Questions for SP's & Hobbiests , Requesting your input please

[Ashley Ann 75247]

This question has been on my mind for a while now and I hoping that the answers and/or opinions I am requesting are honest....

 

For some time now, I have been noticing that a lot of SP's have very limited or some time NO restrictions whatsoever (excluding BB-full service of course).....PLEASE NOTE I AM NOT TRYING TO JUDGE...I am just trying to get a better...or perhaps just a more accurate understanding of how these advertised options work and how others feel about them....

 

Evidently, in order to be successful in this industry, one must me open minded...which I think I am, how ever I am puzzled regarding all of the the unprotected activities people are willing to take part in ..so my question is this (to the SP's)....do these "no restrictions" policies apply to whomever you meet with???? This applies to the BBBJ..CIM, COF, DFK, and if not...how does that go over with the client if you decline to do those services to them ..I understand we all have the right to refuse, however when you advertise a type of service..and choose not to provide it ..(which I presume would be due to poor hygiene, bad oral hygiene, or perhaps just lacking in the looks department) Does the client leave, do they stay, do they return???

 

My other question is do these rules apply even on the busiest of days (with multiple clients within a short time frame) , again, this is curiosity, not judgement!! Last but not least..do you have any concerns with providing these services..

 

My questions for the hobbiest's are:

a) Since those type of services are offered, are they a MUST when you meet with an SP or would this turn you away from an SP ??

 

I imagine the majority of the responses from hobbiests will be that they do thoroughly enjoy the unprotected services, as so many ladies now offer them..However, I guess I have a hard time believing that the sp's who advertise these service types ,,,,actually offer it to all the clients out there.

 

Again, my apologies if I have offended anyone, we all handle our own personal affairs differently...I for instance always post assorted nude pics of my myself on here, my ads and my sites, ...many SP's do not post or display nude pics...some find that offensive and/or vulgar...which is understandable as the way we approach our own business is personal.

 

Thanks,

 

Vanessa

[Ariane Valmont 332]

Vanessa, when you say this: "how ever I am puzzled regarding all of the the unprotected activities people are willing to take part in ..so my question is this (to the SP's)....do these "no restrictions" policies apply to whomever you meet with????", it does sound like your judging a bit... But that's ok. ;)

 

I have of course some restrictions but only a few. I'm not comfortable discussing publicly what they are but I still can answer some of your questions.

 

First of all, just a little clarification: it would be nice if people stop assuming that SPs who are more "liberal" only care about making good business. Some of us want to enjoy ourselves sexually as much as possible and that's why we share some specific intimate acts with the men we meet. For example, I really like kissing and that's the main reason why I offer it.

 

I voluntarily meet only a few men weekly so the "volume" is not an issue for me. Would I be so open if I was seeing several men a day? Probably not.

 

Do I offer the exact same type of service to every men I meet? No, I don't. I'm hoping the people I select are smart enough to understand that chemistry and personal hygiene plays an important part in how I will interact with them. Don't get me wrong, I always do my best to please whoever I spend time with. But that "best" is influenced by the context of the encounter and it's only natural that the more we hit it off, the more giving I will be.

 

I never had a situation where my partner told me they were upset because I did not do this or do that. I never even sensed it. If the day comes when someone tells me they don't accept my personal limits, I will have to explain to them that eventhough I'm an escort, I'm first and foremost a human being.

[Ava Foxx 1747]

Vanessa, when you say this: "how ever I am puzzled regarding all of the the unprotected activities people are willing to take part in ..so my question is this (to the SP's)....do these "no restrictions" policies apply to whomever you meet with????", it does sound like your judging a bit... But that's ok. ;)

 

I have of course some restrictions but only a few. I'm not comfortable discussing publicly what they are but I still can answer some of your questions.

 

First of all, just a little clarification: it would be nice if people stop assuming that SPs who are more "liberal" only care about making good business. Some of us want to enjoy ourselves sexually as much as possible and that's why we share some specific intimate acts with the men we meet. For example, I really like kissing and that's the main reason why I offer it.

 

I voluntarily meet only a few men weekly so the "volume" is not an issue for me. Would I be so open if I was seeing several men a day? Probably not.

 

Do I offer the exact same type of service to every men I meet? No, I don't. I'm hoping the people I select are smart enough to understand that chemistry and personal hygiene plays an important part in how I will interact with them. Don't get me wrong, I always do my best to please whoever I spend time with. But that "best" is influenced by the context of the encounter and it's only natural that the more we hit it off, the more giving I will be.

 

I never had a situation where my partner told me they were upset because I did not do this or do that. I never even sensed it. If the day comes when someone tells me they don't accept my personal limits, I will have to explain to them that eventhough I'm an escort, I'm first and foremost a human being.

 

What she said! :grin: (Sorry...I love that expression and it really works in this response :mrgreen:)

[Ashley Ann 75247]

I suppose your right..It does appear that I am judging by my post..and I apologize as that is not what I am trying to do. What we do to enjoy ourselves with our company is a personal choice...we all work differently..and I do respect that..thank you for your response..

[Ariane Valmont 332]

Ava, thank you Mademoiselle. :)

 

Vanessa, don't worry about it. We all judge sometimes. There are many things in this business that I don't agree with. But what can you do? Live and let live, I suppose!

[Newton 714]

Vanessa, you asked good questions. I noticed offerings are indeed expanded.

 

Personally I prefer safe gfe. I mostly see girls offering it. I also see other girls if they are well recommended.

 

On a couple of occasions I wasn't allowed to do things on the menu. It was okay with me. I respect a girl's preference any time. But I moved on.

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[coachg 388]

Chemistry and connection are so very important in these encounters....the more comfortable both parties feel....the better time will be had by both. I think ymmv says it all.....that leaves enough latitude for the lady to decide what she feels comfortable doing with each of the men she is meeting. Personally, I find myself being very selective about the type of lady that I see....and 99% of the time I have made the right choice and a great time is had by all.

[E.D. man 691]

my self has a hobbiest I prefer a BBBJ but don't mind a CBJ.

But a must for me is DATY and LFK, but prefer DFK.

I prefer my women petite and not too tall.

Outside when dating I prefer a woman who is a few pounds overweight.

but thats me.

Each indivual here is different and enjoys serving her clients in different ways as a lot of men have different preferences. Some like it totally safe, some like it all the way, and others like it Risky.

As SP's you have the right to choose your clients, who you feel safe with.

As clients we have the right to choose an SP who will accomodate are services.

[wellie 652]

Vanessa, your question has come to my mind many times from a client's point of view. On the one hand, a detailed list of menu options is helpful for an experience without surprises. On the other hand, I wonder if an SP who is totally permissive, is a higher health risk than I would like to encounter. It is, of course, always possible to decline actions that appear too risky to the client. Is a client who is less venturesome than an SP expects, a disappointment for the SP?

 

Love and hugs,

 

Wellie

[Guest O****B*W_L**n]

As someone who has been a service provider for years and knows older women who used to do this; in my opinion, gfe, pse, etc... are fairly new. I remember when kissing a hobbyist and letting them touch you in certain areas was absolutely a big no no.... there may of been ladies doing it, but they certainly did not talk about it. If they knew know what happens in some encounters they would be shocked!!! LOL In fact, if you were known for doing out of the ordinary stuff, you were shunned and looked down upon.

 

Times change, and bottom line, we are responsible for ourselves and what is acceptable and what is not. I admit there have been hobbyists that I have been super attracted to and let them do things (and vice versa) that I would not do with just anyone... once again, personal judgment.

 

I understand your feelings Vannessa... especially if you are old skool... this can be a bit strange. I do not agree with providers telling hobbyists yes I do this, and I will do that, and when they finally meet, they do not follow through with their promises... not cool...

 

Lynn

[Andee 220524]

I always say in my website, "at my discretion". If I don't like the look of something or someone, I bow out and if need be, I will be direct as to why not. I am not afraid to say it like it is if they "don't get it".

 

For example, a guy game to see me who had rotten, broken teeth and he wanted DATY, and I politely told him that since he obviously had some dental issues, I could not permit that. He told me he a horse kicked him in the mouth when he was 12 years old and his parents couldn't afford the dental bills.

 

As unfortunate story that it was, this many was well into his 40s and I figured getting his teeth fixed or removed and dentures or whatever was not a big priority for him in his life. As such, I was not about to endanger my health with his gum disease bacteria of whatever floating around in his mouth on my pussy.

 

I still gave him good service.

 

It's a delicate issue, but my health exceeds any client's request.

 

Fortunately I get mostly well groomed, clean men visiting me - the ones who aren't lose out.

[Kubrickfan 12836]

Vanessa --

 

Whether or not the lady I am seeing offers those types of services would not have any bearing on whether I would choose to see her or not. As a matter of fact, it might have the opposite effect if its advertised too overtly.

 

No kissing would be a problem, however.

[Lowdark 5613]

Lately I've been making decisions on who I visit based on how the services the SP offers may affect personal health. I have to admit I'm a big fan of kissing. Not just a woman's lips, but her shoulders, breast, stomach, legs. A woman's body is one of nature's greatest works of art. So given that, if an SP offers services like BBBJ, CIM, COF, COB-well that would virtually make my decision for me-especially if I suspect that she may be in the habit of piggy backing appointments (not having time to sort of freshen up in the meantime). What attracted me to the last SP whose company I enjoyed (and hope to enjoy again) was a post she made on the importance of hygene and high standards.

[Ariane Valmont 332]

It is, of course, always possible to decline actions that appear too risky to the client. Is a client who is less venturesome than an SP expects, a disappointment for the SP?

 

To be honest, yes, it can sometimes be a little disappointing.

 

A brief anecdote:

 

Shortly after I started working as an escort, I met this man with whom I shared incredible chemistry with. Without going into details, our encounter was very passionate and intense.

 

I saw him again several months later and he had completely changed his approach. After feeling guilty towards his family and putting in question some of his choices, he had decided that even though he would continue to meet SPs, he would from now on play very safe. In other words, and as some of you guys would say, there was not much left on the menu! hihi

 

I thought it was too bad (for me anyway!) but I totally respected his choice and we continued to see each other for a while.

 

Bottom line: the most important thing is for my partner to feel comfortable and satisfied. That is, after all, the reason why he pays for my company. If I can have my personal desires fulfilled at the same time, it's just a bonus.

[HappyJay 154]

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[Amanda Bella 421]

Chemistry

Shared commonalities and

Personal Hygiene

Will dictate every encounter yet i invest in expensive japonese condoms and in my looks to make sure the gents are turned on by my well groomed health looks.

For i rather not risk engage into exchange of fluids activity.

 

Sometimes i ask the gents to please shower before meeting me

and yet they show up with poor hygiene which i find a turn off.

 

The best hygiene however will not save me from acquiring an

STD or STI thus i rather offer zero risk taking activities.

 

Some condoms do offer skin to skin sensations and my clients love it!

But Japonese condoms and Trojam2Go are very expensive but

i rather disguise the sensation then risk my health.

 

Good Health it is Wealth in itself! Less is more!