Alisonxox 9212 Report post Posted July 28, 2016 Tonight , one of my clients have inspired me what I am going to write. For a matter of privacy , I will name him Jo. I've been in this industry for a long time now and I noticed that like a lot of woman , a lot of men doesn't like their body. However , the medias and society are focusing on woman's issues with their self estime. We seems to forget that mens are also sensitive about how they look .. I feel that I should share my way to think about the subject .. A very wise person told me once that a body is like a book.. It tells a story. Every scars , every wrinkles are a part of your history. Stretch marks are a miracle because you created life , wrinkles are all the smiles and laught that you shared with precious people, lousse skin is a feat because you won the battle agains weight , surgery scars are a proof that you went trought sickness or an accident and survived .. Your body is the story of your own life and nobody should be ashame of it. Quite the contrary , be proud of it .. I told that to Jo tonight and I meant it with all my heart .. He seems to feel better about himself and he should because he's incredible and look absolutely awesome. Anyways , everybody will get older , get wrinkles , get all gelly and will have dark spots .. Then you will think "Omg I was so good looking 20 years ago " In fact , who's more comfy about his body ? The girls that put make up with a roll , has fake boobs , fake nails , fake hair and look absolutely fantastic ? The guy that spent his entire day at the gym , taned in a can and shaved his chest ? This is all superficial .. Yes they might look fantastic but under this cover and mask , are they happyer with their body ? I don't know .. The moral of this long message is LOVE YOURSELF .. You deserve it and absolutely nobody in the world can tell you that you are not looking good .. P.s. Sorry for the spelling , I am french ;) I am sure that you understood what I was trying to say between all my mistakes .. Luv you guys ! Pps. Jo , You look perfect to me .. Xx Ali 12 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cabernet1955 365 Report post Posted July 28, 2016 Well said Allison. After reading this touchy post I could not but have admiration for you to write this and for Jo for his inspiration. Believe me they are no mistakes in your expressions! Thank you for this post! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest st*****ens**ors Report post Posted July 28, 2016 That was a beautiful message to share, Alison. Thank you for brightening my morning! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted July 28, 2016 Your message was perfectly clear. And a wonderful message it is! :-) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
capitalCforcougar 16766 Report post Posted July 28, 2016 I myself, have a number of scars.... some were an adventure.. others were surgeries... and all that fun stuff... and some of these scars have created little 'shelfs' on my stomach that I am not entirely crazy about... and alongside those, there are the lumps, bumps and 'dark areas' (thank you Alison hehe) that have all come together to make me the perrrrson I am today... Truthfully, I am not as happy with the amount of soft & squishy I have gained the last while, but.. all in all.. I absolutely adore the person that all these things have helped to create, and wouldn't likely trade them for anything... hell I'm even proud of my lovely silver hairs coming up through my blonde curls... not only are these things all markings of my life.. and the fact that I have *lived* it.. but.... a testament to the fact that I survived it all without killing anyone ;) I would (and do) take a bit of soft & squishy.. scarred... raw.... 'dark' over the 'typical' so-shiny-polished-overly-tanned, can't move for fear of messing themselves up' person.. any day of the week! after all.. a bit of the soft stuff gives me something to sink my teeth into <grin> Thank you Alison... for showing me I am not the only one :) On another note.... Someone told me something once that changed the way I look at *everything*... and I have passed it on to several people over the years, and have changed the way *they* now look at things... so... perrrhaps that may happen again by posting it here: A wonderful doctor I worked with years ago, told me a Buddhist saying, that to this day, I still think is the best thing I have ever heard in all my years/adventures: "If you have a problem, and there *is* a solution.... then don't worry (after all, you can fix it, right?) "If you have a problem... and there is.. nooo... solution (as in, no matter what you do, you cannot/will not fix it)..... then, don't worry!" fan-freaking-tastic way of viewing things.. and since adopting that way of being.. I have no blood pressure issues.. no health issues of any kind... I tackle things I can.. leave well enough alone when I have to.... much less stress and life.. in general... (even with its disappointments.... is good! ;) 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
someguy 67067 Report post Posted July 28, 2016 Be yourself. Love Yourself. Accept Yourself. And if other's don't, it's their loss :) Most women can look thru Men's outer layer, and if they can do that, most will discoverer the Man's inner self and may find a very special loving person :) 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
