Sex Work is Work!

[Carrie Moon 68826]

Haha, well, it's more like I *hope* there will be sex. Lately I've been getting a lot of oral lovin' and wrestlers. I don't think I've actually been penetrated (by an actual penis anyway) in at least a month.

 

eek.. that's horrible..

 

seems it's always the fetish and oral loving guys who want to do everything but fuck that you really want to fuck you eh?:bddog:

[VedaSloan 119179]

eek.. that's horrible..

 

seems it's always the fetish and oral loving guys who want to do everything but fuck that you really want to fuck you eh?:bddog:

 

It's always the way. ALWAYS.

[Andee 220524]

It's always the way. ALWAYS.

 

Which is why some of us keep "boys (and girls) on the side".

[Lexy Grace 103696]

I agree with you Megan! I always say that I have to "work" but again, loving what I do makes a big difference.

 

For myself personally, I think I have more correspondence and paperwork to tend with time wise with this profession compared to when I was a manager and ran a whole store. I like that I make my own hours mostly for that though!

 

I do, in one sense, find it weird to call work, cause it's like dating for me... So that's not work, but fun...

 

I do get a good leg workout sometimes, hehe that's work ;)

I agree and always call this profession my "fun job or work". It is like dating without all the drama and sometimes heartbreak.

 

Additional Comments:

I always look at my encounters as a "date" and the "envelope" is always placed in a manner,so she gets it. Very seldom do I use the word donation, I would place an envelope, and say "this is for you"

I like that Pete and most people about 95%, who I meet with do the same.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

That reminds me of a story an SP once told me about when she went to an out-call and it was the very same thing you described - the envelope was on the box of chocolates. The guy opened the box and offered her one, which she took. At the end of the date, he took the box and put it in the fridge. She said she would have had more than one if she had have known the box wasn't for her.

 

Back to the thread....

 

I can't even begin to understand how is that related to me (since you quoted my post in your post). The box of chocolate is always a small present for the lady to take with her!!!. It is symbolic and its intention is to feel her welcomed and her time and presence appreciated. She is a precious person (not piece of meat), a guest and a princess (and she is my date in my home my preference and my choice what to call it) and is always treated like one.

 

On one recent date I had, the lady forgot her box of chocolate, so as I was driving her home, in the middle of the way I turned back to my home to picked up the box (she was very sad and disappointed about forgetting her present) and she was very happy that I did. They are always happy to see this extra treatment lol. Again a choice, and it is mine.

 

Additional Comments:

My issue is with the word "date" being used in place of "paid sex" in order to blur the lines as to what is going on. Though, I do not want to put words in his mouth, SA has commented in this thread and others, using the word date in the context of something you might have in your personal life, and not the actual dictionary definition of the word, which does include appointments. Used in this context it is misleading.

 

As others have said it correctly, the word "date" is a perception and an individual's choice and as I have said it before we have a healthy community with diverse views and perceptions who have the rights to hold their views and freedom to express it without fear.

 

As Seymour said it very well, many have hired escorts for non-sexual activities (one example being myself). I have invited ladies (including escorts) when we had danced or had dinner together only. Not to everyone sex is the centerpoint of encounter. Companionship and passion is important too. In fact I remember one middle age dancer told me thatwhen escorting started, in its earlly days it was only dating (dinner and dancing) and only later it included sex (true or false I don't know) and recently became a requirement for some.

 

I do like to make it clear though (as I have said it before) by using the perception of date, i do NOT mean for free (I thought I have been here long enough for people to know me better). Ladies' time must be fully compensated and more.

 

We must accept diversity (of views and perceptions) if we want to maintain our healthy community. Again my view. I fully accept the view of those who prefer to view the encounter different to mine (ours) and fully respect their views (to hold and express) and expect same for our side of views.

[PistolPete 61421]

Alright here is a couple more for ya...but who really cares it is all in the eye of the individual participating.:roll:

 

"An affair to remember"

"An obsession"

" A fling"

 

 

Don't worry, I never try to convince myself that I'm not paying, and yes it is not always about the sex,but that certainly is a bonus for the both of us.

 

I have found ladies that we are having great sex together we have chemistry and lastly....great friendship!

 

Now that is important to me, friendship.

[Guest s******ecan****]

... and I really think we have to make it work on a different level before we start trying to convince the common public that our work deserves the same amount of respect as other jobs. (It's a hard sell)

 

 

A perceptive viewpoint. Realistically in cultural terms we're a long way from this and with the rising influence of conservative religious factions (right across all the major religions) it may even get tougher.

[PistolPete 61421]

I was thinking about the use/term of "date", I understand what the ladies are stating.

 

For now on I have an "appointment" with my "Oral Hygienist":mrgreen:

[Old Dog 179138]

The brazen young man with a 'tude,

Said, "Yo, I'm a good looking dude,"

He figured his "date,"

Should be paid half the rate,

As he admired himself, in the nude.

 

So, he surfed the CERB ads with that thought,

Thinking, "She won't reject me, I'm hot!"

He made a few choices,

And imagined the voices,

Scream his name as he found the right spot.

 

But no one accepted this snob,

And no one would touch his wee knob,

You see, this rude jerk,

Never thought of this work,

As a valid and substantive job.

 

The moral, my friends, is quite true,

Whether booking with Jane, Beth or Sue,

When you bargain a session,

You'll soon learn a lesson,

That ends with your palm, full of goo.

[Andee 220524]

I can't even begin to understand how is that related to me (since you quoted my post in your post). The box of chocolate is always a small present for the lady to take with her!!!. It is symbolic and its intention is to feel her welcomed and her time and presence appreciated. She is a precious person (not piece of meat), a guest and a princess (and she is my date in my home my preference and my choice what to call it) and is always treated like one.

 

On one recent date I had, the lady forgot her box of chocolate, so as I was driving her home, in the middle of the way I turned back to my home to picked up the box (she was very sad and disappointed about forgetting her present) and she was very happy that I did. They are always happy to see this extra treatment lol. Again a choice, and it is mine.

 

I simply said it reminded me of that time it happened to my friend,so I quoted you to keep the context (about the chocolates) because you described it pretty much the same way, that's all (envelope on top of the box).

 

In this case the client actually put the chocolates in the fridge in front of her - it was not a case of her forgetting them, so you you need not be worried I was referring to the lady you drove home who forgot them.

 

I don't see any need to get so defensive.

[Victoria Banks 21899]

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[Anjali 100]

I know the original post for this thread was ages ago but I just wanted to say THANK YOU to the people under the 'sex workers rights are human rights' banner that I saw at Pride this past weekend!

 

I missed half the parade, and when I got there, you guys were the first people I saw. It made me happy to see people like you standing up for us (and being fierce too).

[Old Dog 179138]

I couldn't resist posting this link....

 

all tongue in cheek... the Seven Dwarves singing "Hi Ho, it's off to work we go." Somehow it seems to speak to me... hehehehehehe

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-sLmcr4RPHs