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Well said! That's how I feel also. voltio, as an escort, it happens all the time that I become attracted to guys who I find average looking. I would say that around 10% of the men I meet are my type physically but I become sexually aroused during, more or less, 90% of my encounters (I'm being conservative here as I was tempted to put 95%!). What does that say? Simple: attitude is everything. Either I know how to pick them or I attract good people but rarely do I meet a man who I feel zero chemistry with. To be able to achieve a level of closeness with someone you barely know, you need to feel comfortable. So in a context where I have to create instant intimacy, I'll take a great personnality over great looks anytime of the day. And if on top of being a nice guy, my partner is a passionate lover... I could hardly ask for more! Like most women, I'm much more sensitive to the way a man touches me, kisses me, etc, than the way he looks.

Most of us on this board have the privilege of being able to be selective in who we see, thus there is more potential for attraction (physical, mental or otherwise). And we certainly don't need to lie to keep the clients thinking we love them. Being genuine isn't a rarity you know, for most of us, that's what comes naturally. Even three minutes is enough to know whether you'll click with someone or not. Personality always wins out over looks.

I totally agree with Erin, just ask! Make sure if they do say no not to keep pressing the issue, but you may be surprised how many will actually say yes. If they say no, then don't worry about it and enjoy your evening with the lady.

Well for me, initially, upon meeting a gentleman I might find him very attractive, physically. But he might have the personality of a thermos in the sack, in which case, the sexual attraction (or chemistry) is ZERO. Alternatively, I might open the door to someone I'm not initially attracted to physically but who can push all the right buttons and I end up lusting after them long after the appointment. Chemistry or sexual attraction can occur without being physically attracted to someone.

I think you need to work on your soft skills....

Exactly. I have seen hot young guys who stink, and whose attitudes stink. I could care less what they look like, or how great they think they are, that crap oozes of of them which makes them really unattractive. Usually my screening weeds thru this, but there is the odd one who will suggest that it must be pretty nice for me (older) to see a young guy like them (as tho the majority of the people I see are necessarily not younger than me). Since I was 15, younger guys have been following me around -- it is the older guys I have trouble with lol. Clean, smiles, and happy to be here -- there is nothing more attractive than that. No chiseled abs or great hair is ever going to replace that. :smile: Excepting for the clean part (not always able to control that lol), my experience and opinion is that over 90% ove the people I see are extremely attractive. They have to be attractive on first contact in order for me to see them: polite, nice, interested, not arrogant, not pushy, not rude. From there it is all good.

get a gmail email account, and set up autoforwarding of any current adresses to your gmail account. Reason: gmail has very effective spam filters, which dump any msgs it detects as spam into a spam folder, where u can review and even delete en masse if you want. With this type of email arrangement, you don't store your contact lists on your computer, so even if a harvester somehow gets into your computer, there's no address book stored on your hard drive to copy.

I like AVG, it does not slow your system down like Norton and Mcafee (and others) do. I recommend it to everyone as a great low overhead free anti virus solution. I also recommend Linux to anyone who is just browsing the internet or doing simple spreadsheets and stuff... and of course I would recommend a MAC if you have the cash. Both Linux and Mac are unix based systems and if your not running the MAC specific software you may as well go with linux. Many other unix based operating systems exist as well (any one of which are better then Windows when it comes to virus's and most will run on a PC) Keep in mind that you still are not 100% safe as unix systems (including macs) as they can get unix virus's/rootkits ... good news is a lot less virus's exist so you are much safer just because of the numbers. Be warned that with MAC's becoming more popular these days they are going to get more virus's and bad stuff that taget that OS... If MAC's ever became as popular as PC's they would be just as popular to write virus's for (and they are becoming more and more popular all the time) but when someone is going to take the time to write a virus code they want the biggest BANG for the time they invest (and PC's are the biggest target) For just browsing the internet and doing spreadsheets/word docs/etc... a unix (Linux) install is the way to go, especially if you have a older PC kicking around that is brutally slow running windows... it will run Linux much faster and would be perfect for browsing the net! Windows based virus's can't hurt the unix machines - unix based virus's can however (and that includes the macs) Anyone who wants the MAC look and security without the price and does not care about running MAC specific software (just the unix software) here is a tip (but not for the newbie)... Apple heads up a openSource project called Darwin (Unix) and if you add the "Aqua GUI" to it you pretty much get the MAC OSX look and feel (but Mac software will not run on it of course) you can run openoffice and firefox so you can do all the office work use it for email and surf the web... and it feels like a mac. Darwin is available for a x86 platform (but it does not run on all PC's) so if you try with no luck.. give linux a try too on that old PC (I prefer ubuntu linux myself to install for all my non-linux friends - it's friendly as far as linux goes and it's a stable OS). Darwin is based on FreeBSD/NetBSD and Mac OS X is based on Darwin but of course MAC will not release a full openSource version of OSX as everyone would be installing OSX on PC's... and as much as that sounds like a good idea, trust me it's not... A normal PC runs OSX just as crappy as it runs WINDOWS because of the mix match of hardware in your PC. Windows is bloated and full of crap because it has to run on all sorts of hardware configurations (where MAC's are all built the same so they don't need all the other crap). If you start installing new hardware into your MAC that is aftermarket hardware you will start having the same problems all the PC's have.

honestly, with men what turns me on most is their charm, intelligence and personality. I'm more physically attracted to ladies than men. If you're super hot but act like a super douche, well, you're just a douche.

Yes there is so much stuff going around now it is hard to Keep up ....... I just spent the weekend fixing a friends computer because she clicked a link ...... you don't even have to do that anymore but with the tighter security on Vista and now Windows 7 that is getting harder for unscupliouse web designers to get around now. Though I am sure they will find a way. When I was testing Windows 7 I tried AVG for windows 7 ...... and was reasonably impressed with it for a small program. Not ready to switch myself but for someone that is on an older system that can't run Nortons, Kaspersky or bit defender ..... more so Nortons it is a nice little program that does the job. But keep in mind no security software is perfect.