What made you take the plunge?

[Ariane Valmont 332]

Wow! Thanks to everybody for participating to this thread. :)

 

Gentlemen, from your answers, it seems to me there is two main reasons that brought you to hobbying:

 

1- the possibility of being with different types of women

 

2- the desire (or need) to have NSA sex (and we all know that outside the sex trade, it's not always easy to find because many women end up expecting more).

 

What I'm curious to know is this... Did it seem natural for you to spend time with SPs or did you feel shame, guilt, etc, at first? Did you go through some kind of moral dilemma like I did or were you never affected by the notion passed around in society which says that paying for sex is wrong?

 

To the two ladies who contributed to this thread : thank you for your honesty!

 

To secret_admirer, believe me, the british accent IS an advantage when it comes to seducing ladies. ;)

[Ariane Valmont 332]

anita, this is quite a story!! Bravo for your transparence and sincerity!

 

I am really glad you found what works best for you. :)

 

I understand that having sex with strangers is not for you but I think you also have been a bit unlucky as an escort. It's great that you did not let those obstacles bring you down, especially since you were still vulnerable from your failed mariage.

 

You are one strong lady!

[Emma Alexandra 123366]

OK so my first answer wasn't completely truthful....

 

Taking the plunge wasn't really for the love of money...it was for the love of my children. Like i have told you in other posts similar to this i left my ex about 2 years before i became an escort. My boys were young and i had moved to Halifax to go to Flight Attendant Academy...i found a place for the boys and i to live...Air Canada went on strike and thus left me with nothing. The courts don't do what they promise and my ex never gave me a cent. I didn't want to go on social assistance like so many others do. I wanted to make my own money. long story short...seen an ad in the paper...called them and the rest is history......sure there's lots to fill in the blanks there but thats for another time maybe....kisses

[Ariane Valmont 332]

emma, I understand that not everyone has a positive story on how they came into the business (which does not mean that it didn't end up being a positive choice for them) and it can be difficult or too personal to share publicly.

 

But I like your clarification. A mom should do everything in her power to make sure her children are happy and that's exactly what you did.

[Emma Alexandra 123366]

emma, I understand that not everyone has a positive story on how they came into the business (which does not mean that it didn't end up being a positive choice for them) and it can be difficult or too personal to share publicly.

 

But I like your clarification. A mom should do everything in her power to make sure her children are happy and that's exactly what you did.

 

Well i have always been very sexual and becoming an escort was the best thing that ever happened to me. I have never been so happy as i am now. I love my work and all my clients are wonderful. Things happen for a reason and in a way i'm glad i seen the bad in a man because now i know what good is....hugs to everyone!

[whatsup 11893]

I wanted to think outside the box.... or is that about another box. :lol:

 

To answer Ariane's question.

 

At first, Initally, I felt like I was doing something wrong, guilt of infidelity, paying for a service that's considered morally taboo.

 

As time went by and things you learn in life and the great company of the ladies, I have become very at ease with this hobby.

 

Thank You Ladies. XOXO

[E.D. man 691]

I ACTUALLY FELT FREEDOM!

i WAS WITH SOME ONE WHO WANTED TO HAVE SEX.

No pressure in a relationship.

Some of the woman who work as sp's have made me feel alive!!!:wink::grin::-)

[spud271 47779]

That is a wonderful thing to hear Emma. You have such a warm and positive attitude!

 

 

Well i have always been very sexual and becoming an escort was the best thing that ever happened to me. I have never been so happy as i am now. I love my work and all my clients are wonderful. Things happen for a reason and in a way i'm glad i seen the bad in a man because now i know what good is....hugs to everyone!

[Emma Alexandra 123366]

That is a wonderful thing to hear Emma. You have such a warm and positive attitude!

 

Thanks Spud ....i do have the right spud this time right?lol

kisses,

Emma A

[spud271 47779]

Yep, same tatoo...English accent...love of sheep...caber still down there...it's the right Spud! :D

 

Thanks Spud ....i do have the right spud this time right?lol

kisses,

Emma A

[Guest Ou**or**n]

I first got involved during the breakdown of my marriage. I was living in Ottawa but working in Toronto 5 days a week and staying alone in a hotel. I was lonely and horny. I had thought of trying an escort but didn't know very much about them. Being a good geek I did some googling and found the following...

 

How to use escorts - A mens guide

 

Thank god for the Internet because at the time the idea of actually calling an agency and speaking to someone by phone terrified me. So I booked my first escort by email. I also had long wanted to have sex with an Asian so the first escort I booked was a very pretty Asian girl. I didn't really have any strong attitudes at that point one way or the other about escorts. I had always heard of prostitution as 'the world's oldest profession' so I didn't figure I was doing anything too out of the ordinary.

 

The first experience was good and it surprised me how easy it was to meet someone and start having sex with them 15 minutes later. Afterwards we had a nice chat. I felt very positive about the experience as it met both sexual and emotional needs.

 

Over time I saw many other different types of escorts - different ages and races. If there was a type of girl that I had found hot when I was younger, then I sought them out as an escort and had the pleasure of being with them. It certainly removed a number of 'regrets' I had from girls I had known earlier in my life that I hadn't had sex with.

 

I found escorts to be very just like any other group of people- of such a wide variety that few generalizations made much sense. I admired many of them as felt they took charge of their own sexuality and made it work for them. Some felt bad about being in the business but that was their attitudes about it, not mine.

 

I can definitely state that I am a much happier person for seeing escorts. If I see a really hot girl on the street I don't feel frustrated that I could never be with a girl like her. In most cases I smile because she would remind me of some similar escort that I had been with. If not, well then I could always seek out a similar escort. I like that relationships with escorts are straight forward as they sit on the basic foundation of a business relationship. In many cases friendship follows and in that sense there is no difference than friendships I have with other people with whom I have a business relationship.

 

Wanting to have sex with attractive women is a natural instinct. We are much better off to acknowledge this is part of our basic biological make-up and go with it instead of fighting it.

[buggernot 588]

What I'm curious to know is this... Did it seem natural for you to spend time with SPs or did you feel shame, guilt, etc, at first? Did you go through some kind of moral dilemma like I did or were you never affected by the notion passed around in society which says that paying for sex is wrong?

 

I jumped into this world out of my own desperation. Similar to some of the other guys, my marriage ended and I did not want to enter into a relationship. I didn't even want a casual thing going on, out of fear that I might just hurt somebody. That's how the marriage ended and it was awful. I couldn't do that to anyone again, nor did I want the same experience...lesson learned.

 

But...a guy's got needs! I contemplated the escort thing for months, but I did have an underlying emotional conflict about going that route. I had money but I've never been the type to spend it on services of any type, so it seemed to be an elitist perk to me. It was also something I felt that would ultimately make me feel bad as well, that I would end up spending a few hours with someone I didn't like, that I wasn't attracted to, that it wouldn't go well, and the money would have been wasted on a negative experience. And I did have some of the preconceived notions that a lot of people would have about prostitutes; that they were either stuck-up model type girls gouging you to get rich or they were only doing it because they were emotionally damaged in some way. I really had no idea, I was completely ignorant to the realities of the industry.

 

When I finally did take the plunge, I still remember with total clarity the feeling I had after she left. She was a beautiful girl, very sweet, intelligent and easy to talk to. I felt alive again, I felt refreshed and excited. It was perfect and it gave me exactly what I needed at that moment in time - a little bit of fun and intimacy with a nice girl and I didn't have to worry about whether or not I should be calling her the next day ;) It was money well spent and the problems it ended up alleviating would have cost me 20 times more in therapy!

 

Since then, there have been many more experiences and I have learned so much about the industry, about women in general and met some really great people. And in all honesty, it has given me more confidence with girls overall...my abilities in bed have improved and my comfort level with meeting girls for the first time took a complete 180. Whatever stigma I thought about it before has been completely erased.

 

Granted, there is the odd occasion where I run into a girl that obviously does not want to be there, that the life of a SP is not for her. That's about the only time the moral dilemma comes in to play. I can't imagine the stress that it's causing them, and I always hope for their sake that they get out and find something in life that takes them where they want to be...

[drlove 37202]

I just wanted to try it to see what all the fuss was about! *lol* :razz:

 

(Haven't stopped since...)

[drlove 37202]

Granted, there is the odd occasion where I run into a girl that obviously does not want to be there, that the life of a SP is not for her. That's about the only time the moral dilemma comes in to play. I can't imagine the stress that it's causing them, and I always hope for their sake that they get out and find something in life that takes them where they want to be...

 

I've been in this situation a few times myself... it made me feel very uncomfortable. What do the rest of you do when faced with something like this? Go through with the session, or offer to give the lady an "out" since she is not comfortable??

[PistolPete 61421]

Happened once to me over my years, the SP being very uncomfortable. I gave her partial funds, gave her a hug and we both decided it was best after long discussions. No harm, no foul...over 2 weeks later she sent me a email thanking me, and left the biz. It was apparent she wasn't ready for the business.

 

I've been in this situation a few times myself... it made me feel very uncomfortable. What do the rest of you do when faced with something like this? Go through with the session, or offer to give the lady an "out" since she is not comfortable??

[buggernot 588]

I've been in this situation a few times myself... it made me feel very uncomfortable. What do the rest of you do when faced with something like this? Go through with the session, or offer to give the lady an "out" since she is not comfortable??

 

Definitely depends on the girl and how bad it is. I liked PistolPete's way of doing it...pure class.

 

It has happened to me twice I think. One instance turned out very well - we talked about her anxiety, she became comfortable and opened up to me. We made a very good connection and because of that, she wanted to continue and we both had a really great time.

[slurp 7020]

Many years ago my 1st wife cheated on me. I tried to forgive her but found out she was still doing it. I was pissed so I went and picked up a SW and got a BJ, my first venture into hobbying. That was fun but didn't feel enough like revenge so next time I picked up another and had FS. Still didn't properly satisfy my need for payback so I fucked her best friend. That was better but now I had a taste and I've been hobbying ever since.

 

On a side note, my ex and I started patching things up and she went off the pill so I'd take her back when she got knocked up with my daughter. Her GF got preggers at the same time, I had to pay for an abortion for her GF. Seems she was looking for a hubby and decided I would make a good one. What a ditz, I was fucking my wife's best friend and she thought I was a catch! I guess they only see what they want ......

 

Since that time I've hobbied in many cities in many ways and the internet has helped immensly! Ahh, I still remember when Iphone (the original internet app, not the Apple product) came out. Sure as hell was easier than typing with one hand ..... One of the first people I talked to was Jane from Pittsburgh who hung up on me as soon as she got her rocks off! How's that for a switch? I felt soooooooo used ........ and loved it! LOL

 

Lots of good memories, too bad I can't tell the grandkids.

[Ariane Valmont 332]

OutForFun and buggernot, I love your stories. :)

 

I find it very refreshing when people say that seeing escorts has made their life better in some way.

 

I think the best encounters are the ones where you feel a human connection. Sex in itself is wonderful but it's even better when you can relate to the person in front of you (or on top, or behind... :p).

[PistolPete 61421]

Sex in itself is wonderful but it's even better when you can relate to the person in front of you (or on top, or behind... :p).

 

I always love to be on top Ariane:lol:

[VedaSloan 119179]

I will admit when I first started, it wasn't for the money. I am just a slutty chick. I like sexual variety. I like sexual exploration. So when a former lover asked if he could pay to continue seeing me, I figured what the hell. I mean, I'd already slept with him for free. What an ego boost that was. I was thinking to myself about what hot shit I was for days. Hahaha.

 

Then I wet my toes on Craigs for a few months, which drove me absolutely batty and from there I joined up with the Playgirls. I still work independently part-time, but no more Craigs for me. Hahha.

[antlerman 17064]

I will admit when I first started, it wasn't for the money. I am just a slutty chick. I like sexual variety. I like sexual exploration. .

 

 

That is one of the best lines I have ever seen........Erin you are so down to earth and grounded.....damn you are great.......

[VedaSloan 119179]

That is one of the best lines I have ever seen........Erin you are so down to earth and grounded.....damn you are great.......

 

thanks antlerman! xox

[dirkgently 1778]

my first venture was due to loneliness, wanting to feel intamacy. After many years completely alone I was socailly inept, especially with women, I had to try something. After, I felt reborn, like I had emerged from a shell. Eventually became comfortable with myself and other people enough so that I married and had kids. Now, although happily married, I venture back because it is comfortable and I truly enjoy it.

[Guest **g*or***]

My first times with SPs were not terribly positive for me. Not because of the quality, just where my head-space was.

 

I was 23, going to school out East. At this time I was still a virgin as far as penetration was concerned. I liked a girl, but she didn't reciprocate, and her ex-boyfriend, one of my best friends, were trying to work it out. So one evening, they left my company to pursue other plans together...and that was it. I went to a known agency in the area, and popped my cherry with a pretty dark-haired MILF who was the textbook example of mechanical.

 

Yup, I lost my "virginity" to a hooker :lol: It doesn't just happen in movies, folks.

 

I spent the next few months going to that agency catching up with all the sex I missed, but it faded away. No DFK, all CBJs, mechanical as all get out. Only girl from there who wasn't mechanical only stayed there a week and was out of the biz....

 

Since it wasn't rewarding and quite frankly really boring (and expensive), I dropped it all together, and spent my single time from there, for years, in strip clubs instead. Now that was a waste of time and money, and I used it as a crutch for my insecurity, lack of confidence, and lack of sex.

 

Slowly I started dating more, and then six years ago met my last partner, and this looked like THE ONE.

 

Que to six months ago...everthing was fizzling...the lady I fell in love with was replaced by a bitchy, overly-demanding shrew, and those negatives outweighed the (still) great sex. When the sister-in-law takes your side and tells her sister she was being mean to me? That is known in the business as a "bad sign".

 

Things reached their inevitable conclusion and we broke up.

 

After so long in the desert, and so long in a committed relationship, I wanted sex without strings, and to try new things in bed - but no bar scene hassle. So I started looking at SPs again on a whim...and found a whole new world.

 

I came across CERB (and other boards), and got an idea of who was out there, and who offered more than the mechanical "wham-bam". Took the plunge, and haven't looked back.

 

Since I've started with SPs again, I've met some beautiful, intelligent ladies. I've been awaken to a world of sexual possibilities and choices. And because of The Internet, I can take my time and seek out the ladies I am most likely compatible with on a personality and sexual level - or say what the hell and TOFTT.

 

Strangely, my second turn with SPs comes when my private life is getting better prospects wise and sanity wise. I've learned something new each time, and have gotten way more confident in myself personally, and gotten better in bed, too. I recently saw a very respected lady on our board, and she said I was great - and meant it. I take that as a humbling and high compliment, and can only aim to top that...lol.

 

I don't know if I'll see SPs for the rest of my life - right now seeing the ladies fits my lifestyle and needs quite wonderfully.

[YoungStud 468]

Hey Rag,

 

Interesting, detailed, no BS contribution. I enjoyed reading it.