Acceptable amount of time to wait for an appointment ( After Arriving 5 Mins before set time )

[walter2010 144]

So here is the Million Dollar Question 

 

So after communication with provider or booking agent a time is booked and location ( General Idea of Area or Hotel ) is given . Now 5 to 10 mins before set time you reach out again and let them know your in the area and need instructions as to where exactly to go . At this point you’re waiting for instructions as to where to go with the hope that you arrive on time for the set appointment . You then get a text back saying please hang tight or maybe nothing at all . My question is What’s actually acceptable time to wait before it’s time to cancel or just leave ? I understand things happen I get it . The key here however is clear communication and consideration . Also say you get that information finally then say by the time you get to the room or location you now 10 mins behind planned schedule . Is it acceptable to bring it up what time it is as so to add to the tail end of the appointed time ? 10 mins of a $500 per hour appointment is over $80 you’ve spent before you even arrive . Kinda hoping for some feedback 

 

[BenDover 347]

everyone gets ghosted sooner or later 

and about half the time you are right on schedule and you get

‘ hey babe i’m still getting ready sit tight 15 mins or so 😘’

 

for someone established i’d give 15 mins or so leeway , for an unknown if i'm on time and she’s not , i’d just leave 

once i rescheduled about 3 times in an afternoon while she changed hotels all over the place , the pics were that hot ,   and it turned out to be in the top 5 worst encounters ever 💁🏻‍♂️

 

[AdamSandler 417]

Personally I expect to be given the address and not just a general area 1-2 hours before the scheduled time at least. I try to arrive and park early and then I wait until about 5 minutes before the meeting time to text that I'm here/nearby but always add that I know I'm early and no rush at all on their side. 

I'll give anyone a little time. But there are a couple different situations. No response at all to my first text then message again maybe 5 minutes after you're supposed to meet. Still no response I'd probably give until 15 minutes after the scheduled for maybe 1 more text saying I'm leaving in 5 if I don't get a response. 

Now if they are actively responding I'll definitely give more flexibility but again if we hit 15 minutes or so past the scheduled time I'll probably hit them with a text asking how much longer. Maybe throw something in about having a tight timeline and if they aren't ready soon I will have to reschedule (whether it's true or not). If it seems like they are just stringing me along I'll leave but thankfully that hasn't happened to me when they've been actively replying. 

 

To your other question 5 minutes I probably wouldn't worry about at all but when we hit 10-15 or more I would expect my booking time to be honoured and shifted. If we were supposed to meet at 9 and she wasn't ready until 9:15 I would expect to stay until 10:15 for sure. I'd say most independent providers would do this anyway and I often see SPs put a timer on their phone rather than watch the clock. Now if we are talking Agencies like YFL if the provider is running late you will likely lose the time. I think YFL only gives the ladies 15 or so minutes between appointments which is not much time at all and doesn't really give them the flexibility to extend their time in the moment. 
I probably wouldn't bring it up at the beginning but maybe at the end if it seems like she's trying to get you to leave early you can try to bring it up in a gentle way. Maybe something like "we started a little later than expected but I am really enjoying our time together. Is there any way we could take just a few more minutes?" Or something along those lines. I'd keep the focus on her rather than strictly on the time and money aspect.