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This was the day my life went left. I was living in NC. I was driving with a friend, received a call from her mom and we headed straight home to a TV. The chaos locally was insane in our sleepy little alcove of life. We sent the children out to play and sat horrified as we watched the planes slam over and over and over again into the Towers. The replays didn't desensitize, even now I cry every time I see it. Charlotte was the second largest banking sector in the US at the time and local news had decided it was a full blown attack on the US and the next target was Charlotte. Being the consummate planner, I got in my van with my baby girls and drove to Cosco, stocked up on food that carried us for almost 2.5 years. It was also the day that war was declared on Muslims and someone told the police that my husband (a very western Muslim) was sending the proceeds from my agency to Al Quida. One month to the day of the Towers falling, three LE agencies were invading my house at 4 am and life as I knew it was over. Over the next 4 years our life was systematically dismantled and has never been the same. If my husband had been Christian, our situation would not have warranted a second look. Local LE were dumbfounded by the State and Federal actions. We survived drive by shootings at our home and constant police involvement in our daily lives. They took our property, our businesses, our savings, our childrens college funds, and detained us for over 2 years. I often sit and think about those that died in the Towers, and I wonder if they were the lucky ones. The rescue workers live with the horror still as does the entire city of New York. I put my self in their shoes when I start to feel resentful about the fall out in my life from 9/11. No one I loved died or suffers PTSD. That day impacted every ones lives in ways most don't realize. Whether the US had it coming or not is irrelevant, the pain it caused is real and I guess that was the point of the attack. I would not be the person I am today if my life hadn't destructed. I am grateful that I am whole and intact. We should not take our lives for granted, we live blessed existences compared to many in our world and we should never forget that. cat

Five myths about prostitution http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/09/10/AR2010091002670.html By Sudhir Venkatesh Sunday, September 12, 2010; B03 Last weekend, .........., the popular provider of Internet classified advertising, halted publication of its "adult services" section. The move followed criticism from law enforcement officials across the country who have accused the site of facilitating prostitution on a massive scale. Of course, selling sex is an old business -- most say the oldest. But as the .......... controversy proves, it's also one of the fastest changing. And as a result, most people's perceptions of the sex trade are wildly out of date. 1. Prostitution is an alleyway business. It once was, of course. In the late 1800s, as Northern cities boomed, the sex trade in America became synonymous with the seedy side of town. Men who wanted to find prostitutes combed alleys behind bars, dimly lit parks and industrial corridors. But today, only a few big cities, such as Los Angeles and Miami, still have a thriving outdoor street market for sex. New York has cleaned up Times Square, Chicago's South Loop has long since gentrified, and even San Francisco's infamous Tenderloin isn't what it used to be. These red-light districts waned in part because the Internet became the preferred place to pick up a prostitute. Even the most down-and-out sex worker now advertises on .......... (or did until recently), as well as on dating sites and in online chat forums. As a result, pimps' role in the sex economy has been diminished. In addition, the online trade has helped bring the sex business indoors, with johns and prostitutes increasingly meeting up in bars, in hotels, in their own homes or in apartments rented by groups of sex workers. All this doesn't mean a john can't get what he's looking for in the park, but he had better be prepared to search awhile. Although putting numbers on these trends is difficult, the transition from the streets to the Internet seems to have been very rapid. In my own research on sex workers in New York, women who in 1999 worked mostly outdoors said that by 2004, demand on the streets had decreased by half. 2. Men visit sex workers for sex. Often, they pay them to talk. I've been studying high-end sex workers (by which I mean those who earn more than $250 per "session") in New York, Chicago and Paris for more than a decade, and one of my most startling findings is that many men pay women to not have sex. Well, they pay for sex, but end up chatting or having dinner and never get around to physical contact. Approximately 40 percent of high-end sex worker transactions end up being sex-free. Even at the lower end of the market, about 20 percent of transactions don't ultimately involve sex. Figuring out why men pay for sex they don't have could sustain New York's therapists for a long time. But the observations of one Big Apple-based sex worker are typical: "Men like it when you listen. . . . I learned this a long time ago. They pay you to listen -- and to tell them how great they are." Indeed, the high-end sex workers I have studied routinely see themselves as acting the part of a counselor or a marriage therapist. They say their job is to feed a man's need for judgment-free friendship and, at times, to help him repair his broken partnership. Little wonder, then, that so many describe themselves to me as members of the "wellness" industry. 3. Most prostitutes are addicted to drugs or were abused as children. This was once the case, as a host of research on prostitution long ago confirmed. But the population of women choosing sex work has changed dramatically over the past decade. High-end prostitutes of the sort Eliot Spitzer frequented account for a greater share of the sex business than they once did. And as Barnard College's Elizabeth Bernstein has shown, sex workers today tend to make a conscious decision to enter the trade -- not as a reaction to suffering but to earn some quick cash. Among these women, Bernstein's research suggests, prostitution is viewed as a part-time job, one that grants autonomy and flexibility. These women have little in common with the shrinking number of sex workers who still work on the streets. In a 2001 study of British prostitutes, Stephanie Church of Glasgow University found that those working outdoors "were younger, involved in prostitution at an earlier age, reported more illegal drug use, and experienced significantly more violence from their clients than those working indoors." 4. Prostitutes and police are enemies. When it comes to the sex trade, police officers have in recent decades functioned as quasi-social workers. Peter Moskos's recent book, "Cop in the Hood: My Year Policing Baltimore's Eastern District," describes how police often play counselor to sex workers, drug dealers and a host of other illegal moneymakers. In my own work, I've found that cops are among the most empathetic and helpful people sex workers meet on the job. They typically hand out phone numbers for shelters, soup kitchens and emergency rooms, and they tend to demonstrate a great deal of sympathy for women who have been abused. Instead of arresting an abused sex worker, police officers will usually let her off with a warning and turn their attention to finding her abusive client. Unfortunately, officers say it is becoming more difficult to help such women; as they move indoors, it is simply more difficult to locate them. Of course, many big-city mayors embrace this same turn of events, since the rate of prostitution-related arrests drops precipitously when cops can't find anyone to nab. But for police officers, it makes day-to-day work quite challenging. Officers in Chicago and New York who once took pride in helping women exit the sex trade have told me about their frustration. Abusive men can more easily rob or hurt a sex worker in a building than on the street, they say. And while cops may receive a call about an overheard disturbance, the vague report to 911 is usually not enough to pinpoint the correct apartment or hotel room. There are few things more dispiriting, they say, than hearing of a woman's cries for help and being unable to find her. 5. Closing ..........'s "adult services" section will significantly affect the sex trade. Although .......... offered customers an important means to connect with sellers of sexual services, its significance has probably been exaggerated. Even before the site's "adult services" section was shut down, it was falling out of favor among many users. Adolescent pranksters were placing ads as hoaxes. And because sex workers knew that cops were spending a lot of time responding to ads, they were increasingly hesitant to answer solicitations. I found that 80 percent of the men who contacted women via .......... in New York never consummated their exchange with a meeting. How the sex trade will evolve from here is anyone's guess, but the Internet is vast, and already we are seeing increasing numbers of sex workers use Twitter and Facebook to advertise their services. Apparently, the desire to reveal is sometimes greater than the desire to conceal. [email protected] Sudhir Venkatesh is a professor of sociology at Columbia University and the author of "Gang Leader for a Day: A Rogue Sociologist Takes to the Streets." Want to challenge everything you think you know? Visit the "Five Myths" archive.

Good morning... I'm just wondering about the psychological process of this: I get pms asking me what I offer/look like/charge. I'm pretty sure the first thing you guys do when you're interested in a lady is check out her photos and website, where everything is clearly listed. That's the great thing about cerb-- all the info and links you need in one place. But I get these emails all the time. I'm just wondering, why? Why pretend ignorance when you already know what I offer? It kind of makes me feel like the sender really isn't interested in seeing me at all and sometimes I just don't write back. Just trying to figure this whole thing out :) xoxo Amelia

5 More myths 1. Sex workers have super powers and can spin magical orgasmic webs with their genitalia, kinda like Spiderman only different. 2. If you take a sex worker with you to buy a car, they will use their hypnotic powers to seduce the salesperson into a better price. 3. Sex workers only eat strawberry Twizzlers, popcorn and Mentos. They only drink water and white wine. 4. Sex workers never have to go to the bathroom, ever. 5. A sex worker rescued a trapped child from 30 feet down in an abandoned well using only her vajayjay and kegel exercises.

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all i have to say is HOLY HOT MAMA about chrystal!!!:-P Actually no that's a lie that's not all I have to say about chrystal.. So i've had my account with Cerb for quite sometime, but went shopping through agencies and independents for a while before finally deciding to make my first post on Cerb. Firstly WHERE DID THIS WOMAN COME FROM?? not only is she unbelievably hot, but I love the fact that she has some meat on her. W'ere talking junk in the trunk and a rack that has you wanting to run your face through, alright now on with cinematic post! I visited chrystal some weeks ago, after finally being able to book an appointment with her at T2T, Lady Pheobee said picking up for what seemed like the 100th time Ive called for chrystal, finally said shes free at 7:00 so I me being the happy camper that I was showered,groomed, and sprayed to go! As I awaited her to answer the door,I thought I wonder if she's as sexy as her photographs the answer? Much more INCREDIBLE looking, and you see as man my preference are thicker women, no no not don't misunderstand not fatter women, thicker FIT women..And guess what? Thats exactly what I got,this woman is fucking hot, greeted me in a sexy little black and white comboof satin and lace,of course paired with some sexy sexy high heels. Tall but not too tall, satin smooth skin, adorable smile, and the most delectable set of little lips. So of course i went to TOWN on removing her bra and undies and licking nearly every inch of that fantastic set of twins shes got, yumm. Then I of course went on a journey to the southern islands and shall we say the air is simply decadent. After what seemed like ages of hearing her moan and groan and watching her lips part in pleasure( both sets) she grabbed me by the shoulders and moaned the words - i want-you-now- so in I went and asked for greek and she replied of course it was on the menu and boy did that ass take what I was giving it, tight and warm too. At this point you can only imagine I didn't last for very long,and we spent the remainder of our time soaping up and cuddling for a short eternity in the shower, we retreating back to the bedroom where she allowed me to lotion down her smooth soft skin.. Before kissing me goodbye..such sweet goodbye, see you soon yummy chrystal, can't wait to taste T2T'S other goodies

Very worthy of a second showing here: The one, the only KIMof Mtl

Hey guys, I saw Selena twice in August. Once for and overnight at a hotel room I had booked the other at her in service location. Anyways she was prompt for the out service and came dressed in a very classy cocktail dress. So without getting into details she was great to be with and allot of fun. I would recommend her to anyone. She is stunningly beautiful and bursting with energy. I really hope I can see her again when I'm in town