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This has not made the papers (Not sure if it will) but it is news for our industry. It shows again why negative reviews that can be considered slanderous should stay off the sites. This statement (Below) was part of a settlement agreement when Valerie charged a review board and one of the boards members "Mark Charles Robins" (Known as John Q. on the site where this took place) for libel and defamation (Slander). "Fun Valerie has obtained judgment in Toronto, Ontario on January 28, 2010 against Mark Charles Robins ("Mark") of Ontario for libel and defamation for postings he has posed on an "escort review" board. Mark has apologized." It goes to show that if you slander someone on the internet and your actions damage the persons business they can still successfully take you to court!

I started out hobbying last year with 2 objectives in mind. #1 Find the sexual adventure and intimacy missing in my life. #2 Learn to be a better lover (ie please all women to the max). Objective #1 is fulfilled in my mind. I've met lots of lovely ladies and had great and even completely mesmerizing experiences. Its been just what the doctor ordered. Regarding objective #2, I'd say I've learned quite a bit, however I can't help but think I can do better, and hence this post. In an effort to please the ladies I do what you would expect. I show up for the date hygienic and looking my best. Then some nice chat to hopefully put us both of us at ease. In the heat of the action I try to be very attentive. I watch for facial expressions, body language and listen for verbal queues. I make stuff happen, I don't just lie there. I know I've done a good job if the lady is smiling and resembles quivering jello at the end of the session. However that's not always the case. Here's why: Sometimes if you ask what the lady likes, she says "what ever you like, I'm here to please you". Sometimes the lady isn't into it as much as you would hope. Some ladies are hard to read. Sometimes we don't communicate well. Sometimes ladies give you non-genuine feedback. Sometimes what works for one lady may not work for another. I've never received negative feedback (not surprising, its probably bad for business). It seems the best relationships are the ones with the fewest issues. So I'm asking myself, how do I become an even better lover. My current thinking is to simply do what I've been doing , however concentrate my efforts on the very select few ladies that I really get along with. Try to see these favorites more regularly at the expense of seeing as many new ladies. Continue to build the relationship and really work to please these particular women. Hopefully this will translate into some skills and knowhow. I know its going translate into lots of fun LOL. So what do you think? Do you guys share this quest to please women? If so, what do you do to maximize your learning? SPs, I'm sure you have valuable input on this subject. I hope to hear from you as well. Have a Great Day, GHT

This thread is not promoting Valerie, it's informing the rest of us that we now have a way of protecting ourselves. It's also a warning to trolls out there who use the threat of a bad review to extort price reductions and free services from SPs. They are out there, I have met several in person. There are members of CERB who are singing a very different tune when they are on other boards with different user ids. If this thread reaches only one of them it was worth it. The dilemma is that our work is unlike any other. We bare the most intimate parts of ourselves daily and we are human. We have bad days, it's unavoidable. Instead of being able to retreat into a cubical and make busy avoiding the world we have to go out into it and pretend everything is glorious. I remember having to go to work the same day I lost my children in court. Why? To put a roof over my head because the lawyers had eaten every cent of my savings. Another time I buried a very close friend at noon and had to be on shift at 5pm. Why? My agency had a no show=termination policy. If I didn't show up I had no job and I was still paying off the lawyers. We have no sick days to take or personal days. There is no 50-50 pension plan waiting for us. If we are hurt in an accident or at work, there is no safety net. No disability checks arrive by direct deposit. We are 100% out there, on our own. Our reputation is all we have! So if someone had a less than desirable experience, that's unfortunate and I'm genuinely sorry. It's not unheard of and certainly no threat to ones well being. If you have a problem with a provider you have two options. Either approach her directly, explain your concerns and see if she will rectify the situation, or move on and see what else is out there. But the first thing I would gently suggest is to look long and hard in the mirror and know exactly what it was that left you feeling the way you did. Dissatisfaction emanates from within and permeates everything. I have many clients who know Valerie and are quite fond of her with no complaints. One mans treasure is another mans garbage, and there isn't a woman out there that isn't attractive to someone out there. SPs deserve to be able to make a living at their chosen profession without fearing someone with a personal vendetta will try to undermine her ability to support herself. Valerie took the necessary steps to protect herself by registering as a DNR, he chose to ignore it. I realize there are two sides to every story and he may have felt he had the right to do what he did, but SPs are not able to defend themselves on other boards so she took the only steps she could to secure her livelihood. He took the risk and now his name is out there. If someone writes a bad review about me without contacting me first, giving me a chance to rectify the situation I will definitely consider doing the same thing now that I know it's doable. cat

sounds like you`re doing it all right. Maybe stop being so critical of yourself and relax. You can`t be it all with everyone all the time that`s way too much pressure. It`s also about your pleasure you know and since you are paying maybe you should enjoy the sessions a bit more and stop trying to be the best lover in the world. That`s a very tall order. different ladies enjoy different things and there is no generic way to please them all.