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After reading a few posts about common decency and how people don't show the smallest amount of appreciation for each other and the complete lack of respect, it made me stop and think....... Are we as a society forgetting our manners, or just simply being unreasonable. ? A recent event really caused me to shake my head in bewilderment, and reflect on how day to day as we go about our jobs, we often don't get credit or the least amount of respect for what we do for others..... Recently, flying back to Toronto, we were forced to divert in mid flight because of a NASTY line of thunderstorms across the US Midwest. I can assure you, this is no easy task in mid flight, but after a bit of adjustment, we diverted and although almost an hour late, landed safely in Toronto...... As we thanked passengers while they departed, a blustery 'texan' proceeded to berate me, rather loudly, for how late we were and how he may miss his connecting flight and how he may NEVER fly with us again..... It took all of my good manners to smile and thank him for flying with us......perhaps i should have just flown into the storm and shook the bad manners out this pompous ass......but of course that is not an option... which leads me to this..... Regardless of what we do, should we not at least expect the least amount of courtesy and understanding from each other ? Should we not give each other the benefit of the doubt ? Because we pay someone for a service, regardless of what that service is, does that grant us the right to be complete and utter fools and treat the person giving us the service grief because the service wasn't exactly what we had expected ? I would hope that we all stop and realize that for the most part, people WILL try their best to deliver as advertised.....sometimes, in spite of all good intentions, we fall short....even though of our best efforts.... There....I feel MUCH better.......forgive my rant...but I thought it appropriate in light of some recent posts ! SNK

I was talking to an hobbyist the other day about recos... I've asked him why we are not getting recos anymore... His awnser has stunned me... He told me everything was already written and that he was only a lurker... Ok, I can understand that... But you have to understand that I'm only a hooker, and I don't have to put effort in what I'm doing... My job is to satisfy you, not to give you the best moment of your life, or even make you relax... That's how I feel... When you post a reco, it's the same has saying thank you, eventhough it's just two words... No need to write a book! Adding to a reco makes it going back on top, and helping us get noticed among the others... I feel that I'm not good at it anymore, so better just quit, and I know I'm not the only one to think this way... We, girls, need VALORISATION, to be RECOGNIZE, to feel that we are the BEST... Not into it? Next time we meet, I may not be either...

These are just my ideas.

The OP trying to correct the Texan in any way would be lost. It's not our job to teach other grown adults manners. Not his point.. he's just wondering about manners and rudeness in our society in general. The Texan may have been well aware of the reason for the lateness and masking his fear of flying with rudeness. He may have been heading to his mother's funeral.. he may have been heading to or from all sorts of things. We'll likely never know.. and that's the thing.. You never know why someone is over-reacting with rudeness or any other measure of reacting because we don't talk about feelings and we're not psychic.. at least I know I'm not. We are also removed from our fellow societal members my more than technology (although that's an easy one on here especially when hiding behind a fake handle), we're also removed by lack of community. How many people on here know their neighbours well. Have grandparents still living near them or better yet still in their homes. I know I did as a child and many of my friends did as well. How many people have friends living near them still that they've known through childhood? I know I don't. Not anymore.. I make sure I develop a community and have balance in my life.. good friends who will tell me when I'm being an ass... keep me accountable and help me grow. I have learned also how important it is to limit my stress by having friends who I can be myself with.. all know what I do for a living so I don't have to hide who I am or what I do. Many people however hide who they are all the time.. not including this line of work or hobbying. We wear masks and hide our emotions. It's normal in our society to say 'how are you?' while never expecting a true answer. Who knows what was going on in that Texan's mind.. likely he wasn't even aware. But nasty responses generally mean a lot is going on that has absolutely nothing to do with the situation mentioned. How many marital arguments are started about menial things when the real issues are the ''elephant in the room'' that one is afraid to mention for fear of getting into a major argument and eventually being abandoned? Not to point fingers but I'd bet a lot of hobbiests would be having sex at home instead of seeing us if their communication at home were smooth :) And as for the luxury of being an sp. Damn tootin! I love being able to run my own business and turn away business if someone is rude or I don't want to deal with. When I worked 'square' jobs I didn't have that luxury if I wanted to stay employed.

I place a high value on recommendations. They have served me well in steering me towards some wonderful ladies. I write recos on occasion to give back to this great community but also as sort of a gift to the special ladies. It feels good and right to do it. Some of the members here post well written and entertaining recos. Thankyou I enjoy them. Myself I don't have the skill (or the time) to do so, but that's not stopping me and it shouldn't stop anyone. I'd very much like to see recos from low post count members along the lines of: "I saw XXXX. Had a great time and would recommend her." It doesn't have to be any more complicated than that. In this way you've cast a vote in effect and you're vote is as valid as anyones. Generally it seems to be a small population of members posting recos. We all know that YMMV so its important to get your input. I believe CERB would be a better place for it. Cheers

We live in a world that is obsessed with instant gratification and a sense of entitlement. This was originally marketed by corporations as a way to draw new business. We live in a highly narcissistic society. Everywhere you look there are proclaimations of individuals sense of entitlement. We buy shirts that say "spoiled" or "princess" for our children and for ourselves. We demand more of the person who makes our latte than we do of our government - or at least more people will be vocal about their displeasure at the poor barista than they will about the government. It has permeated every level of society, every demographic. It has been something many scholars and scientists have been puzzling over. Where exactly did it start? And how bad is it going to get before it slows down? We are all selfish to a degree. It's part of our evolutionary survial. But it seems that bad behavior is being tolerated more and more. "The customer is always right". No, they aren't. And these kinds of company policies are a band-aid for a hemmorrhage. I also think technology has given us a free pass for rudeness. Though technology brought the world into communication, it also provided annonymity and furthered our thirst for instant gratification. Another piece to the puzzle. It is a complicated issue with no easy or agreeable solution in sight. People will always feel entitled. Companies will always want business. The two are feeding each other and our children grow up learning these behaviors. The best we can do as individuals is try to be pleasant (at least out loud), patient, and remember that we're all flawed creatures. Some are better at some things than others and everyone has a skill/talent that you do not. The most important things to remember are patience and patience. Posted via Mobile Device

I am with mrgreen760 100% on this! I would rather be polite, say please and thank you, rather than being disrespectful and showing lack of manners. As many of you know I was raised in England, the school I attended taught us about respecting others and being honourable citizens. I hope my actions have influenced others around me to follow this attitude. I have noticed my employees smile much more now and always hold the door for others no matter how busy they are.

I was raised proper and have impeccable manners its second nature to me and anyone who has come in contact with me would concur. Rather than getting frustrated by lack of the same in others I continue to say please and thank you, open doors for anyone and smile at everyone I see. Life is short and each morning I decide what kind of day I'm going to have and if I let someone derail it.......it's my fault not theirs. Peace MG

Only would be too strong a word. Quite a number of ladies advertise on Escorts-canada who aren't on cerb. Besides inviting the lady to join cerb and showing her the existing recommendations of her makes for a good motivator.

Your very right WIT. The same goes for me as in what the gent has to say in his posts. I can Tell if I would like him as a client or not. There are a few gents I Would like to meet based on what they have to say n others I wouldn't like to see Based on the same. Lol Posted via Mobile Device

Your thanks is appreciated but credit is really due to those victims who contacted me and provided me with further details to complete the investigation. I was alerted to the scam potential a short while ago when I was contacted directly from the scammers by way of txt message pretending to be a provider I had seen previously. I suspected something was up but it takes time to bait these scammers. As for buyin' me a drink and without sounding like a sell out and seein' as you asked... you can buy me a drink if you've got paypal, just click the "buy me a beer" link on my website. I'm not out to profit from this though, a portion of all drinks and advertising money is donated to CHEO, Nelson House Women's shelter, The United way and the Humane Society. Or if you've found the site usefull and it's saved you a few bucks donate a portion of what you would have spent to a charity of your choosing. As for the location comments, I'm of the belief that good people can live in bad neighborhoods and all to often bad people can live in good neighborhoods. I don't believe in judging people on their address, the way they dress, where they work, the music they listen too, etc. That being said there's always a bad apple in the bunch as this situation has shown us, but let's not jump to conclusions just because of the street address. Understand that some of the people who might work out of their homes in that area are probably not doing so by choice but for survival. It's also not fair to write off CL completely everybody's got to start somewhere and for some it does provide great exposure, many members here also advertise on CL, they wouldn't do it if it didn't work,now would they ?