Escorts on dating sites

[roamingguy 300291]

I've come across two popular providers, well known on CERB, making profiles on online dating web sites.

 

Does anyone know if these ladies are genuinely looking for dating/relationships, or are they using the sites to market their services?

 

If the latter, I wonder if they would be open to be approached (through the site email/chat system) in men who engage providers, or those who have actually engaged their own services at some time.

 

Well to me the purpose of a dating site is to seek someone for a date, and maybe it develops into a relationship

The purpose of an escort recommendation board amongst other things is to find a lady for paid companionship

I'm sure no raised eyebrows if a man was on Lyla and also on a dating site

Why questions about a companion on Lyla who may also seek in her private life a date and relationship through a dating site

We all have different facets of our lives, this isn't the only thing in our lives

Now if a lady (who happens to be an professional companion) on a dating site interests you because she actually interests you, then contact her. If she replies, you need to be upfront that you see escorts. If you end up having a date, and you show up, a former client, she likely would feel you entered her private life and she would consider it a major betrayal. Unless she knew before hand you are also a client

And if you do contact her for a date, realize a dating site men and women are looking for something different than on a site like Lyla. So if the lady agrees to a date through a dating site that doesn't mean she is seeing you in any way shape or form as a professional companion. Meaning don't expect what you'd expect on a first encounter with a professional companion

But most important, be upfront with the lady before you even meet face to face

A rambling

 

RG

[Severn 111]

I have met some of the most human people I know dancing in clubs and working as MAs in massage parlours or as escorts. I have also been on a dating site. I can imagine dating someone who works in the sex trade but I wonder if the "regular" women one meets on such sites would like to date someone they knew had such experience. No sense saying "yeah but . . . " gentlemen.

[Kate von Katz 49953]

but I wonder if the "regular" women one meets on such sites would like to date someone they knew had such experience. No sense saying "yeah but . . . " gentlemen.

 

Not to hijack this thread, but I really feel the need to address this. The reality is that we're stigmatized. Ladies in this industry are - generally - considered to be of questionable moral standing, less clean and overall less respectable than women who are not in this line of work.

 

This extends to the gentlemen, too. It was pretty clear in that piece of shit known as C-36 where gentlemen who visit us ladies are painted as a bunch of lecherous, depraved perverts.

 

Stereotypes exist and they're hard as hell to eradicate. Lots of guys won't date me because of my work, and lots of ladies won't date a man if they knew he'd been with a companion. Even though most of us companions get tested far more often than the average person and are not a bunch of wonton trollops on the loose, people still have some pretty awful opinions of us, and the men who visit us by proxy.

 

It's shameful, but a reality. As RG said: be upfront. I have a personal rule that if I'm dating a guy and things seem to be going well, after a couple weeks (before we sleep together) I let him know what my job is. That way he has had a chance to get to know me, and hopefully those stereotypes and preconceived notions he might be carrying around suddenly won't hold much weight. It doesn't always work: our beliefs can be pretty deeply imbedded, but I prefer to let people see who I am before slapping a label on me.

[Andee 220524]

I went on a dating site once for personal reasons and could not believe the number of guys looking for NSA sex. The ones who said they wanted to date and see where it went basically were not interested in me when I wouldn't jump into bed with them on the first date.

 

As a result I have concluded trying to meet someone online for my personal life is not for me.

 

I do know a few ladies who do have profiles to promote their business but they are upfront about that pretty quickly to prospective suitors.

[Guest P*rry]

To mix a dating site to a site like Cerb is akin to mixing water and wine. Unless you're in church it doesn't work.

 

I plan to be on a dating site in the near future and see no reason to stop being on here ... at least for now. Lol! I don't see this as a character defect in myself. And, I won't see it as such in another person.

 

If I see a SP/MA on a dating site, I'm not going to think she's trolling for business. Rather, I'll be happy for that person looking for a relationship.

 

My approach would be the same as those best practices found on another thread about what do you do if you meet a SP/MA at the grocery store. You be discrete.

 

Rexscott: You started a good topic.