Jasmine Rain

My site is my biggest administrative tool used for this line of work. I don't give out a phone number or email address in my ads, so every client I get comes to me through my website first.

 

This is my biggest and best screening method. If you have not taken the time to read my site, you are not the client for me and I am equally not the companion for you.

 

I am amazed by ladies who answer text after text from their BP. I could not do it. I would go insane.

 

I could not handle answering companion calls from random clients and having to answer, "what are your rates?" It just seems to foreign to me to conduct business that way.

 

I can't say whether not having a website works or not. I am sure it must. I know ladies who simply work on BP. If there ad is up, they are working that day. If not, then don't bug them types. To each their own. It is what works for them

 

Some ladies could not stand having multiple emails going back and forth before booking a date. That would drive them nuts, but for me, it is how I like to get to know a new client, get a feel for what we will both enjoy together, set the mood before meeting, etc.

 

So to answer your question, a site can work for the person who works it properly. Not having a site can work for the girl who excel at other ways of contact.

I have done the duo thing with work and there is just too much anxiety to ensure that all parties are enjoying themselves and wanting to make sure the professionalism for the client is there.

 

Of course the times were fun, but nothing like the carefree "natural" way you see threesomes done in porn. That is where I think porn hurts over helps, but that is another topic.

 

I have in my civie life done threesome that were natural, and that was more fun and relaxing. However, I must admit I can be a bit selfish at times and would prefer a MMF duo where the attention was on me. So I see the appeal for guys wanting that dual BJ, etc.

 

I guess there is a time and place for the perfect threesome, and as with anything, the more people you add, the more the dynamics change, and that can make for more chances of a flop instead of the intended fun.

There are some seriously nice breasts in this thread. Like holy shit! LOL

Thank you Krissy ,

 

I did try emailing them as I bought a Starbucks gift card (they had that as a payment option last week) but when I went to enter it in the option was gone. It does seem like some people do still have the option of using credit card, if they email back I will ask :)

 

The sister site is your best option right now. Until things change again of course. LOL

 

GL

What not to do is great gents- but we pretty much have those covered.

(After so many years you learn to empty the wastebasket every time and throw a towel on the bathmat when you shower so it doesn't get wet..)

Pros already do these guys!

 

I was really more looking for 'extras'.. like different types of cologne on hand, fresh fruit and cream, wrapped mints and different phone chargers... ya know, extras. ;)

 

 

I thought only I did the different phone charges thing. LOL I have a little section set up for it and everything.

I guess I don't understand where, besides common use, the line is drawn between adjectives and labels.

 

Why is it that delicate, slim or tiny are adjectives but not spinner and to my knowledge BBW stands for Big Beautiful Woman. How one perceived such a description is subjective, whether positive or negative, it is up to one's interpretation.

 

I guess another thought is what if delicate or curvy became a "label", would you then stop using that adjective or description? Words become labels because they have become a main adjective(s) for describing someone, group or something. They are not necessarily intended to be complimentary or derogatory, they have simply become one of the most common words or short phrases to apply when, verbally or in writing, communicating while trying to convey an image or feeling to another person or group.

 

I see what both of you are saying.

 

I think in terms of BBW, that is such a wrong label however.

 

Because every woman in the 200lbs+ range ALL say they are BBW's and that is not always the case. Spinner does not include a beauty component. No other term for that matter, puts a beauty component to it. Beauty is the in the eye of the beholder and all woman are beautiful in there own way but to automatically imply that a woman is beautiful because she is big and says BBW, doesn't always make it so.

 

Plus most guys who are true BBW lovers, it is a fetish really. For men looking for women who are 350-400lbs plus. Not women my size. It is also why smaller BBW is laughable in my opinion. There is a certain look that truly falls into the BBW fetish category. Most men and women in this industry who are using the term BBW are actually using incorrectly and have taken the natural reason for the term out of context.

This is why I coined the phrase "fabulously full figured."

 

I could not figure out the best way to describe my body type. I have also been called a smaller BBW in reviews and I thought the term an oxymoron as stated. Advertising specially as a BBW put me in a category that had some men getting rather upset with me as I am not a "real BBW". These men like someone who is more like Whitney Thore from "My fabulous Fat life".

 

I found trying to say curvy, or voluptuous equally had men saying I was trying to "appear thinner then I am"

 

This was the only term I could come up with that I felt was unique and more of a true representation of me. The categories that clients use really do make it harder sometimes to be accurate when said category is so generalized.

I don't think I would even see him period. Paid or not. It is simply not a risk I would be willing to take. Should it get out in the media, I would be harassed and hounded.

 

$250 for the hour and right to say I fuck JT is not worth the possible harassment. My discretion and normalcy of life are just to important.

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I am a mature elite companion standing 5â??7 with a fabulously full figured frame. I am in my late thirties, have soft curves and an hourglass figure. I was naturally gifted with a big bouncy 44DD bust line and the booty to match.



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Beautiful, confident and sexy, I have an insatiable sexual appetite and sassy sensual feminine flair. Fun and frisky, I am enthusiastic and playful as well as passionate and imaginative.Time with me is the perfect retreat from the stresses of ordinary life. I want to tease and tickle your mind, body and soul. Leaving you positively contented and satiated.

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[B][I]I will be hosting at a nice upscale hotel in a full suite Sudbury from [U]August 5th-8th[/U]. Pre-booking is highly recommended. Rates for my time and companionship are $160/half, $250/hour or my favourite prefer date time - $450/2 hours. [/I][/B]

I truly enjoy the art of the French Kiss. The teasing and pleasing of two people with their tongues in twirling motions of blissâ?¦ What is not to love? However, I am a non smoker, so therefore my lovers must be as well. No kissing is a deal breaker for me and I can/will not lick an ashtray. A gentlemen enjoying a nice cigar after a meal or our evening out is acceptable on the rare and special occasion.

I prefer a masculine/dominant yet non misogynistic man. I prefer a gentlemen who enjoys pleasing a woman as much as I enjoy pleasing a man. A man who truly appreciates the softness of a womanâ??s body and wants to explore every inch of it. I prefer a confident man who knows that I want to worship him because I choose him to be my date and not because of the donation he leaves me later as an appreciate to my TLC.

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From the Root:

 

"[Your] hair is going to scream "black," which is going to serve to emphasize [your] whiteness -- the whiteness that, perhaps, people previously just saw as neutral, or didn't consciously register. Once race is in the front of everyone's consciousness, all sorts of assumptions about [your] motivations and inclinations -- fair and unfair, reality-based and not, about [your] hair and [your] overall worldview -- will follow. Quickly."

 

http://www.theroot.com/articles/culture/2013/06/dreadlocks_should_white_people_have_them.2.html

 

Just be prepared for the extra scrutiny.

 

I have family members who have dreaded it up for years, and they have not met much scrutiny based on race. They have been thought of as dirty and not wanting to wash, but surprisingly it has never been about race.

 

However, they are very hippie style as well and it flows naturally for them.

 

I think that there are many hair styles that I like that I know I could never personally pull off.

 

As for a companions having them - If I was a client, I would like to know a head of time as I think hair plays a role simply based on the femininity factor but since it is a very unique style, as the companion I may have privacy concerns. That would be a tough one to call.

If I am not in the mood for chit chat, I usually try to politely get that out of the way in the beginning. When most ask how I am doing, I simply say that I great now that I get some "me" to sit in piece and quiet getting pampered. I then close my eyes and just try to relax.

 

For the most part, people get the hint. They are service people, they know that sometimes people use their services as a time to relax as well. It is just easier to tell them straight at the beginning. Then I don't have to reply on body language or possible offending someone who is not picking up the cues.

I can't see any of the pictures???

 

I only see MissJessicaLee and Michelle_MA

Hi,

 

Please feel free to take a look at my site, waxing and fun is what I do :-)

 

http://Www.squirtqueenxxxx.com

 

Thank you

 

Valentina xo

 

Your site is not active sweetie.

Here is where my jealously kicks in. Reading about everyone's great time. I am very happy to hear it was such a success. Hopefully there is another one and I will not be missing it.

Just east of Toronto for me, but I love to travel and can't wait to take my show on the road.

I am also new and have not posted any ads. I will not be starting until the new year. I did start posting a few months ago on various forums as a "prep" for my introduction. I was hoping to be started by now, but alas, me at the wee morning hours on stairs with a little dog, did not work out in my favour. My tailbone being injured has left me with no tail to offer to others at the moment.

 

What I decided on was references from either a forum or provider. I have met a couple of ladies in the industry for dinner and asked all the questions I could. I searched over hundreds of sites. I am still fine tuning what I want to offer, what locations, etc, but I have resigned myself to a motto of "I can always say no"

 

When I think of my what adult companion life will be once I am finally advertising, I get nervous and have to remember that I can always say no. I have to set rules and boundaries and then find clients that will work within them. I would be silly to think I should market myself to clients who enjoy 20 something spinner type companions when I am a mature curvy woman. So there is not only a market for escorts, but there is one for clients as well. I know the market of clientele that I am looking for. They will, for the most part, have no issue with my screening process, and the ones that do are free to look else where with the best of wishes from me.

 

I need to feel comfortable, just as I want to ensure my gentleman callers are comfortable. So for me, I am prepared to say no. I think one thing I have heard a lot of warning about for newbies like us, is we fail to see or feel that we can decline a visit request, or that we can stop the visit during the encounter for any reason. There is nothing wrong with saying no so long as it is professional and honest. In my opinion at least.

 

Good luck and welcome to the board.

I hope everyone enjoys their time tonight. I was very much looking forward to attending and am extremely disappointed I am not able too. I do hope there is another one in the future.

Save money...there will be slow times and retirement...even if it's only a few dollars from each appointment. Save,save, save.

 

This one is the one that most forget about. Financial planning is key to any business. Budgeting, evaluating expense to see where you can cut cost, saving, paying out of pocket, not on credit. Etc.

 

Some ladies don't even keep track of their income vrs business expenses before looking at take home cash vrs natural living costs.

I know I am new here but I would love to attend the social. I have made arrangements for my own hotel booking and transportation.

Client verification is a huge concern for me as well however I don't have a reputation yet either so I felt asking for information that may be considered "too" personal was not the way to go for me.

 

I decided on using Sp references for verification in combination with board handle and verified white list services like P411. I do hope that in time, I may be able to require more information with out reputation concerns should I feel that I need to.

 

However, stating all of that, I think that if you feel you need a certain check list of items before meeting someone, then you should ask for it. Clearly women are able to request this information and are getting it. I can't say for certain if the volume of inquires will change based on the amount of information required and that may be something that you may need to look at before hand and therefore may be able to deflect that possible loss in volume with adjustments to service, rates or location.

 

I think the only way you can really ask for the information is simply ask for it and not accept less then what you feel comfortable it. I think that providing a online information and booking request email form on your site as the only method of contact helps in this manner and seems to be what most of the providers do who are looking for this same type of client verification. This way you are not left in uncomfortable situations in text or on the phone trying to ask for this information.

 

Good luck

I would split it. If it was a large sum, I would probably want them to cash it in to be honest. I am a very private person and I don't want the spotlight. So I would be trusting them to give me half anyway.

 

On the matter of giving the gift to someone, I would be upset if someone won a large amount and didn't share. Not because I would want the money but because I would be disappointed in my choice of friend. For someone in my life that I choose to have there to be that kind of selfish would be upsetting.

I was not aware of an SP only section. I would have asked there as I would really like to opinions of some of the ladies.

 

Hopefully some can then PM me as suggested.

 

Thanks for the replies.

As I slowly put my self, my site, and marketing together for my official launch, I am seriously struggling with determining my rates. I think that is because I am not a full, nor even a part time sex worker. I believe I am slightly a unique breed in this industry, or at least on the very small size of the market base.

 

Standard rules of business would call for calculating expenses, required/desired income level and the divide that by the amount of clients you want to see in a day/week/month to obtain your quota. However, that does not apply to me either. As I sustain my financial independence via my outside business, there is no need to meet a certain quota other then to ensure I cover expenses.

 

I do not want to under value myself. I am not looking for a daily dates, I would be happy sexually with a couple a week, but if I don't see a gentlemen for days, weeks or even months, the only issue I will have is battery replacement in my toys.

 

Sexual experiences for me would ideally be a minimum of 2 hours. I would prefer longer as well as dinner dates or drinks out and dessert in type dates. I have no issue with obtaining a hotel to host from in any city so long as it is worth while. Worth while meaning considerations for my travel time, etc. I don't want to raise rates per location as I would simply prefer a longer date be arranged. I would only book one appointment so the hotel would only be used for that date. This would have to be considered in the expenses aspect as I can not split the expense over multiple client bookings.

 

I would like to offer the following:

 

1. 2 hour date basically entailing what a standard hour would be, just hopefully more time for MSOG, MPOS, and lots of foreplay
   
2. 3 hours would be drinks added with more time for companionship and conversation as well as the above
   
3. 4-5 hour dinner date with "dessert" back at the hotel.
   

 

Naturally, I just thought $250x2=$500. Seems so simple. However, should I consider something slightly higher to compensate for the individual hotel expense? Should I just offer outcalls? Or only outcalls for 1 hour appointments? I have had a few gentlemen comment on frequency of hour bookings and therefore suggest that I may lose out on many potential clients. However again, a hour really is just not long enough for me. I don't think that will work for what I am looking to get out of being a sex worker.

 

I don't want to under cut my fellow ladies in lust. I don't want to over price myself that I never have sex again. I never thought this would be so difficult. I don't just want to go with what everyone else charges either as I feel there needs to be some personal "ends" that justify the need for the donation amount and that is different for everyone.

 

Ladies, any help would be appreciated. How did you determine your donation amount? Gentlemen, how do rates play into your choice of companion?

Stevemcqueen:

Should she disclose her mental health history? That's just a different type of "risk" after all.

 

I want to address this comment to ensure that I have explained myself properly. I am not discussing the merits of health or safety in my posted opinion as that is for each individual to ascertain for themselves.

 

My opinion is solely on the informed consent basis of engaging in sexual services. That is all. I do not negatively judge ladies who use sponges. I do not judge on anything. I am very open and understanding to how and why ladies feel the way they do.

 

So what a lady should or should not disclose based on risk is not my concern. At least not for this topic of conversation. My opinion is strictly on informed consent of the client.

 

Also, as with all opinions, they are merely an opinion. Not fact, law or right/wrong. It is just my personal on this matter.

 

I did offer up the suggestions of financial planning as an aid and tool that can be helpful to my fellow working ladies. I do not want anyone feeling the feast or famine battle. Before I start working in mainstream way back when, many many years ago, I was homeless, sleeping in a stairwell and starving from not eating for days. I do not want any person to ever have to experience that. While I did not start escorting then, I did find work and that was my start to my own business. I had to learn how to manage money, work hard, plan ahead to ensure I never have to be in that position again. However, it was very traumatic for me. To the point that even though I can fully retire from my mainstream work, actually from all forms of work right now, I don't. I don't because I still fear being destitute unrealistically. No amount of zeros left of the decimal in my bank account are going to change the embedded fear that I now carry. I know the battle and I want to help others if I can.

I think that all of us are and can be sensitive to the other person, however I still have to say that offering sexual services while using a sponge and NOT telling your partner/lover/friend is not allowing them the choice. That to me personally is voiding informed consent. I don't think anyone would be as passive about that if the gender roles were reversed.

 

We are women and we get our periods monthly. We know this. We should prepare for this. That would also mean to me personally, budgeting my income cash flow with my out going expense.

 

I understand that some feel they can not do this. Some are not aware of what options they have in financial planning and we never know the bills of someone else so who are we to say. I understand that not everyone has the same business sense as me and I completely understand that while I have the advantage of working or not working at this point in my life, others do not. I am 38 and can fully retire. From every line of work. I am a rare breed in this regard. I accept this and do not preach.

 

However, I worked extremely hard to get where I am. I am not in some luxury status now. I worked extremely hard, sacrificed a lot and now can enjoy the benefit of it. Being that escorting is generally a cash business, I can see how managing that money can be difficult but not impossible. There are many financial planning tricks that would work so much better for a companion. Things that would grant her the ability to take time off during regular menstruation but even more importantly, it would give her more freedom and control over her business. Something that I think all women should look into and not just because of this sponge/period issue. This industry does not, under any circumstances, have to be feast or famine. It can be very much different and I strongly encourage all ladies to look into proper financial planning to ensure that you never have to feel that feast or famine feeling.

 

Having said all that, I really can't help but think of the men who have, for a variety of different reasons, issue with sex while a woman is on her menses. This would go for any woman in his life, including his wife. We are not talking about when "accidents" happen. I also fully agree that tact and respect when these accidents happen however is a must. However some of the comments from the ladies regarding her right to work trumping a mans right to informed consent to sexual services is a little shocking to say the least.

 

I know I am the new comer here, but I can not support the idea of "he didn't notice, so I am all good". That does not work for me regardless of the gender role of the person or the issue that person might be having. Informed consent should be in my opinion the TOP priority when rolling in the sheets with anyone. Client or civilian lover.