Cjthomas

Wtf is the point of coming on here to say this person wasn’t for you. Are some of you that in need of attention. Who gives a  f* if you didn’t like a provider. If she’s not your cup of tea move on. She provided you service, is attractive, her advertising isn’t misleading. She didn’t rip you off.  So who cares if she wasn’t your cup of tea. How does coming on here to say she wasn’t for you benefit anyone other than your egos?

17 minutes ago, Halifaxseeker said:

What if this provider is doing the same thing with everyone just to reel them in they say they do whatever was agreed upon and once the session is started they say they can’t. That is not fair at all!

Who is everyone? 2 people, 5, 10, 30. Look I’m not defending false advertising or deceptive practices. But it’s still speculation. We don’t know the circumstances and each time someone visits with a provider only the provider and that client can tell what’s happened or not. So without both sides of the story it’s a he said she said situation. But go ahead and believe what makes you sleep better. If you haven’t discussed this with said provider you’re still making assumptions and speculating as to why YOU didn’t receive the services you sought.

3 hours ago, minuteman06 said:

That's exactly what I stated but the op was wondering why services were denied when he thought he had done everything right in preparation for the date.  Your example is an obvious one, no one would (or should) argue that and there are many other examples of the same situation.  Maybe the question is; did the op over inflate himself thinking he was squeaky clean and perfectly hygienic or was it a case of promises over communication pre visit where the woman had zero intentions all along of following through with anything.  The later could also be a case sometimes where just about anything is said to get the client there and either no intentions of follow through or at least not without an upcharge on the woman's part.

All those scenarios happen. So in any one specific scenario when something isn’t provided who will you believe. The provider or client. That is why I don’t understand coming here and asking questions as to why a service wasn’t provided. Isn’t that provider the only one who can answer that truthfully? Anything else is just speculation. 

1 hour ago, MikeyInHalifax said:

They all have the same variation of

 

"I'm new here... Can you tell me about X"

 

Almost as though they're checking on who is real and who isn't...

 

It's a little creepy

Might be a coincidence but I noticed a bit ago  that most of the recent who’s  the best threads were  all started by new accounts almost consecutively. Perhaps I’m being suspicious.

No reviews aren’t necessarily a red flag. The provider could be new or may not welcome being reviewed. You are doing the right thing by asking them if they would appreciate a review prior to writing one. As far as knowing if you are being scammed. If you have visited with this person a couple of times without problems then you should feel safe with them. If they start asking you for things beyond payments agreed upon or if the service changes then perhaps wonder. As of now it doesn’t appear that there are any red flags. Use your common sense, intuition, and read through this site. Lots of helpful information here. It is also important to research each person you are wanting to meet. Look for their social media, website, ads. Google their phone number and their pictures. If they allow a conversation before meeting ask them any questions that you may not find answers to on their ads or websites. 

10 hours ago, sinvx said:

Heres an example that people change. I had an amazing experience with them, while others didn't. And a personal example I don't mind talking it up with SP's.
 

 

Didn’t want to keep this thread going but your response left me laughing. Can you not see the humour in your response? In one instance you complained that a reputable provider wasn’t to your liking because they charged you for your time and you chose to spend it talking. When the time expired she asked you to leave. In this instance you knowingly overstayed your time without paying just talking and smoking . So it’s not that talking is the problem it’s the paying for the talking and being asked  to leave when the time expires  you seem to take issue with. As I’ve said before this forum needs to be called Local Comedy not discussion. It never stops😂

Mikey I agree with most of your reply. Although I have yet to understand the amount of talk that is shared among some of us. You”d think that some of us have nothing to do other than talk about the providers we visit. I will no longer share details about my visits and I don’t feel the need to discuss with anyone my feelings concerning any provider. I hope those I see offer me the same respect

3 hours ago, monogamishfun said:

In my original comment, I provided feedback that the encounter was perfectly safe. Sometimes that has value to people who might be weary to visit. I guess next time I just won't respond.

 

I think most here have a good understanding of YMMV. I didn't dispute anyone else's positive experiences with the provider.

I can’t speak for most but after reading numerous posts which lean blame towards the provider when service is said to be lackluster  or vanilla, I’ll disagree that there is a general understanding of ymmv. What I take issue with is that making such comments can possibly cause a safe to see and real provider a detrimental loss in their business or reputation . All over something  as benign as incompatibility. Why not just move on? Dangerous people should be called out but people who are providing a service as advertised need not be. 

Apparently there needs to be more discussion concerning what ymmv actually means. Even repeat encounters with a  favourite regular provider can be lackluster. Lots of reasons for a lackluster session. Some of which can be attributed to something we the client did or didnt do. We should consider that before coming here to complain that a provider wasn’t as great as someone else found her to be. I also find it annoying when it’s assumed that because a provider hasn’t any reviews  or any recent reviews that we should be dubious of them. Not every provider wants to be reviewed and most established providers don’t need new ones to affirm their professionalism or legitimacy.  So many here have been hobbying and members for many years and yet continue to ignore the basics of this industry and common sense. 

48 minutes ago, Lemmy Caution said:

Holy shit. You guys are still out here patting yourselves on the back for being so respectful to the needs of providers? You're too much 😂

You can continue to give out your personal info to whomever you like. I wouldn't trust my best friend with this info. None of you must have: a girlfriend, a wife, a public-facing job, or a decent amount of money. Because the prospect of potentially ruining your life or livelihood over getting laid is insane. And sure, you go ahead and "do your homework". But at some point you'll send it to the wrong person and you will get in trouble for it. Hell, it might not have to be the fault of the provider. Ask Google, or Canadian Tire, or the fucking federal government. Digital data is not secure.

I've had no issues seeing plenty of people and keeping it as anonymous as possible. And I'm super respectful, I assure you. Often to the point of limiting my own pleasure at the risk of doing something to make them at all uncomfortable.

But I will be doing so anonymously.

And yet here you are, again! Let me caution you Lemmy Caution. Once you are on the web you are not anonymous. Anyone with the right amount of experience can find you if they truly wanted to. The few of  you who keep trying to impress upon others that you’ve some how protected yourselves by contacting escorts who don’t screen while posting here under your pseudonyms is laughable. What I don’t understand is your irreverence towards those who screen and your constant need to come here to tell everyone why you won’t see those escorts. Why not just hire who you prefer and go about your day. Some of you are starting to sound like paranoid, petty jerks who can’t stand seeing women having the ability and right to run their business as they see fit.

1 hour ago, Lemmy Caution said:

Why would you be so eager to give up real name, ID and a deposit? If they steer the conversation to those things, that's a non-starter. This town is too small to have those things floating around out there. And you're putting it in text. That shit is forever.

Try asking them for their real name and ID 😆

When was the last time one of us hobbyists from this board was outed? Over the past numbers of months at least a half dozen times I’ve read  posts in which the providers incall location was posted. I’ll continue to trust those providers who screen. You can continue  to choose those who don’t. It’s called choice. No one is arguing that. Yet the implications that our id or other information is compromised in the hands of a reputable provider has to stop and before Steve comes at me again to call me me a simp  or that I’m hoping to get free pussy. Let me say that I am here because I enjoy hiring beautiful women and paying for their time. Maybe Steve should do that more and stop watching so many Andrew Tate videos

My best might not be the next guys  so would it really be helpful posting their names? This is different than a recommendation and if you have a few different names being mentioned  as the best do you then post asking which of that group wins the title? This is why I find these best of threads pointless and somewhat insulting. It’s also interesting that these recent best of threads are all started by very new members who after positing them don’t participate further.

On 2/14/2026 at 10:22 PM, BenDover said:

in the sober light of next day , i wouldn’t repeat 

 

Well this explains a lot. Might be a good idea to seek some help for that drinking problem

20 hours ago, MikeyInHalifax said:

 

 

Imo it really boils down to how you treat her. If your respectful, not pushy and don't try to haggle, you'll probably have a good experience.

 

If you're the opposite, you will definitely have a bad experience. 

 

 

Some of the grifters here will never understand that. Any provider who is authentic will have good and bad experiences. Some of us are understanding to that. Others will find the need to come here and cry about it while laying the blame solely on the provider.

43 minutes ago, addictedone said:

Fit? Am I looking at the same photos as you or are our definitions of fit vastly different? 

Why do some of you  always have to shit on someone’s recommendation just because you see it differently. If you don’t like or agree with someone’s opinion of another providers looks how about you just don’t see them and keep your mouths shut. We most certainly are all entitled to our opinion but that doesn’t mean it requires posting.  This is supposed to be a positive board. A board that encourages recommendations and which has a slogan “if you have nothing nice to say say nothing at all”. Try saying nothing at all for a change!

I’ve had great success with tryst. There are some wonderful ladies that post there that aren’t on here. There are also some ladies here that don’t post on there. Best of luck with your search.

On 1/4/2026 at 8:50 PM, BenDover said:

she was here late dec,  texted me to meet up 

i saw her twice before 

Does she know? A well respected  active member of this board messaged me. Within that message was some very concerning information about you. Do the ladies a favor and leave them alone.

On 1/13/2026 at 6:44 PM, BenDover said:

lost me at FT 

I’m sure she won’t mind

11 hours ago, StephanieMystique said:

You seem to answer all your own questions of why you shouldn't send a deposit. All of this has been discussed in great lengths on this board. 

NEW, no history, minimal advertising, low rates - these aren't reputable individuals. 
If they are new and requesting a deposit. They better have a website, multiple advertising platforms (bare minimum local board, leo, tryst, massagerepublic), Socials like X or bluesky, snapchat or IG. Bonus if they have OF or a fans page. 
Otherwise they haven't built their reputation yet and shouldn't be getting a deposit. or you risk losing however much you put forth. 

 

Low end sites - Remember they are in the marketing business. They do not care who is advertising as long as they are making their money. They are also good for having filler ads so those paying, have to pay more, more often to stay relevant. Verified on these sites are require before you can open an account and it's just a paper with a body. The low-end sites don't have the time to track or care about individual ads. 

Better Sites - Lyla.ch ,  massagerepbulic, tryst.link   - I just had to submit heavier verification for tryst so they can fight the scams on their site. 

We don't need more overlords for how to conduct our businesses. We need people to remember it's a person on either side and go back to building our society with trust. When I started, I didn't need deposits. People would show up when they said they would 90% of the time. Now, IF I don't take a deposit they are 90% guaranteed not to show up. I take a "hefty" deposit as I have found anything under $100 is still 50/50 for them to show up or not. I've also had to up my deposits to 25% on longer bookings. I'm not stealing deposits. I want my time accounted for and respected like any professional. 

 

 

It’s been said a number of times by reputable people here that Lyla is owned by Leolist or vice versa. So I’m curious as to how that makes one site better than the other? Especially with the amount of nonsense that’s written on this site. Outing providers in call locations, childish insults, judgements towards services, and other things said here which shouldn’t be allowed. Instead I would recommend looking at social media when wanting to know about a particular provider. Rather than relying on any sites credibility since they’re all flawed and following the other steps you’ve included. I’d also recommend if the provider allows it speak to them directly. Doing so has never failed me. 

14 hours ago, AdamSandler said:

If there's a harassing client she should be posting in the section for SPs only, not publicly for everyone. If this harasser starts posting she can obviously respond but posting in this thread isn't helpful to anyone 

If? I’ll take her word for it. I’ll also support her posting wherever she sees fit. just as you seem to do. Ignore what you dislike and unless you’re a mod it’s not your place to tell anyone where or what to post.

11 hours ago, AdamSandler said:

She’s posting in a Halifax thread about someone from Moncton messing with her. You’re right people shouldn’t cause issues for other people but also this is not the place for her to post about it. Just let this thread fade away please.

Maybe read the last post she posted. She said she suspected the person harassing her to be someone from here. I know it’s not on par with what you like to post and read but she has every right to post here if she chooses. I’d like the redundant “have you seen” threads to fade away but we all can’t get what we want.

6 hours ago, stevenwilson said:

I see this as a business. yes we all have our personal things going on but we still manage to make it regardless. We all have our personal problems and we still go to jobs everyday. imagine you running a business and forget to deliver services to customers multiple times just coz you had a bad day or something came up. Do you actually think customers gonna take you seriously after that ? You guys can book the SP again as much as you want, but if I had an agreement with someone and my time is being disrespected, i would simply move on and never do business again with that person. Majority of you guys have been into this hobby since way long, aren't you guys still aware about value of time ? start respecting your time just like SPs respect theirs. They wont let you go even 10 mins beyond the time you booked for, and here you are waiting like a moron for 15-20 mins hoping to bust a nut. Its not that deep. keep reminding yourself this is just a hobby, don't get addicted to it, and if you are already addicted, get addicted to right girl, who would treat you right. and respect your time like you do hers. and give service as per your money. Like YFL, they don't ever miss. You get more value for your time there and guarantee of no headaches. 

Unless its YFL, i don't tolerate any BS

In response to your last sentence. Isn’t that a tad biased? Why allow bs from anyone. Here you are shaming some for being patient or forgiving to one provider while you claim to allow bs if it’s a provider from a particular group. I find that strange. But then again many things said here are strange.

On 11/21/2025 at 10:08 PM, Prufrock's Back said:

Just wondering how to cancel an account here, its been years since anything significant is posted here.

 

With thanks

PF

Try sending a note using the contact us at the bottom of the page. I’ve gotten a reply using it. Must say I can’t blame you. Since I’m mainly in Nova Scotia now I’ve noticed the only people using this site here are same group who post over and over again in the discussion forum asking the same redundant questions in between their snide remarks.  This general discussion forum hasn’t had any relevant posts in years. It’s disappointing because this once was a place to learn and share by those with good intentions. Now the only section worth looking at is the advertising section. 

😂😂😂

Anyone know if this Ben Dover person is a  fellow hobbyist or a child? I ask because I can’t imagine a grown man trolling other members posts because we like someone he seems to take issue with. As I’ve mentioned before this person claimed to have met her 15 years ago in a post that was deleted. Isn’t it time he moved on. Holding a grudge towards anyone for that long is neither healthy or normal. Then to troll those of us who enjoy her company as I see it is a clear sign that something isn’t right with him.