Sensual Erin

Yikes! Poor you Meg!

Haha! How did I know I was setting myself up for that! I'm a cleaning machine right now and should be bottling it because it won't last long.

Thanks so much everyone. I'm approaching the 16th hour and about to tear into a closet and organize. I have so much nervous energy going on right now so why not use it. It's nice to check in and see the support. It's getting me through the hardest part. :)

Thanks for your support guys. I made the decision to announce it so I don't slip. I'm already crazy restless and just waiting on the mall to open to go blow off some steam and stock up on goodies and gum. Even the sound of my cat meowing is a little irritating right now. :) Today is hour by hour and possibly a little shopping spree to keep me sane.

After five years of full time smoking I finally made the decision to have my final cigarette at 8pm last night. I had a hard time sleeping, tossed and turned after waking up at 4am but am so happy I've made this decision. It's already hard though and feel like I lost a friend. I must have cravings every ten minutes it seems, but enjoying my morning coffee despite the fact I'm not lighting up. After the restlessness of this venture, I know I will be so much healthier and am looking forward to the gradual changes that come with time. Right now though is tough and I figure my closets will be reorganized, I'll be taking a few walks around the block several times a day, chewing gum and hoping I don't yell at anyone. This is going to be a big challenge but am excited about it as it's mind over body.

I'm hoping to take lots of appointments over the next few days as well as my hands must keep busy. This is my good addiction. : ) Anyway, I just felt the need to announce my decision and hoping to stay strong and not slide back into old bad habits. I was closing in at a pack every two days and starting to feel the effects. Morning coughs I know are not sexy! :)

Anyone else going through this?

Awww, feel better Megan. This may sound gross but chewing on a Garlic clove, eating red bell peppers, they have double the vitamin C than citrus fruits, and raw chili peppers if you're feeling really brave. These remedies will knock a cold on it's butt. Rest rest rest and enjoy the time to cuddle up and relax.

Best wishes to you hun! I'm so happy you got an apt. this soon. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

xoxo

I know this topic has come up several times but I feel it must be addressed again.

First of all, I'm a relatively new member here and came on this board with no reviews. My first step was to get to know the board, talk to people, make new friends and establish myself. It's been a gradual process and am very happy I took these steps as I now consider many on here to be friends and the mutual respect has been extraordinary. I'm not new to this business and did have the advantage of having a few references when I did join the board. However, I am very grateful to the Gents that remembered me and gave me a new start on here. It means a great deal to me and I've worked hard to establish my presence. At the same time, it was my pleasure to reassure members here that I am reputable and take the steps necessary to establish a good rapport before a meet.

Now on to to the opposite end of the spectrum for the new Gentleman members. Please take the time to establish yourself on here as well. I don't think any ladies or going to see you if you cannot provide a nice introduction as a new member to be welcomed to this board. When we get a message from someone with no history or reference, we ABSOLUTELY screen. Do you expect us to just say "Oh yes, I have no clue who you are, where you have been, and you can come on over right away." This ties into yesterdays thread I know but it feels like it never ends. We are constantly bombarded with "one liners" and no mannerisms. Please refer to the "getting started" thread if communication is challenging for you. We all need to play safe and I doubt you're going to get anywhere here if you do not take the necessary steps to have a great experience on this board as well as with the ladies. Respect goes very far in this world and an absolute necessity on here as well. If not, you will not get far!

How awesome Megan! I"m a trader and just joined your group. :)

Congrats Meg. :)

Hi Tiffany.

My comment box cut me off so adding here.

I do all my first initial bookings online. An introduction is what I expect in booking. It makes me feel more comfortable to know that I am respected as a lady. Please treat us as one. To approach a lady with these one liners is disrespectful and in my experience, is indicative of a different kind of client that I won't take a chance on. I value my approach and so happy with the Gents that are here and treat us well. :)

Why do I always see so many sides or all of the sides on every issue!!!!!!

 

Yes if I keep reminding myself that it is a business enterprise then well deserved recos are justified and appropriate.

 

I did say that I do read recos myself, but a number of posters above have reminded me of what is most important to me in why I actually do make specific contacts with specific people.

 

For me in reality it IS their public participation in the forums, their way of presenting themselves in discussions and their use of the forums to demonstrate that they are intelligent people with more facets than one.

Well said. Attraction is very much in between our ears. Personality and substance are key for me when choosing who I like to see as well.

I agree with giving a reco if I think the service was top notch, what I am saying is that when I am asked to do so, I feel uncomfortable and almost obligated to do it.

 

It's like asking what the donations are, I don't like to do it and I will avoid it at all cost if I can find it on a site or an add. Being asked to give a review is just leaves me with an uncomfortable feeling.

I do agree with you on the "asking" part. A lady should never have to. I think this is due to a lack of self confidence if she does and at the very least, solicitation. I can understand the feeling. It goes both ways for sure for all of us and nice to hear the opinions of the Gents as well on matters of etiquette. It's not polite. A lady will get reviews or excellent word of mouth, if she provides an outstanding service and values her clients.

This is interesting. I know a few want to see our reviews before they book for reference but do not write them? Instead a thank you note that the experience was great is sent by PM? This generally does not bother me but it's a point.

I agree with Sara as well. If we maintain our presence and contribute to the board we become multi faceted women, not just a kiss and tell experience. Contributions and smarts are very sexy traits too.

If a girl has just started out and "both" know it was a great experience, why not take a few moments to just write a kind word? The experience or "details" do not need to be mentioned. This is business for the ladies so I don't think it's unreasonable to ask, especially if she took the time to answer any concerns or questions outside of the actual session time. It goes both ways and these things do become forgotten and some don't realize the "total" amount of effort the ladies make as well.

You've got a good point. The "other" board allows clients to post bad reviews publicly about providers but nothing is there for the provider to report rude or disrespectful clients? It should go both ways.

It can be difficult to write an add that answers all inquiries about our services. I prefer an initial email contact to answer any other questions privately. I think the information and pictures are suited to each providers comfort level. I personally am not very public, but reveal more info privately. It adds to the anticipation before our encounter. I really enjoy a nice back and forth chat before the meet and usually all questions have been answered.

I don't think a professional picture is necessary if it's from a high quality digital camera and a helpful friend to avoid the mirror and long arm troubles. When I try by myself with a camera I always feel like the old scary commercial, the one with the Bits and Bites guy that tries to stick his hand out of the TV set to give you a handful. Creepy! : )

Coke with a little rum and ice. : )

The communication process can be such a double edge sword as well both ways. I get concerned with meeting a client that wants to see me right away and not have at least a little rapport before a meet.

I think a formal introduction is at least necessary with even a fictitious name. I appreciate a "How are you today?" or anything to address one another and take the first steps to getting comfortable with each other.

I completely agree with how that ladies have responded to this thread and the gents that have gone through the "intro phase" with their experience. I like to initiate a bit of a "getting to know you process" by email to break the ice and add anticipation and seduction to an appointment.

In my experience, I have chatted more with a client that may be a little shy or nervous about the encounter to let them know I'm real, down to earth, and interested in them as a person. This is where it's not just about the hour we spend with you. I know this is a different topic but thinking of another similar thread about "money." Often we will spend a few hours getting to know you and preparing so the one hour fee includes so much more. I know some do not get this and think we are there all day to just talk it up. There have been others as well, that have included a nice additional tip for these kind of services. We don't know until we meet you. I've gone from being tipped generously for my time as well as spending many hours communicating ahead with only compensation for the actual appointment. We learn with experience. I do become uncomfortable as well when clients ask personal sexual fantasies before a meet. I don't know who you are and have other things on the go as well. There are time wasters that will use this approach whether it be by pm or on chat.

All the ladies I have spoken with are great people with wonderful reviews and contribute to this community with thought, respect and grace. If you take the time to look us up, read our thoughts, our contributions and get to know our personalities a bit......,,,there shouldn't be anything more that just good old ice breaking before the appointment.

Oh boy this one makes me think, but love it! ; )

Concrete Blond Caroline

I'm making dinner right now. Stouffers TV dinner, of turkey, mashed potatoes, stuffing, and added knorr gravy to make it similar and experience the same level of proportion of quantity to food flattery, versus quantity? I think I matched up on two of the most significant, instead of four? That equals Y=5.44x+6.62, on the "good cook" ratio right? : )

Thank you, Winnepegcub. I knew eventually someone would understand these observations. If we have no communicative understanding of each other or limited skills in this area, I wish us all luck in our journey of understanding what lies beneath us all.....; )

Hugs,

Erin

I'm reading a book called Mathematics and Sex and just had to share a part of it:

Y=5.44x+6.62

Don Byrne and Don Nelson uncovered the equation. This is the relationship they found between attraction and similarity. The equation says this: when you are chatting with someone, it is not how many topics you see eye to eye on, but the proportion of topics on which you do that affects attraction. The higher the proportions of similar attitudes, the greater the liking will be. So if you discuss two topics like music and food, and match up on one, you will experience the same level of attraction as if you discussed four and matched up on two. And whether you are discussing how you feel about abortion or dark chocolate is secondary. It is all about proportion or quantity of similarity, not quantity. It's interesting and I'm sure this can be used to seduce someone. The key is to make sure you do a lot of agreeing. but the beauty is you don't have to compromise when it comes to these topics you feel passionate about. Just make sure you steer the conversation on to something trivial every so ofter and agree with whatever the seducee puts forth. Easy as 1, 2, 3! (Is this a math joke?!)

The more you approve of someone's personal attributes, whether they are ideas, actions or looks, the more they will be attracted to you. So commenting on how yummy someone's cooking is (something personal) is going to be more favorable in terms of attraction than agreeing with their views on the latest political party (impersonal-well, for most people) Flattery will get you everywhere, but not everyone has it!

Just my rambling half cent this morning and wondering if this makes for good dinner party conversation? lol!

For me it's space and silence. When I feel I'm becoming out of balance and there's too much noise in my brain, I turn off the phone, pry away from the computer and enjoy a hot bath.

As I get older and possibly not as patient, I find myself on a path to becoming more understanding, living by the moment, and forgiving most silly human behaviors when people tick me off. A glass or two of wine helps as well on that note....: )

Here's one:

Devendra Singh found men judged woman with waist to hip ratios close to 0.7 particularly attractive, usually in the range 0.68 to o.72. The ratio is calculated by dividing the waist measurement to the hip measurement. So Cameron Diaz according to http://www.babewarehouse.com has the measurements 34 23 32, has a hip to waist ratio of 23 divided by 32. =0.72, while Pamela Anderson with measurements 36 24 36 has a waist to hip ratio of 0.67. Since Cameron barely scrapes into the sexy range and Pamela is outside of it all together, they must not have the bodies to fit Devendra's study. Hhhhmmmm....??? lol!