TheMike

I scored a 3, which I guess means I am in no way a sex addict. I would think the test would have been upwardly biased because to the questions of whether or not I would hide my sexual behaviours/etc. from others, I always answered "Yes", simply because it's no one's business but mine. Some people seem to think that not wanting to share every intimate detail of your life automatically means you have a problem.

I was not drawn to see an SP by horniness alone, although I was horny when I first did, of course. I can take care of my horniness by myself if I need to. But eventually, curiousity just kind of kills the cat (good thing satisfaction brings him back!). You start to wonder what the sexual experience is like. If I'm being honest, and why shouldn't I be on a board like this, my only sexual experiences so far have been with SPs. And I don't regret that at all, nor do I feel like a loser in any way. In fact, it's quite the opposite. It was a confidence booster after the first time, and every time since. It really made me realize that I'm not inadequate, I can have sex, I can be intimate, I just haven't found a girl that I want to devote an extraordinary amount of time to. And as others mentioned, the variety available as well as the fact that your obligation doesn't extend beyond your agreed-upon time together is a huge bonus. If people only had sex with those they dated, we'd only really have sex with a few types of people (I'm talking more about personality types). But when I know that my time together is not followed by further obligation, I'm more comfortable having encounters with various women without being too concerned about their personality. That is not to say that I am not interested in their personality, it just means that if I dislike them (has not yet happened) it's no big deal. It's true, free sex is never actually free. Either I'd pay for it through dates and time, or I'd pay for it through the potential dramatic aftermath of a one night stand, if it was with someone I knew. If not, I would likely be having sex with a sloppy drunk. With an SP there's no drama because she doesn't want it to go any further, either. Just my ill-informed two cents.

I don't think that you're a hypocrite for that. Personally, I've always thought that a person's sex life is nobody's business but their own and the people they're having sex with (for obvious safety reasons, primarily). I don't mind talking about certain girls' looks with my friends, but who I'm having sex with, how often, and on what terms is, in my opinion, not something everyone needs to know, simply because it has no affect on them whatsoever. I wouldn't be comfortable talking to my parents or friends about my sex life even if I was having sex with my hypothetical wife (I'm not married).

I'll echo some previous sentiments and say that I do not remember being explicitly told "sex for pay is wrong." However, as someone else said, it was basically just society's expectation that I would believe it. It was always implied that it was wrong, by parents, teachers, and other various authority figures, and so like many other people I grew up just kind of believing it. Although, I have to say, I don't know if I ever really believed it THAT strongly. It wasn't something I ever remember being appalled by at any time. As I got into my teen years though, and started hearing about abortion, and started becoming a believer in pro-choice, that sort of opened up the idea of a woman's right to do what she wants with her own body, which then extended to a human's right to do what they wish with their own body. And also, getting into looking at porno as many teenage guys do, raised the same questions. Pretty soon I started to see a few different laws that I thought (and still think) are unjust government interferences. Anyway, I guess you could say the abortion debate led me to what I think today, and not just about prostitution/escorting/etc.