Acceptable amount of time to wait for an appointment ( After Arriving 5 Mins before set time )

[RobertDion 205]

Makes sense.

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31996]

On 4/27/2026 at 11:38 AM, Jolie said:

Hello all,here is my two cents

I actually took a LONG breaks because of no shows or guys just playing silly games ,also why I had to stop seeing certain younger age groups which I didn't want to do but I was wasting time and effort and heck makeup for nothing,I give 15-20 min as things like traffic or life happen after that I will move on. I will usually if the excuse is good enough give a Gent a second chance but never 3 so if they fail that second time they get blocked. Gents may not know this but us gals get some CRAZY text and harassment some times (at least I have)NOW If you Sir dish 500 for a date and that gal is not ready ,smelling good ,smiling and VERY happy to see you well you can sure change your mind leave a nice sorry tip and cut your loss. This is suppose to also be enjoyment to all. Now I am not the most popular gal as I am not skinny Queen but folks respect has to be had BOTH ways ,so time is important. Oh and we don't clock watch but darlings if you want more time......it is worth something ,don't you think?

Trust me No shows and disrespect doesn't just come from younger clients it's comes from older as well more so often I feel 

[Mature Andee 53]

I give the address when the session is confirmed. Then I request the client to text me when he arrives at the building. At which time I will give him the buzzer code and suite number. The session starts once he is in the suite. If he arrives more than five minutes early, then I may ask him to wait, but I never make them wait past the agreed-upon time.

[peacectryguy 12584]

The obvious answer is that both the client and provider need to be respectful of each other's time as best as humanly possible. First rule of thumb on the client's end is not to show up too early. I know that many of us have always been taught to be prompt and on time and even a little early. I show up about 99% of the time to the location about 5 minutes before the appointment. I then wait 2-3 minutes before texting to let her know I've arrived and to get the room number and/or instructions. Now and then, it takes a couple of minutes for a response and she might say, "give me 5, please" but usually get her room number. Now if I get no response, I will send a follow up text to check. If there is nothing for 10-15 minutes, I send a final text to tell her I'm not waiting any longer (politely, of course) and I then leave. 

Now on her end of things. As I said, I always text that I've arrived only about 2-3 minutes before the set time and not 10-15 minutes or any of that BS. If guys are too arrogant or stupid to understand that, they need to stay home and jerk off and leave the ladies for us gentleman who understand how this business works and respect that dynamic. Frankly, if I was a provider and some asshole showed up 20 minutes ahead of time and insisted on starting early, I'd send back his deposit and tell him to F off. I don't expect her to alter her schedule for me any more than I want to F around waiting. It goes both ways.

Now as for the final point, if she is running a little late and just getting out of the shower and she informs me of that and asks if I can wait, I have zero problem with that. Literally every reputable lady I have visited over the years who has had to do that allows for the time to be made up without me having to even talk about it. Even in that case where we are say 20 minutes late starting, I will often cut that time in half at the end if I am done and go have a quick shower and leave so she isn't rushed too much schedule wise. It's just a courtesy on my part and sometimes I have indeed stayed the full time so to each their own in that regard. As for this thing about 10 minutes costing me 50 bucks or whatever, I get annoyed that guys even bring that up. This lifestyle, to me, is throw away money. If I can't afford to do this, I don't do it. Counting every penny is just not worth it. And it gets your mind on something other than having a good time which in turn leads to a lousy encounter for both parties. 

[Lemmy Caution 180]

I have no idea what the problem would be with someone showing up early. That's insane. Sometimes I can't judge how long it will take me to get to the location, including a stop at an ATM. Sometimes I get there early. 15 minutes. 20 minutes. Who cares? 

I'll park somewhere nearby, so as to not be too conspicuous and I'll text to say I'm there early. Whenever she's ready. No rush.

If she didn't have anyone before me and she's just sitting there twiddling her thumbs waiting for a text, why wouldn't we start early? If she's still with someone or in the shower, I don't get a response. Again, who cares? I know when my appointment is, I know I'm early. I'll sit there and wait until I get a response, or until it's enough past my booked time that I'm not willing to wait any longer.

This just seems like common sense. It's like arriving at a doctor's appointment the 15 minutes early they tell you to, and them calling you in right away. Are you going to say, "my appointment isn't for another 15 minutes, I'll wait". Or hell, even more comparable... arriving, but not bothering to register at the window until your appointment time. 😆

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31996]

23 hours ago, Lemmy Caution said:

I have no idea what the problem would be with someone showing up early. That's insane. Sometimes I can't judge how long it will take me to get to the location, including a stop at an ATM. Sometimes I get there early. 15 minutes. 20 minutes. Who cares? 

I'll park somewhere nearby, so as to not be too conspicuous and I'll text to say I'm there early. Whenever she's ready. No rush.

If she didn't have anyone before me and she's just sitting there twiddling her thumbs waiting for a text, why wouldn't we start early? If she's still with someone or in the shower, I don't get a response. Again, who cares? I know when my appointment is, I know I'm early. I'll sit there and wait until I get a response, or until it's enough past my booked time that I'm not willing to wait any longer.

This just seems like common sense. It's like arriving at a doctor's appointment the 15 minutes early they tell you to, and them calling you in right away. Are you going to say, "my appointment isn't for another 15 minutes, I'll wait". Or hell, even more comparable... arriving, but not bothering to register at the window until your appointment time. 😆

Nobody said that arriving early is a problem, the problem would be arriving early and expecting to come in before the agreed upon time 

And having an attitude about it

 

You can show up to the given location 30 minutes before even hour before if ya like and wait that's on you, that would be your choice

 

I wouldn't arrive to outcall before the agreed upon time and expect to walk in

It's about both parties being mindful of the time and respecting it

 

This thead is ridiculous🙄

 

[Evie Rosewood 557]

On 5/6/2026 at 12:38 PM, Lemmy Caution said:

I have no idea what the problem would be with someone showing up early. That's insane. Sometimes I can't judge how long it will take me to get to the location, including a stop at an ATM. Sometimes I get there early. 15 minutes. 20 minutes. Who cares? 

I'll park somewhere nearby, so as to not be too conspicuous and I'll text to say I'm there early. Whenever she's ready. No rush.

If she didn't have anyone before me and she's just sitting there twiddling her thumbs waiting for a text, why wouldn't we start early? If she's still with someone or in the shower, I don't get a response. Again, who cares? I know when my appointment is, I know I'm early. I'll sit there and wait until I get a response, or until it's enough past my booked time that I'm not willing to wait any longer.

This just seems like common sense. It's like arriving at a doctor's appointment the 15 minutes early they tell you to, and them calling you in right away. Are you going to say, "my appointment isn't for another 15 minutes, I'll wait". Or hell, even more comparable... arriving, but not bothering to register at the window until your appointment time. 😆

Hold up… you’re telling me that you don’t have to wait for 45 mins past your appointment time to see your doctor?? And sometimes you get called in early? 😦
 

Hold on to that doctor for dear life, lol. 

[Skilled Hands 418]

On 4/26/2026 at 11:35 PM, RobertDion said:

It's kinda irrelevant. It doesn't go both ways. We're the ones paying, not you. This is why there's all the debates about putting down deposits, and sending 10, 15, 25% through etransfer up front. Let's not kid ourselves into thinking there's equal value in a client's no-show versus a client getting ghosted after getting an appointment booked, putting a deposit down, then not getting any word back.... It's not like the SP lost some funds with a no-show, how often does it happen that you lose a client that can't reschedule because you can't make room for them because you are booked solid with back to back clients all day? Its' not exactly a crappy problem to have to be too busy. Therefore I'd wager it never happens that you can't shuffle clients around to accommodate certain people only being available at certain times, you can't count "lost income" when it never existed in the first place. There's no loss from having a no-show, the 'potential' for the funds you'd collect only happens upon arrival. Unless you collect online upfront. But that's just free money for zero services rendered, up to that point. Since you were not going to have someone booked at that time in the first place, there's no loss on your part in comparison to the person paying you, a client that does show up. When you book a dentist's appointment, they charge you a fee for not showing up, this is because they have all rooms booked solid, 9 to 5 each day.

That's not the case here. If it were you STILL don't lose funds, you simply replace the person who cancels with your next person in line if you're that busy. But you're not bumping someone else off to accommodate another client, then they don't cancel, buit just don't show up, leaving you hanging. That's not happening, so again, you're not 'losing' funds because of the 'potential' client you would have at any given time.

Now imagine the reverse of this, like that Adam mentioned "the way you say 20 minutes early or don't bother showing up seems extreme." --- I've had this happen a few times as an excuse to cancel on me where I book 24 hours in advance, the last text I get is that I'll get the address upon arrival. Out of common courtesy, I text 2 hours before, asking if everything still a go, She texts back saying "well, you never texted me early enough to confirm, so I had to cancel your appointment.

2 hours isn't early enough? What about all these ads saying to "book in advance, no last minute bookings, please"? Seems like just. away to keep that up-front-money, double book and cancel the one that was convinced to pay up front.

Another scenario that's happened far too often -- I text 2 hours before, asking if everything still a go, you know, being nice and respectful, and jut checking in ti make sure nothing's up up on her end. no response, then an hour before the scheduled appointment, still nothing,

I'm a half hour drive from the hotel she mentions she's at, so in case I get a last minute green light, I take off, I don't want to arrive late, so a half hour before the appointment I start to drive out, fingers-crossed, I make my way in. I text at this time too, "are we still a go?" - I arrive still and still no response, I don't want to come off as stalker-y, I've done three texts now, is this too much? At the exact time I'm supposed to have my appointment, I mentioned I've arrived and parked. I have no room number of course. and no green light. but I never hear from them again.... and I don't text after the appointment time has started.... that cash deposit she demanded up front 24 hours before---gone..... and this has happened a few times, each time from a reputable, and well-reviewed SP.

So yes, time is money --- but we both put in the time, and only one of us pays the money.

So.... ladies, you hold all the cards.

So I spend an hour and a half getting ready for a client. 

I don't ask for a deposit. 

I don't shuffle people around. 

To be ghosted after spending time getting ready for a client and turning away others who wish for that timing .....

And for a client to say I've not lost out if someone ghosts me?

It's insulting actually. It just shows zero respect for my time and effort. 

And let me put it to you this way. I've been ghosted probably between 40 to 50 times in the past year since I've started this venture. How many times has it happened to you?

Grrrrrrrr

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31996]

39 minutes ago, Skilled Hands said:

So I spend an hour and a half getting ready for a client. 

I don't ask for a deposit. 

I don't shuffle people around. 

To be ghosted after spending time getting ready for a client and turning away others who wish for that timing .....

And for a client to say I've not lost out if someone ghosts me?

It's insulting actually. It just shows zero respect for my time and effort. 

And let me put it to you this way. I've been ghosted probably between 40 to 50 times in the past year since I've started this venture. How many times has it happened to you?

Grrrrrrrr

Part of the reason why I ask for a deposit, fake bookings and no shows happens and it's annoying especially when you have a set schedule to work around 

Those who are serious about booking will not ghost you if sending a deposit 

And to the few that had to cancel for whatever reason the good guys sent for the time booked 

 

[Skilled Hands 418]

Just now, Exotic Touch Danielle said:

Part of the reason why I ask for a deposit, fake bookings and no shows happens and it's annoying especially when you gave a set schedule to work around 

I really have had to work hard at building a good reputation. Which I feel I've done.  I will ask for a deposit at times now based on the communication and my gut instinct.

[MikeyInHalifax 676]

From what I know both @Skilled Handsand @Exotic Touch Danielleare consummate professionals and don't piss about with people's time. 

 

Respect their time just as we expect them to respect ours.

 

I've said this probably a hundred times, this arrangement is the easiest thing in the world and everyone should leave happy. It's only a minority that fucks it up for everyone with time wasting, unrealistic expectations or outright unprofessional behavior.

 

Get it together kids. We're all adults and should be able to comport ourselves as such. 

 

 

[Alex93 2]

On 5/12/2026 at 1:15 PM, Skilled Hands said:

I really have had to work hard at building a good reputation. Which I feel I've done.  I will ask for a deposit at times now based on the communication and my gut instinct.

I completely understand your point, and I agree with you. Serious and respectful people usually don’t have an issue with paying a deposit, as it shows mutual respect for each other’s time and commitment. It also helps avoid misunderstandings and last-minute cancellations