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Indulge me here if you will on a bit of a rant and reminder regarding NO SHOWS. Apologies to anterlman for cutting in on his rant turf!! :) I've heard a number of complaints and concerns raised in the past while from various providers regarding clients who pull no shows and how frustrating it can be for them. I agree entirely that no shows mean time wasted, frustration and lost income and in the end they are just plain rude. In this day and age of communications tools ridding on our hips with a touch of a few buttons we can send a text, email or even an old fashion actual phone call to explain that we might be late, or possibly unable to attend. While it's still frustrating and lost income, the courtesy of the communication is appreciated and expected. I'd like to point out that the same frustrations are experienced from the client's perspective and that hopefully those new to the hobby or just not aware that when a provider pulls a no show it can be equally frustrating, is certainly a waste of time and can also result in lost income. I'm not sure that some providers take that into consideration when bailing out at the last minute or just not showing up as planned. Having recently had to dance through hoops in some cases to meet some established and well recommended ladies only to have the appointments booked and re booked or plain out canceled with little to no notice. Twice this has happened in recent weeks and twice it has ticked me off. I understand that life happens and shit hits the fan every now and then but I would hope and expect that the common courtesy of a phone call or text to explain why you've been waiting in a hotel lobby for 30 minutes is not to much to ask, is it ? This isn't directed to any one in particular by rather to serve as a reminder to all to do unto others as you would have them do to you. Thanks for hearing me out!

We hear about this more then I would like to admit (Not just a Christmas but I suspect it is a more popular time for would be thieves to prey on the ladies) EVERY year (Not just Ottawa - Winnipeg and Vancouver seam to be the worst with Ottawa a close third for reports that we get about this). We hear about this happening from at least 2 of our clients each year and when you think about it... that is a lot for us (since we are just the advertising company for the ladies) we usually only hear about it when the lady gets so scared and shaken up over it that she needs to pull her ads and take time off! How many times does it happen without us ever hearing about it? I have had ladies call just in tears asking us to remove her ad because she needs to take time off to recover from being robbed... The traumatic stress would be hard to deal with and even worse some even tell us they were physically assaulted. Back when I answered the phones for escorts-canada I use to always try to help. I would be sure to ask the lady if she insisted on using caller ID (No blocked calls) and that she called back to confirm each number (Make sure it was not a payphone or some stolen phone - call back to verify before the date to make sure he answers the phone).. In EVERY instance the answer was always no, they did not bother screening calls. I like to hope that they all do now after I explain how people would prey on those who did not take these extra safety precautions. I think the thieves who do this are going to cold call (shop around) to find the "Easy prey". I have even heard from a few ladies that the guy paid them, they did their thing and then he robbed her not only taking back him money but everything else he could get from her. We have some horrible people in this world and fortunately these people are far and few between but they do exist and they do prey on others... and the minute you let your guard down could be the minute they show up. Theft and assault can (and does) happen in pretty much every business and no one is really safe... but in this industry because of the laws that govern here in Canada it makes the ladies even more vulnerable and makes it a much easier target to be exploited. Did you know you can "Spoof" a phone number on caller ID (Making people see a number that looks legit and is not) - always CALL BACK that number showing on caller ID - tell the guy you will call him back within the hour before the meeting (or something like that) your instincts on her response should pretty much say it all. Chances are the guy who plans on robbing someone is not going to take the chance (even with a pre-paid phone) and will probably find someone who does not verify phone numbers to rob. He will probably have some lame excuse for not having a verifiable phone number.. trust your instincts! A lot of ladies choose not to verify phone numbers still to this day. WHY? Some even give out the location of their incall place as well to strangers over the phone without verifying who they really are. If any of the ladies reading this do this you should STOP... you are taking a unnecessary risk and your setting yourself up for being a target for something like this to happen.

in a situation like this, what I've learned is always to remind the potential client that you "may" be available at that time, but unless they can confirm that they absolutely want that time-frame and provide you with a cell number for you to call them on at that exact hour (not "around") that they've requested in case of an emergency, then they do not have an appointment. Enforce that you need at LEAST an hour's notice and you as the SP, need to get that message and confirm it before he can even step a foot near your hotel. seriously tho...lingering in the lobby....while texting over and over...even if he DID go up, do you think the hotel lobby staff wouldn't have watched what floor the elevator stopped at? This shows a client who *ONE* isnt willing to make a solid booking....and *TWO* is not willing to consider their's or your discretion. granted, some people are new and dont understand that this is a business....but hopefully you sent him a polite email afterwards telling him the reasons wht his approach was not "how this works" ...- on the subject of CKs original problem, I have turned into the most anal businesswoman after going indi in this business...and for the better. I find in most cases if I'm dealing with someone (SP, or chick I'm trying to buy somenthing off of Usedottawa.ca etc) that the younger they are, the flakier their business ettiquette is. I have Blacklisted SPs that flake on duos and Blacklisted Graphic Design clients that are no-shows for meetings.....time is money, and I'm not going to let anyone waste my time. I had a Graphics client studder and wonder why I decided not to take on his project after he suggested we meet at a fancy restaurant where I drank for an hour by myself only to have him not show up coz he "forgot" he said "so thats it? you dont need my money? dont you know what I'm willing to pay you??" sound familiar girls? No-shows and flakes are unacceptable in ANY business...whether you're on the service end or on the client's receiving end...and a terrible businesswoman has just as much to lose as a no-show client. That being said, I know there is a warnings section for the gents, but are they allowed to post no-shows etc in that section. No-showing is ridiculous....sometimes a si ple call to say "I'll be 10 mins late" works wonders. commmonnnnnn!

I think we should try and veer back to Kenny's original point in that we as the clients can also be impacted financially by a no show. Working in a sales role if I take a morning or afternoon for a rendezvous and at the last minute it is canceled (or communication just stops) then I have lost that morning to book meetings and work on my job and I have the frustration of a missed encounter as well. I definitely think that by and large no shows are much more prevalent, frustrating and financially damaging to the SP's but we as the clients also face challenges working out these meetings (especially if they are far in advance as I book them) and no shows don't just result in blue balls (LOL) but could also impact our day to day work lives. We could now be in the middle of downtown, everyone is expecting you to 'be at a meeting' or 'travelling' and in fact you are twiddling your thumbs. Kenny's underlying message is a great one, respect and communication needs to be a two way street! Nice post CK (as usual), thanks for making it! I should mention that I have only had a last (and I mean really last) minute cancellation once and the reasoning was good, so it is not chronic, but still frustrating.

Eye contact, smile, embrace, kiss, body language in that order. However, sometimes one does encounter a shy date and you kinda have to look beyond that and take the lead, till you both become more comfortable. That could mean paying her a compliment, telling a joke or as simple as asking how her day is going. The bottom line is one must be genuine! That too gets the adrenalin going and if the chemistry is right, the shy ones do open up big time (at least in my experience). This is why we always say YMMV (especially on a first date).

All I have to say is WOW. Sara and I did a lot of email communication prior to our date, so I felt like I got to know her a bit, so when she arrived, it was like we had known each other for a bit. I haven't felt this taken care of in a very long time. It's awkward to write this, but she gave me an amazing BBBJ with CIM for starters. We then moved to the bed for an awesome massage that ended up in a delightfully numerical position that I can still close my eyes and see. Have I said WOW yet? Sara was funny, intelligent, and she wore exactly what I asked her to wear under her dress. There was no rush, we took our time and I dare say we both enjoyed ourselves. If recommendations were on a scale of 1 to 10, I would have to give Sara a 15.