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  1. Posted

    Question Nathalie:

     

    It may be effective in humanizing your clients but do they seem satisfied at the end of the conversation? Certainly you have established that they are not filthy or disease ridden, they are everyman, but how do you address their ideas about personal appearance?....

     

    Im going to try to bring the ball back around here.

     

    While everybody has a "type" that may make them tingle; not all is based on looks. Obviously.

     

    I learned a long time ago that everybody has something to bring to the table that is sexy and sensual. Be it personality, or a wonderful smile or respect, handsome hands, whatever.

     

    Example...when I was in my 20's I thought David Lee Roth was da bomb; until he opened his mouth in an interview. Any sexy in him went right out the window. That taught me a lot in judging what I personally find attractive in a person.

     

    I am a Nudist at heart, and have belonged to a club long before there were many. When you have been around as many naked people as I have, you learn pretty quick not to buy into the poster people. They are not real. Airbrushed, coiffed, make up, graphic manipulation, all add up to what you see. Yes some people are generally more physically attractive that others; but that does not make others non attractive.

     

    Perhaps I have become a realist where the human body is concerned. In my opinion everyone has something about them that one can find "sexy" or "attractive". To me it's also a package deal. The whole enchilada describes who a person is rather than looks.

     

    When one is young, people tend to buy into the poster people. But maturity and real life usually soon dispel that. I was considered cute at that age and was pretty popular.

     

    Cute usually doesn't last beyond 30 imo. Age and illness has changed my looks, but I am no less comfortable in my skin now than then. And how I view peoples sensuality abruptly changed with the David Lee Roth experience.

     

    I also belong to an historical group. Something that hit me very profoundly one day was a bigger woman saying why she loved dressing up and being in this club. She said it made her feel pretty. That stunned me as I always thought she was anyway. But her perception of her own self was rather skewed in that she still thought of herself as unsexy and unattractive when not wearing the pretty clothes. How does one tell that woman that you are beautiful, clothing or not? You can't. That is their own journey.

     

    I am in complete agreement here with Nathalie. There is always something. And it doesn't take long to figure it out. Intimacy is arousing, being treated well is arousing, men who actually care for me as a person is arousing. Those are the men that I personally want to come back.

     

    Because it is, to some of us, more than just sex.

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  2. Posted

    Great post!!

     

    I am not "out". But I have told a few people. Thankfully they are open-minded enough to understand that both sides of the coin have normal everyday people, and do not apply the stigma. Some have showed incredible surprise. But I have had to educate. I have been very lucky in that sense.

     

    However, the general misconception can only be eradicated by more education of the general public. One of which we are all a part of. That, in and of itself, is difficult without outing yourself. But, I think as time goes on, our culture will change its general attitude, to a point.

     

    There will always be a seedy side to this business simply because it is a demographic. Demographics always have variables, but it is paramount to understand that those variables mostly include everyday people leading everyday lives. Not the reverse.

     

    The Gents that choose to share their lives with me, are for the most part, all normal everyday people. Some of my clients are high profile, so there can be a difference; but the general Gent is just that.

     

    The same goes with most SP's. If you saw me on the street you would never guess my little secret. I am the woman next door, I love my family, am active in my community, care about my neighbours and have many friends.

     

    I in turn extrapolate that to Hobbiests. It is so unfortunate that our culture doesn't see things that way. There doesn't seem to be a middle ground of opinion yet in the civilian world. To be honest I doubt there ever will be total acceptance.

     

    We place too much emphasis on sex in our society. Too much rides on who's doing who, how they're doing it and for what reasons. Until that ends there will always be a stigma. It's unfortunate, but true and wont change.

     

    So until then, humanizing the business is something we can all do, to a certain extent. Some more than others.

     

    I subscribe to SexBrainsMoney and I too applaud Mistert for being so forthcoming. Not everyone can do these types of interviews but the more that are out there, the more it helps. The more advocates that speak out, both SP and Hobbiest, the more mundane it will become. But sadly, not soon enough.

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  3. Posted

    Arrggg

     

    I fixed it.

     

    In the User CP, under "The Image Resizer", I had put zeros where it says "Image width.

    Images wider than this width will be resized. Enter 0 in the field below to allow all widths, or leave the field empty to use the default value of 150"

     

    Well duh. I didn't realize that by taking the resize option away, any pics that were in my Guestbook would expand to their original size and make my page huge!

     

    Live and learn. Thanks for the input.

     

    Chanel

  4. Posted

    Looks fine on my end too. Have you tried going into your computer settings, Tools-Zoom Maybe your Zoom is adjusted too high and needs to be reduced

    Just a thought

    RG

     

    Yes I have my zoom a little higher than normal. but everywhere else is normal for me when I go there. (i.e. forums, others pages, etc.) Im sooo confused.

     

    I'll try again after a nap. lol

  6. Posted

    So I go to my home page here at CERB and it's HUGE. I have tried everything MOD suggested, but to no avail.

     

    If you visit my Page is it to large for your screen? If so; do you have any answers as to how to correct thi. Or is it only my comp thats doing this.

     

    All other pages seem ok, just mine. sigh

     

    Chanel

  8. Posted

    I will attempt to not be heartily offended by this assumption. :( just because I value you as a professional :)

     

    When an sp does answer block calls and payphone calls (and fwiw, a lot of calls from hotels are showing up blocked when they call from their rooms) in my case at least it has nothing to do with desperation, but experience. I've been answering the phone for over 10 years, back in the day when everyone who needed an address would have to call from a payphone, and including the days where all celphones showed up as blocked numbers.

     

    You figure it out. For me, complete time wasters are texters, simply because now they can do the same thing as blocking their numbers by using texting programs, or callers spoof numbers, or whatever. For me, a number can't beat my experience. The worst thing about block #s tho as mentioned is client tracking and knowing for sure, if I can't recognize the voice, that I've seen them before, or even scheduling. Getting 3 different callers using block numbers all indicating similar times, and one calls for the address, who knows which one is the right one. That is the risk they take tho, for not sharing their number, that I give out the time and address to the first call back.

     

    I have a list ten miles long for no shows and time wasters and wankers and ignorantly obscenities where I have their phone #. A number showing or not, it won't turn an ass hat into a gentleman.

     

    I sincerely hope I have not offended you nor anyone else by my assumption. I really suspected this was the norm and next to no one answered blocked numbers. I guess I am wrong and I apologise.

     

    Having said that, I agree with what you are saying regarding client tracking. And yes asshats are asshats, number or not.

     

    I admit to being very surprised though.

  10. Posted

    Has that ever happened, that they've confronted you?

     

    Not as an SP. And if I decide to rent a hotel room, when checking in, I always make small conversation about it being a romantic stay, and my husband will be joining me after work.

     

    But, in the 90's I used to frequent a bar in Hull called Roxanne's. Total metal chick. If I couldn't find a drive I would bus it to the Westin and taxi it from there.

     

    That meant getting off at the Rideau Center and going through the lobby of the hotel. I was confronted on a few occasions and immediately would ask for the Manager and would eloquently rip off a new one to said bellhop in front of him about not judging a book by it's cover. After a while they never bothered me.

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  11. Posted

    Really? A tshirt only? Wow

     

    When doing outcalls, the last thing I want to do is attract attention to myself. Being a 90's metalhead I know how to do that all by myself.

     

    However, if Im going to a 4-5* hotel I might have the sexy dress and lingerie on but I will have a long coat to cover said clothes. And I usually carry a briefcase with bagged toys, condoms, etc; then I cover it with books and papers.

     

    If ever confronted I am able to feign outrage that they would have thought such a thing about me.

     

    Once inside a Gents space however, that all changes.

     

    If I am visiting a regular at his location, I still try to dress accordingly but much more casual and more sexy (no jeans). Of course YYMV as I only do evening outcalls.

     

    And yes I have been known to answer my door naked (a turn on for one of my regular Gents) but always behind the door.

  15. Posted

    2) Never give your cell phone number to an SP. NEVER! Receiving an unsolicited text message from your mistress or SP when your home and the cell phone is left on the kitchen counter may be difficult to explain.

     

    Well Mr Blade, I can see you not getting too many dates. Whose fault is it for being sloppy or confident? Certainly not the SP. And if they don't have your number you don't get to play with a reputable SP. Do you have a work around for this? If so Im sure we'd all like to hear about it.

     

    I am most certainly not trying to cause any drama here, but I find your post rather demeaning to SP's. Why would one want to text or call you unsolicited? Has this happened to you with an SP? She is very indiscreet if she has. Believe me no one wants to chat or garner business by being this bold.

     

    Please understand that a Mistress and an SP are 2 different relationships. Word would certainly get around if an SP did this and her business would dwindle away simply because of her actions. Unless there is a stipulation of "call me whenever", we have more going on in our lives than chatting up a Gent. You are paying for my time, not my business to infringe on yours.

     

    Having said that, sometimes life or an important situation gets in the way and we have to cancel. Rare but it happens. Would you rather show up for a playdate only to have no one home, or her family there?

     

    I trust my Gents to delete any texts we may have shared, and be on top of things when it comes to discretion. The last thing we want is an angry call from the Mrs when the anger should honestly be directed at you and not her.

     

    I don't think you are hearing that in most cases this is a safety measure. Even if you email me and we book a date, you still have to call me when you are on your way to get my actual location. This is standard practice and if you have been in the game for 15 years you should know this.

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  16. Posted

    It's simple.

     

    Most SP's advertise. Most SP's (although not all) fall into a specific cost category. Most SP's have pics and info either here or on their website.

     

    Reading this info can go a long way to answering your questions.

     

    And most SP's will not answer blocked numbers including myself. It is a safety factor but it is also a "oooo theres one of my favourite dates calling" thing. In my experience blocked numbers are a waste of my time and I suspect most other SP's as well.

     

    Safety is truly an aspect, perhaps the main one, that we don't answer blocked. We have only so many places to reference a prospective playdate. And yes most SP's keep a log of "their dates". Whether they're a waste of time by booking and not cancelling, no chemistry, rude, drunk, obnoxious, unhygienic. Whatever.

     

    It is too easy for our information to be out there, but I see no purpose for yours to be hidden. It's not like we are a bunch of women waiting to ruin your lives by hounding you, calling you up for a chat, or "telling" on you. That is like shooting yourself in the foot business wise.

     

    I am very surprised to hear that some will answer blocked calls and suspect these are few and far between. No SP worth her salt would do this. And if you do, you're asking for the lowest common denominator in clients. Obviously desperate for money for some reason or other that does the rest of us no favours.

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  17. Posted

    I have to say I have not read all the previous posts on this thread but I will add this opinion.

     

    Are you in a committed relationship? Does your partner know you are visiting escorts? If the answer to both of those questions is yes then, no, you should not feel guilty.

     

    If you are deceiving someone you love then you should feel guilty, otherwise of course you should not.

     

    There are many reasons men visit SP's. Lets put it this way...if my s/o couldn't cook a steak the way I REALLY loved it, I would go out for said steak. Would I feel guilty, no.

     

    Too many people still equate sex and love. It's a shame really as the two are completely different and can cause so many negative issues. I believe more marriages would be saved if less emphasis was placed on fidelity and more on the things you love to share, companionship, friendship and compatibility in every other way.

     

    While I value your opinion I have to disagree as again, the 2 are separate entities.

     

    Does that diminish the love you have for your s/o? Highly unlikely.

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  19. Posted

    If I may interject here...

     

    Why would your s/o be going through your texts?

     

    Imo this is a breach of privacy and perhaps shows there was already a problem?

     

    It would never occur to me to go through my s/o's phone or his drawer that he keeps "stuff" in. I honestly have no idea what's in there, and don't need to know.

     

    I am glad things worked out for you, but it always makes me shake my head when gfs/bfs/whatever have the nerve to go through your phone or other private things.

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