Life after sex for sale! Part II and last,7-suicide? Panu Horsmalahti Involu for now!

[Loralee Reach 245]

7-suicide?

Panu Horsmalahti

Involuntary celibacy as a gender equality problem

Males want sex more, in the earlier part of the relationship and with more partners than women. As women have higher supply and men higher demand, a power structure is created for women. The difference in libido caused by biological (and perhaps cultural) factors creates major implications. As the difference is at least partly biological, the problem cannot be fixed without changing the human nature itself.

The average woman can get sex with a 70% probability by asking a total stranger out of the blue. For males the percentage is 0. In dating sites women do not have to initiate contact, they just have to sit and wait and pick the preferred male. There's usually 3-5 men for each women in a dating website. In a bar context, the women can simply wait to be approached for casual sex.

The difference in libido causes a significant problem for males. A small number of high quality men (alpha males) can satisfy a number of women. That leaves out a portion of males outside the relationship/sex market(s). Polygamy is in fact polygyny. It's useful for the women, but detrimental for men. Men living in involuntary celibacy are called omega males.

Sex is a basic need and a right for humans. In Denmark the state can pay for a disabled person's prostitute visit, since without it the person would suffer from chronic lack of sex. The state can pay for omega males to go visiting prostitutes in the United Kingdom. It's a cheap solution to psychological distress, as therapy is expensive (whores do not need a higher education). It would be unethical to claim disabled persons have a right to sex, but "normal" people don't. I'd say involuntary celibacy is a medical problem which should be treated with taxpayers money just like any other problem.

Lack of sex is a major cause of distress for males. One cause of suicide is lack of sex partners. It's not suprising that men commit 78% of suicides, as women do not have to suffer from lack of sex as much as men. As this is a social problem which affects one gender more than the other, it can be viewed as an issue in gender equality.

The solutions to the problem I know of are not easy or that effective. The problem should be studied more and possible solutions researched. However, there's some solutions that can be impletented immediately:

1) Increase prostitution by legalising it and bordels. Prostition should be supported as a honorable and an important work. The negative stigma should be abolished with education. Doctors should be given the possibility to order a prostitution visit to males in need of sex as a part of comprehensive sex therapy. On the other hand, the state might give out a one time sex-service coupon of about 200 euros to every young person.

2) Sex substitutes should be also supported. The availability of porn and sex toys should be high. Currently sex dolls are advancing at a high rate. These substitutes do not solve the problem completely, but can make the life of involuntary celibate as bearable. As unemployement often leads to a lack of relationship, these products should be affordable also to the poor.

3) The social stigma of loneliness, involuntary celibacy and virginity should be removed with education. The worst diss a man can receive is being called a virgin. Even though involuntary celibacy is bad as it is, it gets even worse if the community starts to denounce the person.

4) Women's sexuality should be increased in schools and through education/propaganda. The more women have sex the more equal the society becomes. Schools should study that sex is acceptable, fun and safe. The stigma of "whoring" should also be removed, since it limits the amount of sex women may have. Women should be taught to make more initiation, so men with social anxiety get approached too. Of course, most of this increased sex is used up by alpha males, but at least it diminishes the problem a bit.

 

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9-energy put to work on humanitarian jobs?

 

10-longer sleeping hours?

11-more exercise?

12-increased drinking perhaps?

13-more rapes?

14-poligamy legalized?

15-would Viagra go bankrupt?

16-more same-sex activity?

17-more social workers to deal with disfunctional families that got to the limit with "being together"?

18-more tranquilizers?

19- would porno magazines increase circulation?

20-Obesity?

21-sexed up game boxes?

22- sterile sex-robots?

23- overt lechery in the roads of our towns?

24- sex drugs to enter a great orgasmic-mind-state?

25- would self actualization (C. Rogers) be rampant and we'll become all moralists?

26- from sapient status to what?

27- would Temples and Churches be full to top again?

28- how many children we could have?

29-the creation of a virtual sex phone like "sexting" could help us?

what do you think???????

[crunchyfrog 101]

Should sex for sale be done away with, I think the result would be pretty simple: people would find some other way to get sex. Monogamy is not a natural state for us, building community is. Monogamy is withdrawal from the community. You fill in the blanks as to what joining the community is.

 

-cf