient (even if not always reputable) way of finding romance. This may come as a surprise to some people, but SP's also have lives outside this world, and shocking as it may be, they want to be cared about, appreciated and loved the same way the rest of us do. As good of a client as you may think you are, a hobbyist can't fill that void, and if you're human, odds are, true intimacy will be somewhere on your hierarchy of needs. 8 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest jake_cdn Report post Posted June 3, 2015 I've come across two popular providers, well known on CERB, making profiles on online dating web sites. Personally I do not think that anyone should question the motivation of anything that an SP does in their private life. If there are people on a dating site I, maybe naively, assume that they are looking for someone to date or start a relationship with. The same question could be asked of anyone on a dating site including yourself. We do not know your circumstances. You could be married or already be in a relationship with someone. This could also be true for this site. We could ask why you are on this site? Maybe your married or trying to bait someone. This is a cynical world. Perhaps a leap of faith could be applied here. If people are using Lyla or any dating site I for one hope that they find what they are looking for. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrgreen760 37785 Report post Posted June 3, 2015 Lots of trawling on all kinds of sites these days so I figure no biggie either way. Peace MG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kate von Katz 49953 Report post Posted June 3, 2015 They are probably looking to promote their businesses. If they are caught by the operators of those sites their profiles will be deleted. Oh my gawd that is a pretty poor opinion you have of us ladies. I have used online dating sites, as many of us have. My work life and my private life are two different things and NO ONE crosses from one to the other. Well... except me :P Are there some ladies who use Quest, and probably other places to drum up business? Yes. But I should hope you understand the difference between the ladies of Lyla and other upscale, discreet and professional ladies versus ... well *that* type of lady. Also, anyone who happens to find me on a dating site and knows what my job is is in for a pretty big surprise when they discover I am anything but an easy conquest. I have expectations for my clients, and I have even higher ones for a boyfriend. I often tell people there are two ways to get into my pants: pay me for my companionship, or treat me properly for at least a few weeks of dating and if I like what I see, you get the job of my boyfriend. As for the hookup culture we live in, yes some of us do want a relationship. I get enough casual sex already. I want something more. A lot of people do. Please do not lump us all together by the actions of a few unscrupulous individuals. And if this site is AFF, I can attest to those shady bastards stealing my info. Needless to say they got hit with a DMCA takedown in a right hurry. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
