Can we discuss YMMV?

[Meaghan McLeod 179774]

For those that don't know this term YMMV, it means "Your mileage may vary".  So many hobbyists don't really understand this term and think its a way that providers promise something yet have no plans to provide it.

In reality, this term boils down to consent. If you don't understand true consent, this is where everything goes off the rails.

Granted, there are those that promise services without following through. Its a shame, and I wish they didn't do this. However, I want to talk about the real issue behind providers that experience hobbyists who choose to ignore our boundaries. 

I remember a client who took a shower, yet when he sat down on the bed, left a sh*t stain on my sheets. 

A client who grabbed my tits so hard without warning, that my boobs hurt for days after and were bruised.

A client who tried to get a service I told him I don't provide, and got hissy at me. After he tried again, and I had to tell him to leave.

A client that decided strangling me was cool, and I had to run out of his house naked, fearing for my life.

I could go on. I dont care if you are minty clean, ramming your tongue down my throat doesn't make me wet. It makes me feel used and at risk. I'm pretty easy going, yet I'm amazed at the hobbyist that have no clue about what actually makes women feel safe.

Everything always comes down to consent. Its enthuiastic, clear, ongoing, and can be revoked at any point. Even if you are paying for a service. 

I still remember an inquiry at an agency I worked at. It went something like this.

Him "I want to hire a whore for my 18th birthday".

Me "I'm sorry, we dont have anyone available that sees clients that are 18".

Him "What? Thats discrimination. You cant do that. Im calling my lawyer".

Me "would you like to give your lawyer the number of our lawyer? We would never force a provider to see a client she doesn't want to see".

Bizarrely, his father called and tried to book a "hooker" for his son, and even suggested that he could be there to make her "feel safe". Like yes, having 2 men in the room will make her feel safe.

So, at the end of the day, those that complain about this must look deep into their motives. Are you asking your provider if she wants to continue? Does she feel comfortable to say no?

Remembering my early days where I just went along instead of stopping the encounter. Paid rape is never OK and it haunts me. I'm not the only provider who has experienced this, so check your privilege.  The black pill, incel monologue doesn't work here.

This is why we screen. Ask for references. Ask for deposits. Check you out. To keep us safe. We don't have an ulterior motive to fu*k you over. It's to keep us safe.