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I took today off to go to dinner and then to a sex-workers' pride event at a local club thrown by the group POWER that I'm a member of, the event was a huge success and we generated a lot of support, I was beaming with pride at the cheers generated by the hosts to the plight of realizing what it means to have safety and independance and honour brought to our proffession.....and that it should be deemed as such: a noble proffession. supporters were cheered on too....everyone was appreciated. However the night was not without its batch of naysayers and judgmental ignorants at the end of the evening....i actually lost some "friends" tonight (notice I use the term "friends" loosely) getting caught in debate as to what our world really was about and truly deserved. it leaves me a bit saddened...actually VERY heavy hearted.. but gives me hope in that this was a huge step for Ottawa. A difficult upwards battle is definitely in our future tho. I was basically outed to everyone that I happened to know outside of work tonight who happened to be there (perhaps the shirt that said "I LOVE my job" played a part in this, lol)...but I dont care anymore. This is my life, I've chosen it and those who dont care to see past their own stereotypes yet still attend a night like POWER threw tonight wishing to scoff and cast stones....well I wonder why they showed up in the first place. (??) I for one know a few blokes who showed up seeing if they could meet some "hookers" and "peelers" first hand and were surprised and turned off that there was a homosexual market in ottawa and were disgusted that "queers" were even mentioned tonight. One (no longer) "friend" came up to me at one point and asked me to point out all the "hot whores" that were present. I said (in less polite words) that I regreted ever handing him a flyer. Many people worked long and hard and planned this event thoroughly and delivered an amazing show...full of shout-outs and respectful cheers and amazing music and live performances. I personally would like to applaud POWER (prostitutes of Ottawa Gatineau, Work Educate Resist) for bringing the community together tonight. I for one am not going to let tonight's naysayers affect my pride for my work...if anything I feel sorry for some who judge before they even try to understand. I hope that everyone in support of tonight or in organization of tonight sees the contribution over the judgement and recognizes what a big step they have made for our industry in Ottawa. I for one (no matter what I may have lost tonight...that didn't matter in the first place now that I think of it) have gained more strength from coming to terms with who I am tonight.... ....and I have POWER to thank for it. all my love, xoxo Annessa

For so many years the moral majority and the politically correct have made this industry a nasty criminal activity crawling with the underbelly of our society. The traditional "whore" is a woman (or man) that has very low self esteem and very low pride, because of the social stigmas and criminal implications of the business. I think I see a glimpse of hope in the future, I think we may be fostering a new generation of sex workers that have pride in themselves and their career. If this industry can become legitimate, and people that serve it stop being chastised and belittled, than there is hope. If we can get some laws that protect instead of alienate the service providers than there is a glimmer of hope. It will take some strong individuals who are not afraid to stand up and say they are sex workers, and it will take some testing of the laws. But we may actually be witnessing a paradigm change in this industry! I have jumped on the sword in the past and pioneered ventures to find that it really is very hard and you feel like you are getting no where with no reward and no thanks. Ladies (and men if you are reading this) please do not loose hope, you are loved and supported by a large amount of admirers and most of us will be cheering in silence but know we are behind you. I would have liked to have attended and explained to the idiots how there words and thoughts demean sex workers, and asked them what the hell they were there for. It's a funny thing how intolerant we can be, I recently purchased a used vehicle from a very nice mid 50's gay guy. He had the back of the truck strewn with bumper stickers and one that was particularly cool to me was the California gay pride rainbow bear, I loved that bumper sticker. I came out one afternoon last week after dropping some stuff of to my daughter and son in law to find him at the back of the vehicle and he had removed the sticker, we was afraid to ride in the vehicle because people might associate him with gays!! Not sure what he would do if I put a POWER bumper sticker on the thing :), this may take another generation, but at least it is getting some momentum. Ladies (not Erin or Annessa) are you doing this because you feel unable to do anything else, has someone told it is all you are good enough for? Or are you dong this because it is truly a career that you aspire to? If you can't look yourself in the mirror and say I am glad to be an SP than quite. For you ladies that are proud of what you do please join the momentum and get the tides to turn in your favor give yourself a better work environment.

Personal hygiene for me is number one on my list and I usually go through a strict preparation schedule which usually starts days ahead of time. I take myself seriously and I treat my hobby like my business. I want to be at my best all the time. No exceptions. If I cant do it right , I don't do it at all. I usually start some of these a few days earlier and Ill explain why, 1) I take care of any excess body hair which includes shaving my balls, my butt hole, nose, ears and trimming underarms. I usually take care of this a day or two before my meeting. The reason is that If accidentally nicked my genitals, ill still have an opportunity to cancel my appointment. You don't want to be anywhere near your ladies genitals with an open wound even if its only a scratch. It just makes it safe for everyone and besides genital hair doesn't grow back in day. 2) I cut and trim my toenails and fingernails. I also make sure that I take care of this a day before again for safety reasons. You don't want to have any open finger wounds especially if you use digits. I always carry finger condoms for this purpose because I never know when I can injure myself on my way to a date. I go get a manicure and pedicure every few weeks to keep my digits and toes in pristine condition. I never want to have to worry that the lady will be choking on a hang nail if she happens to want to suck on my toes. 3) With an SO in my life, I take great precautions in what I wear on the day of my date. I prepare underwear and clothes a few days ahead of time and change completely before going to meet my lady. A few reasons for this: a) even though you may think SO s don't notice they know exactly what underwear and clothes you are wearing that day. They are most probably the ones doing your laundry b) if you meet your lady I can guarantee you that her scent or that you just had wild sex for 2 hours smell will linger on you and your SO will notice. My SO can smell another woman's scent on me as soon as I walk in the door. It took me a while to figure why she always came and kissed on the days I was bad while other days when nothing happened she couldn't care less. Never underestimate your SO s sense of smell and intuition. c) I carry the same soap that I use at home to make sure when I shower after my session I smell the same as when I left in the morning. d)don't forget to change back into the clothes you left home with. 4)I watch what I eat especially the night before. I make sure that I'm not eating anything with heavy scents, curry, greek food or onions and certainly not a bean burrito or anything beans. I think the reasons are pretty obvious. On the morning of my meeting I make sure to a eat a good breakfast which usually includes cerals and some fruit. I'm a avid coffee drinker but I abstain on the days of my meeting and substitute with Ginseng tea. I also hydrate myself lots of water. If my meeting is later in the evening I eat very light during the day but often. Salads, light soup never anything heavy. Trust me it hinders your performance if go out eat a big mac before a love making session. 5)This is a difficult one since I finding the time or privacy is difficult but an important step in my prep. Now that I'm clean on the outside, I clean my insides and that calls for an enema. It doesn't take long but for me its an as essential and important as washing my dick. I would happy to share information on how to this properly if anyone is interested. 6)Wash my dick, then wash it again. Oh did I mention washing my dick. I carry baby wipes with to make sure that after Ive washed my disk at least 3 times, that if I have to take a leak on my way to the meeting then I am able to wash again. I'm uncut, so for me its even more important to keep my dick clean. 7)I put on underarm deodorant which I carry with me all the time and I use very light deodorant spray for that clean smell. I never use any after shave or heavy perfumes. Some ladies are really allergic. 8) Shave my face as carefully and slowly as I can. Again safety here is required, I Dont want to be nicking my face and showing up with little blobs of Kleenex stuck on my chin. Here I use a face lotion to keep my face smooth. 9) Hand cream is something I always carry in my bag and I make sure that I use it right before I ring the doorbell. I happen to work in construction so rough hands are part of my life so I do everything to keep them supple. 10) The all time most important, I never brush my teeth or floss right before a date. I always carry mouthwash for right before and after my session. I love DATY and this is all about safety for me and the ladies. Not to mention that we all are connected by sharing the same ladies as well. I want all the cerb members to know that I care about my safety, the companions safety and ultimately your safety. So please guys and girls......Be safe so we can all enjoy our hobby for a long time. The Hun

While yes it is all about first impressions, you have to appreciate the volume of calls these providers deal with, then factor in the trouble makers and tire kickers and time wasters and it would wear on your patience as well. Unlike a call centre rep who's job it is to answer calls and inquiries it's not like these providers are just sitting their waiting for calls, tmany are out and about living their lives, shopping, working out, studying, working elsewhere, taking care of their children, dropping them off at school etc, they are very busy. It's even more frustrating for those providers who go to the trouble of setting up detailed ads or websites only to have callers ask the very questions that are addressed on the website or ad. A good rule of thumb that I practice both personaly and professionaly, don't answer the phone if you are not prepared to give your full attention. If I am focused on a task or project at work I don't answer my phone until that issue has been resolved, if it's important they will leave a message or call back. If I'm home watching a favorite TV show or movie, or engaged in coversation with company, again I don't answer the call until I'm ready. The same rule could apply to providers if you are out busy and doing your thing and don't have time to give to the caller, let them leave a message and call them back when you are better prepaired to present yourself with your best foot forward!

There are some "clients" who prey on new SPs and take advantage of their "niceness" in wanting to attract new clients. New SPs are generally more willing to be kind and polite when gentlemen prey on them for discounts and try to negotiate. For all new SPs, please realize that certain "clients" make a career out of whining about their "financial woes" to see how much money they can get away with not paying. There are SPs who charge all different fee rates and don't think for a second these "whiners" aren't aware of what the fees are. If a gentleman can't afford it, don't call an SP. It's as simple as that.

here here! i believe I posted some time ago a conversation I had with a new potential client where he heard my prices and then asked "hmm......do you have anything cheaper?" i remember thinking to my self jokingly "well you could suck my toe for 15 mind for what you're willing to pay" when I started I used to waste my phone time and text and emails on people who would try and barter, I would abide and then they would decline....probably simply for the thrill of seeing what they could get or wanting to hear some "little girl" sound desperate. Heck my last prospect tried to barter with me trying to get sympathy that he was roughing it in the dough department coz he just got married...so he couldn't cough up the entire donation. Needless to say he did not acquire my sympathy