Grass_Hopper 18263 Report post Posted March 7, 2012 This is a hard one... I mean, we have all sorts of ''How to'' on this site, but none concerning going back to a normal life after escorting for a while. I went back home on retreat. I mean, after a while in Ottawa, I felt I have done it all, so I decided to go back home. I have found a 8 to 5 office job as a direction's assistant, am always in bed at 8:30, wake up at 5, taking care of my family, but I feel like I'm missing something... Unfortunetly, it is something I cannot fill with whatever else in the world. Just to find myself in good company 2-3 times a day, chatting with so many different people, having the chance to spend so much time with different lovers... Would that be called ''Public Relations''? Anyways, all this to tell you how I miss you all!!! :( With all my love, XxXSabrinAXxX 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest ****ven Report post Posted March 7, 2012 It's interesting that you choose to address this. As a part time SP while I complete my degrees I struggle with the constant double identity. It seems like the "real" world is not fun, and financially sucks. I wonder how I will adapt when my degree is truly complete and whether or not a "real" job will satisfy me.... I have a feeling it won't.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest ***t***iv*** Report post Posted March 8, 2012 I stopped escorting completely when I went back to school. I knew that mixing the two worlds would just be much too difficult for me to accomplish. I ended up coming back to work right after finishing school, forsaking my new education and the opportunities it presented. I realized many things at this point in my life, the main things being I am not a 9-5 person and thus, don't fit into that lifestyle. I enjoy making my own hours and being able to choose what I do and don't do. I don't do well with authority, and sometimes benefit from being my own boss. The challenge of integrating into mainstream society obviously still exists for me, but being able to select which social channels I enter into and when, helps. I even plan to go back to school, to pursue a different career that (hopefully) better suits my newly discovered personal needs. I usually do as many small things as possible to help me comfortably adapt to a new environment when I'm coming in or out of this business. Change things like my appearance, mentality, style of dress, personality, numbers, address even. This takes some time, so I usually take at least a few months to transition after deciding to make a change. Hair is always the last thing I change, esp. if its getting grown out lol. great thread, btw! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
backrubman 64800 Report post Posted March 8, 2012 I wonder how I will adapt when my degree is truly complete and whether or not a "real" job will satisfy me.... I have a feeling it won't.... Please don't forget that being an SP is a "real" a job as it gets. It's a completely honourable vocation. Current I do two completely different jobs, so I suppose one has to point out that you can to. Life has no greater gift to give than doing what makes you the happiest. It might be easier to transition to a different job if never really completely do. Rather than think of it as something you will miss or have to give up completely it can be something you simply have less time for but those things we really enjoy doing but don't have as much time for are better when we do have a little time for them. I've gone through switching vocations a couple of times and it was always easier when I didn't truly switch but made two part time jobs into one full time job (and always comforting to know that if one of my part time jobs didn't work out I can go back to the other full on). Of course I've never been an SP but I find both my jobs I now have more quality over quantity. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S**a*Q Report post Posted March 8, 2012 I'm the opposite I think. I had the corporate job and all that, but I quit everything to work for minimum wage in an adult store. All of a sudden, I was happier. Shortly after, I ended up here doing what I do now. I went from happier to happiest as I slowly figured out who I really am. This job change has allowed me to have the time to actually go after what my real career dreams are. Not the ones I created in college to appease society, but the dreams I had as a kid. Really, what other job would allow me to stay home and write? Or what other job, let's me stay home with my home business and work on that? These aren't side jobs for me, they are my career and escorting helps me fund that. Sure another "regular" job might do the same, but it would also eat up a lot of time in my week. I'm happier as an escort than I've ever been as a retail manager for a large business. Going back to a "normal" job just isn't for me, I suppose this is my normal, but for now. I don't want to do this for the rest of my life, or maybe I do. I never saw myself doing this is the first place. Ladies, figure out what you REALLY want to do in life... You have an opportunity to make it work, right now, with what you're doing here. Invest in yourself, follow your dreams and don't settle for what is supposed to be "normal". Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted March 8, 2012 I was a 9-5er for many, many years. I am now happy, relaxed and stress free! I love my life and wouldn't change a thing. This is the most fullfilling "job" I have ever had and I certainly don't feel any regret for no longer using the education I paid so much for LOL. But then again, my education does come in handy quite often. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Report post Posted March 8, 2012 I have had regular jobs before I got into the business. They can be draining, boring and routine. I love being my own boss. Mostly because I like to come and go when I please. Being stuck in one place is the worst part of the job for me. I love being an escort. It gives me a chance to be creative and it makes me happy that I can push myself to take care of my own business. After having a job so fun as this. I would have to love my next job because I can't see myself doing anything that I don't love. It makes the potential job list short. I guess what I'm saying is do what you love and do it well. XoXo Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rabuf 100 Report post Posted March 25, 2012 Well we miss you too. Whatever you choose, take pleasure in the little things. We all too often take things for granted and the grass looks greener on the other side. It's funny though. The business world is very artificial and we wear masks we think others want to see - it constraining in that they would be shocked if they really knew me. For me when I am with a SP, I am more honest and liberated.... I work in an office and enjoy the companionship and excitment of being with an SP. It's intoxicating really, the time I am with a SP, they really know me... It's weird and from the opposite side of the mirror but perhaps not all that different... Best of luck Grass_hopper, whatever you choose.... Whew.. I just read what I typed... Instead of best of luck, I had an F in place of the L... :-) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
