MsManda

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Good boy 😂

Most people are actually great; I've been particularly fortunate and I grateful for my clients ❤️ We're just showing why we can't promise everything to everyone who messages, because we've learned the hard way to use ymmv

GO WASH YOUR ASS RIGHT NOW 😂

I think it's an act of protest at being told what to do lol Like they think we won't notice? Or that it'll help their experience? Idk man 😂 It's not like we WANT to have to tell em to go back to the shower 😭

I mean, that's kind of the point lol and I don't mind, it's part of being in the service industry But they should also consider the other person involved for such intimate things, if they want the best time possible We're humans, not sexbots lol

This part And it happens more than the dudes here realize, I think 😭 We're known for being a safer bet than random civvy hookups, but that also means we have to be responsible for our health and safety over everything, including men's requests sometimes A lot of guys see ymmv as a cop out, but it's there for a reason

It's just tricky because yes, things can be on the table, but no, that doesn't mean that every encounter gets every single acronym. Having a checklist doesn't allow things to flow as smoothly, and sometimes the flow doesn't hit every single acronym or request in 60 mins 🤷 She also may enjoy certain things, but not with every person.. Some people bite and my experience matters too 😭😂 Lol well I'm glad at least one person took my 💩 post to heart. Spread the good word (and those cheeks) hahhaha

Not regarding extras, but about the acronyms being offered or not Hygiene should be a given Ymmv because of hygiene etc in this industry, should be a given, not a complaint Just some noteworthy examples: I have met a man who loved to daty and it was very important to him. He booked a longer appt, but when I arrived, his breath smelled like rotting gym shoes in a way that mouthwash could certainly not fix He thought he was freshly showered etc 🤷 another shower wouldn't have helped Without giving more detail, I'm sure you can see how this made for an awkward time for all involved Many have been sent back to the shower, only to return to bed still dirty in the most necessary places, or take fake showers FAKE SHOWERS 😭 So no, we can't be expected to provide every single service to every single person who asks. I've almost totally stopped agreeing to specifics beforehand now, and stress ymmv, because I had an entire year of people either pooping my bed, or having the most severe hygiene issues I've encountered in my whole career. That ended, but it was an entire year, every city I toured, because apparently the shit comes in waves 💩😭 Y'all are worried about losing some cash on the gamble, but sps literally gamble their health and safety with every booking they accept. It's actually in the community's best interest that us sps do decline some people some things that they want We have to prioritize ourselves, just like you do ♥️

To play devils advocate myself.. 😈 We all know that massage doesn't usually carry the same ymmv risk as certain expected gfe services would need to 🤷 He said in his original post that he was denied for hygiene I don't know you @Halifaxseeker, and I'm certainly not trying to shame anyone, so I won't elaborate on why someone might be denied based on ymmv for gfe specific services, but this isn't the same as ordering a massage, or a cheeseburger lol McDonald's doesn't care about the state of your hygiene 🤷 These are higher risk/ intimate services, which is why they're ymmv at all

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This is too loaded for even me to wanna touch it 🤦 .. But.. 👀🍿

Idk.. Lyla members make up such a small portion of the overall community here, that I'd still keep an eye on them for dates, if you're interested in them 👀 I follow providers on Twitter/X who are never mentioned here on lyla, but must do well because they keep coming back 🙂

He sees us like the cops do Nhi No human involved 🤦

Thank goodness this guy doesn't dictate the norms and standards omg 🤦

And interestingly enough, they don't make true crime docs about any of the above .. But they do about what happens to sps Sounds like we're not actually asking too much considering we risk our lives to meet strange men Clearly, even if we find clients in a reputable place like this, it's doesn't mean that we'll automatically be treated with respect People tend to act more respectfully when they leave a trail vs anonymous

Just come out and say you dont respect sps or their comfort why dontcha 🤦😂

Rapport is everything, and to establish that with a stranger via the Internet can be tricky, so we screen to establish a smidge of trust. The client should have done his research and somewhat trust us to even contact us at all. Both sides are supposed to do what we can to make these experiences go well, and resisting screening isn't exactly trust and rapport building 🤦 We're humans after all, not service dispensers lol

This forum is 🤦 because on one thread people will complain that Hfx has so few providers at all that you should just fly to another continent, but now there are somehow dozens of providers who don't screen? The math isnt mathing I'm not even trying to argue, but more I want this on the record for new sps who might come reading these threads and feel the pressure to not screen, like that's standard, when it's not

That's the lolz 😂 Whole ID verification is only done by a handful of sps, and for some of us it's situational, not standard I still verify who you are, but I don't usually need your ID card to do that, in the age of the internet My kind of clientele want me to be comfortable anyways, knowing that a happy and safe feeling provider is going to give them the best experience. They don't hassle me about screening because they understand why we do it, and want me to be comfortable, not on edge, when meeting a stranger ❤️

THANK YOUUUUUU 🙏

There's that ONE time that everyone here likes to bring up from a few years ago; a man that we HAD to identify between us sps, who had used fake aliases for screening with at least 10 girls, then written reviews on a number of sps who claimed to have never met him because he lied about who he was. He tried to use multiple girls as references who had claimed to have never met him, hence how a conversation was even started between us sps He also got wrong info from here and was pretending he knew things about sps - leading to safety issues when someone thinks they're paying for something that was never actually on the table, because they discussed things in the DMs here and assumed, rather than discuss with the sp he was booking 🤦 We couldn't know who we were meeting and the situation raised security issues for a number of us. It took 10 - 15 of us sps chatting and screening to sort out who tf this was. So yes, I'll keep to knowing who's visiting my location, thanks. If anything happens, I need to know who you are Tbh with how some men discuss us and circulate our info behind the scenes here, I wouldn't expect any sp to not thoroughly screen, especially lyla members. I've had a stranger describe my entire incall apartment to me - thanks to the pm system 🙄 Screening isn't some new protocol, it's been around for my entire career, but the newer ID screening here came about from necessity, which you can actually thank a prolific poster on lyla for 👀

Screening has been standard since at least 2014 🙄 You're going to limit yourself to certain providers, or maybe yfl if you're unwilling to screen No town is too small for sps to use measures that help keep them safe and alive ❤️

Take one for the team

All of the Erbs are independent of each other The issue for the Maritimes forums over the past years has been engagement. There's just not enough of it, and not much is done to encourage new members to join, let alone interact on the forums. Also, with so many sps moving away from the reviews model, I'm not sure what can be done about this, besides having it be a more welcoming place for both sps and clients 🤷 maybe more people would want to engage here? Idk With the lack of mods here, I don't see that happening tbh. This forum was more of an active community when I started; I built my business here 💕 but its gone downhill since the switch from CERB to lyla 😞 Sps do follow the money though, and the clients follow the sps, sooo take from that what you will.