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Annessa, perhaps the best approach for you to take is to make it your policy when communicating back to the client that yes, you are available for that time, but it is not officially booked until you receive confirmation. In your usual pleasant demeanour of course. It won't get rid of all the scheduling snafus and inconsiderate clients, but it might stifle some of the problems. Whenever I make arrangements with anyone, there's always a well defined time, date, and place that is concrete and confirmed from both parties. If I don't have that and I don't get a prompt and clear response within a certain time frame, at a certain point I consider the date to be a no-go and make arrangements to fill my time with something else. Granted, there's always going to be exceptions to the rule and everyone is different, but I generally make a point of 'forcing' a reply to ensure that everything is understood. If a girl emails me back saying yes, she can do that time, I'll ask to reconfirm the duration and rate even though I know what it is. Even asking "Sounds good?" at the end puts a question back to be answered. I hope this isn't happening from repeat clients though?

first off I dont want to consider this so much of a rant but more of a word of advice to clients. (will admit tho, its a bit of a rant) Clients: following up with your emails that are very specific to dates and times you have requested when you get an asap response is very important sometimes I consider myself immaculate at answering emails...especially those those that ask for certain time frames that are of the extremely near future. If I get an email like that and I have to run out on errands I will even send another email saying I will be away from my computer and to contact me via my cell. For example, if someone asks about my afternoon or evening with a bit of a sense of urgency in their tone and I reply within 15 minutes (as Im at my computer the most during the day) .....and I go through the efforts of giving a detailed map of my schedule (which in most cases is wide open) then receive no feedback as to yes or no (or sometimes I do!) while I'm wondering if I should make my dentist appointment for the hours they requested.......i get a lil tiffy. maybe my offered schedule doesn't mesh with theirs, perhaps they have changed their mind.....but I responded asap, and No one likes looking like a needy SP sending the 2nd email....."errr.....are you still interested in seeing me? you seemed pretty sold" lol I've had clients tell me they'd be in town on a certain day and want to see me from x-hour to x-hour ask my donation and say 'wonderful, I will PM when I arrive and check in'...and never hear from them again despite my reminder email a couple days prior...of course to no response. clients that text me asking if I'm available the next night at x-time, I say yes so I pencil in a babysitter, then cancel it the next night due to not hearing from them, then get texted at the last minute an hour before our scheduled date asking if I'm still available. ??? now to the no-response (after apparently avidly claiming they're looking for my services due to my recommendations etc) I usually brush it aside and move forward (as i say "first CONFIRM, first serve") but I always have to wonder....would it kill u to just follow up, state that plans changed etc? I for one write even my potentials in my daytimer, and if i can schedule around them, I will. OBVIOUSLY we never make solid bookings till we have all the info but gentlemen, know that sometimes we are doing you a favor in giving you the benefit of the doubt that if you dont want to schedule anymore, you wont leave us hanging. And that most of us will at least keep in our heads that we "may" have a call for the time and date you requested. After all, some of us have outside-work plans to fit around these calls or family obligations etc. I realize that many gents may send their email request-letters to multiple SPs, but I find that its never a bad thing to say (if you've already got a reply from someone else) that you already booked with someone else who replied first. trust me, it doesnt hurt our feelings! what makes me angry is clearing my schedule of plans that will make escaping impossible (loosely of course) because someone has said they want to see me...especially if I reply right away or they have agreed and expressed genuine excitement about our arrangement working out. *deep breath*....all better :) ok so it has turned into a rant, but bottom line is dont leave the lady-workers hanging, trust me, a proper business-woman will understand and probably thank you for it so she can adjust her daytimer. Most of us try our best to accommodate all your emails and requests. The least clients can do is say "thank you for your reply, but someone else emailed me back first" (or whatever the reason for not following up may be :)) I am happy that this is the most real and upfront business sometimes when approached from a business perspective....you know we see other people, we know timing may have been better for other people to see you...also (on both sides) intrusions get in the way of having fun sometimes. Thats just life. Lets just all work on not keeping each other in the dark, it will IMO make everything run smoothly :)

Last night I received an email from a potential guest that set me off, and I would like to take a moment to express to those men out there that think they can lie to SP's and get away with it. His emails and pm's were polite and respectful for a couple of days and then out of the blue the request for bbfs comes. I chose not to answer it, and simply deleted his emails. Today I find out he has contacted other SP's with the same request but a completely different story line. He gave me a story to elicit sympathy, tailored to play to my nature. He has obviously read my posts. His entire approach was intentionally manipulative and I thought I would put this out there for the members of CERB to see. CERB is a closer knit community than many realize and those that lurk in this membership intending to take advantage of SP's need to move to another board. This behavior is completely unacceptable and I for one, will not tolerate it. This is the only online community that I maintain an online presence because of the exceptional attitude that MOD works so hard to ensure. For those of you out there who are up to no good, find somewhere else because your kind are not welcome here. Cat

I miss the point, here... Since I came back, two weeks ago, I don't get anymore recos... Wondering about my service, I've asked a CERBite that came and see me to ask him what it was all about... Before leaving, he told me that I don't need it, since mine are already pretty good... Well, thanks, but I already know that... That's why I keep up my service, keeping my rates in an accessible range, and make sure my room is always clean, and well located... But when you add, even just a little word, that makes our name back to the top of the list, and now, THAT's useful. Otherwise, we are part of all sp, without anything special... Please, if you like your service provider, HELP HER!

You said it right seems like some people think that if you write many recos on the same lady you are shilling or biased especially when asked for a recommendation and you give the name of that SP. I also would like to note that there is a majority of members who never write recos.

Actually I like the countless emails that sometime precede a date. It's a great opportunity to get to know someone better and helps build up the anticipation and excitement of the date.And I always follow up the date with a thank you email.

It takes 2 minutes to send an email or call, how hard is it to say my plans have changed. Why go through the inital email to book, if you have no intention to follow through with it. Why waste the time and effort? This one I do not think I iwll ever understand. This happens all the time in this industry to so many ladies, and it is not right.

Actually, the thread is about clients, not the girls. No offense but they are 2 very different issues.

Any "SERVICE" based business should have that mentality! Everything else is TANGIBLE. When you "bargain" someone for a service you are negotiating the quality of that service. (Could be time spent on the service, could be "extra's, could be effort, etc...) but you can be sure your not going to get the same effort as you would if you did not devalue the service and pay the asking price. With the ladies you are asking them to lower their self worth! It's not nice and in many cases if she agrees to it she is NOT going to be too happy about it as you are taking advantage of her now - so your not really going to get a full effort! Basically if you don't like the price she puts on her services you find someone else in your budget. If you try to bargain with the ladies your just being an ass.

What I do is allow the girl to at least introduce herself and exchange a few pleasantries, and then tell her thanks but I am just "checking things out for a while". If I am already waiting for a certain girl I will say so.

I agree with many of these comments posted on here, although Winnipeg has a reputation of being the "wholesale" capital of Canada, this should not apply to the SP's who ply their trade here. If you cannot afford the hobby then find a new one, or set your sights a little lower....there are different levels of pricing that go along with different ladies...find the one that suits your budget. Have a little bit of pride and pay for the service provided at the stated price...when you try to "negotiate" all you do is cause bad feelings and do you think you are going to get the best service then? I'm probably thinking...not. Just some food for thought.