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"For one to be happy one must risk unhappiness" These past few weeks have brought up a number of great topics and discussion, ranging anywhere from `did I fall in love with my SP?` to Discretion to Respect for the SPs. No matter where you are or what you are doing respect is always a #1 on the personal integrity scale. I have always acted as a true gentlemen with any SP and I have always respected each of them for who they are ...- not what they do. And we should be able to respect ourselves as clients for what we do. C`est vrai? I am a single father of 4, a busy professional with, as you may well appreciate, a very full life. No rest for the wicked they say!!! I was not, and am not, ready for any kind of fulltime relationship. There is only so much of me that I can spread around. But as plans go they don`t always come to fruition. For not wanting to be emotionally involved, I ended up being just that after seeing the same SP for upwards of 2 1/2 years. We were becoming quite close ... perhaps too much so for our own good. And it got to the point that the level of seriousness was a little uncomfortable ...- and more for her than I. You see there is quite a different perspective in terms of client and SP. I know that from my own `client` work. Although I have developed a very deep affection for this woman ... and would always be there for her if she needed me...there are some things that can`t mix. And I have to respect that about her. And certainly, especially so, when I know she also has strong feelings for me. So, out of respect for her, I have backed off -- completely. Perhaps things will change over time (I hope so) and perhaps not. I have known many in this buisness over the years, some who no longer practice but remains friends, and they have said this to me: "Whenever we were different feelings for a client and thinking about them often we found ourselves making `love` to him and then seeing others just became emotionally tough on us" Makes sense. This special woman that became part of my life deserves a whole lot of respect for that decision. They should all be treated as ladies ... they are gems to us for a lot of different reasons. To all the `clients` out there ...- be respectful of your SP ... after all she is a vibrant, intelligent woman who treats you well.

WOW!!!! I can't believe the class of some ladies. I am sorry if I have offended any ladies but seriously, how can you be so stupid. It takes ALOT to build up client trust and assure them of discretion then someone goes and does this. Is it that hard to send an email? I have one question WHY, WHY, WHY would you do this? Do you want a client calling you on your personl phone when you are with famly? Respecting the fact that everyone has a private life outside this is truly one of the most IMPORTANT things in the industry. One stupid move like this affects the rest of the community in one way or another. Sorry to hear this happened to you Steve.

Ok...I am starting to wonder if indeed discretion truly means what I think it does. The reason I am wondering is, and believe me I wondered about starting a thread on this topic. A few months ago (November to be exact) I met a lady for the first time, some of you may remember my post on this meeting entitled "Disappointment." Anyway THIS post relates directly to that previous post and lady in question. So enough background information, now I will begin. One evening shortly before Christmas as I am relaxing at home, incidentally with my wife in the same room, my cell starts to ring. Considering that I am now married and long since stopped receiving any phone calls much past 9:00...isn't married life wonderful, this call on MY phone at 11:00 must be a wrong number...please let it be a wrong number! As I start to reach for the phone I hear the obligatory question, "who is it?" Well to my surprise it was a text message from someone stored in my phonebook! This person was not my best friend, not someone from my ball team not even the office! The person texting me was the lady whom I met only a few weeks earlier TEXTING ME that she was going to be close by and wanted to schedule an appointment with me!! So here I am phone in hand with the words "new message from ......-" staring up at me and a wife trying to see who it is! Talk about DISCRETION! So, needless to say I had to lie...hard and fast to escape certain castration! So the reason for this little story is two fold: Reason one is to advise the community about this situation. Reason two is to ask if this or anything like it has ever happened to anyone else??

What are the "terrorsits" trying to do? ... blowing up planes is just the metod to their end goal with is causeing terror ! So every time we add a new machine, or new level of security to the system, that restricts our axcess to the system they win just a little more .. Every time there is a huge story on CNN ot BBC or CBC etcthat sends a wave of terror through the "civilized" world the win a little more... No I dont think we need to just let them take over either but as has beem mentioned the commonsence factor seems to be missing... To answer the origional question, sure i will go throught the "full body scanner" .. but then I have nothing to hide, and I hide it well ;) Loki318

Dump the male flight attendants. No one wanted them in the first place. Replace all the female flight attendants with good-looking strippers! What the hell, they don't even serve food anymore, so what's the loss? The strippers would at least triple the alcohol sales and get a 'party atmosphere' going in the cabin. And, of course, every businessman in this country would start flying again, hoping to see naked women.. Because of the tips, female flight attendants wouldn't need a salary, thus saving even more money. I suspect tips would be so good that we could charge the women for working the plane and have them kick back 20% of the tips, including lap dances and 'special services.' Muslims would be afraid to get on the planes for fear of seeing naked women. Hijackings would come to a screeching halt, and the airline industry would see record revenues. This is definitely a win-win situation if we handle it right -- a golden opportunity to turn a liability into an asset. Why didn't Obama think of this? Why do I still have to do everything myself?

i'm sorry, but i have to comment on Bago's phrase also. well i don't know, but, i know a lot of girls who will see an average of 8-10 hobbiests a day, at a minimum of 200 dollars per. Seems like an awful good living to me. Sometimes makes me want to get a sex change. lol There may be some sp's that party away their money, but there are a LOT who do VERY well and drive nice cars and live in awsome places. Ladies on this board make better living than most people. I heard someone say not too long ago that "most of these working girls are not very smart and that's why they do this". Well that drove me nuts, because let's face it, who is paying who for their time? Who's the smart ones now? Even the average lady can go to a bar at any time and decide if she will have sex that night or not, but the best looking guy walks into the same bar, and he may have to work hard to get laid. A lot of the ladies on this board only see a few people by choice, mostly because they've gotten to that level by maybe working very hard at the beggining and have slowed down a bit so as to not get tired or sick of it. And let's not forget that as much as it can be a lot of fun at times for the ladies, it's still work. It is sometimes harder on the mind than on the body, but if a lady sees 8 to 10 guys a day or more, gotta be hard on the body as well. That's why all hobbiests should always remember that even though we pay for a ladie's time, it should be noted that it's a priviledge if a lady allows us to see her, so we should treat them with the utmost respect in words and actions. Let's face it, 95% of us hobbiests would never be able to sleep with most, if not all of these ladies if we weren't paying.

Think of this for a moment, prior to the days of the cell phone, where did the call from when calling a service provider....... oh ya:rolleyes: slide the dime or quarter (pending on what age group you are in) into the pay phone, because you were not using your home land line. Now today with great technology we can screen calls,have blocked ID, text messaging,hands free. My point is you would not call back the guy at the pay phone because he is not fucking there, so why call him on his cell, unless he said it was cool to do so.:cool:

I only call back or text clients who have given me permission to do so. Even when someone leaves me a message to call them back, if I am unable to return the call within a few hours, I do not call back. I think we can agree that this SP behaved totally unprofessional and disrespectful. It's not like we're your dentist's office where they call you to remind you you're due for a cleaning...c'mon. The words "don't call me, I'll call you" always apply when it comes to this business. That is what we are are trusted to be discrete. When she starts losing clients, hopefully someone like you will tell her why.

yep--i`ve done that don`t know why though ...i`m single!!!!

My Rules (added to those mentioned above, because most of them I abide to religiously): One should not do anything one does not want to do. One should not work when in a sour mood. When tired, one shall not regret cancelling an appointment When one has nothing to say, one does not need to babble nonsensically, it will only cause further embarrassment for both parties. One should never drink tequila before an appointment. Red wine as an aphrodisiac is OK and fun to share with one's partner. ;) One should not order 17$ chicken fingers at a hotel. :P

I understand that the question was meant to be harmless post by the OP but I kinda have to side with mod here that we shouldn't encourage this stereotype that obviously portrayed by the mostpart by the media. generally I'd say more but I think I'd just be repeating what mod said. Lets keep the stereotypes where they belong....hollywood, not cerb :-)