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We all know this name, don't we? I'm delighted to share an interview with @KylieJane on how she keeps her customers cumming, sorry, I mean COMING 😉 back for more. Please share your thoughts in the comments! Q: Hey Kylie! Thanks so much for doing this interview with me. You’ve been on Lyla for a while from what I can see! Can you give us some background on your journey as a Companion? A: It has been awhile, approximately 6 yrs. I've always been very sexually open-minded and had an ability to relate to anyone. I would say becoming a companion was a pretty natural fit for my personality. Q: Do you remember your first Client? What was it like? A: I certainly do! I remember I actually had an ad on a non-sex worker site, I was just starting my journey and didn't know where to place an ad. He was an older gentleman and was the only one who got a chance to send me a message before I was shut down. I was nervous, but fortunately he was not. He had seen providers before and was very understanding and patient with me. We continued to see each other many times until his health deteriorated to the point he wasn't able to. I have many fond memories of him and our time together. Q: Would you say the majority of your Clients are nervous when you first meet? I know I would be! A: I would say meeting a companion for the first time is a unique adventure and can understand someone being nervous. But when I see someone for the first time I make sure they are set at ease, It makes spending time with someone more enjoyable for both of us. And i believe I have a reputation for being easy going and making people comfortable. Q: Do their nerves settle when they’ve seen you more than once? A: Yes, I like to think so, as I make sure they are set at ease firstly, then I like to think my repeat clients enjoy our comfortable time and have many who say so, I believe my regulars enjoy my personality as much as other attributes. Q: I guess nerves can really get in the way of things sometimes, do you ever experience cancellations or sessions cut short because of nerves? A: I have and completely understand when someone tells me so. Thankfully when this has happened I've gotten plenty of notice, this is all I ask. Even then sometimes after a bit more chatting/texting they relax and keep their date. But if nerves do get the best of someone I do get it. And some will still send a donation regardless even if they aren't ready to see me, which is always appreciated. Q: I imagine in the time you’ve been a Companion you’ve learnt some valuable skills, including settling nerves. So, set the scene, it’s a Client’s first time seeing you and they’re messaging to say they’re super nervous - what do you do? A: I assure them I understand and explain sometimes I get nervous also, it can be stressful meeting someone new in any situation. I explain my where my hosting location is and what to expect when they walk through the door. I also explain that once they are with me there is no pressure or expectations. We will do what we are comfortable with and I will make sure you will enjoy our time together. I will also say that in no way will I do aggressive messaging, no pressure and always friendly. Q: And what about in person, if they’ve arrived and they’re still nervous, what course of action do you take? A: Always when someone arrives, I show them in and greet them with a smile, hug and a cheek kiss (I never assume they are ok with a mouth kiss) I find this type of greeting goes a long way in settling nerves. As they come in, I like to sit them down, offer a beverage to their liking and ask them about their day. Q: Do you have any aids at your incall/outcall to help settle Clients’ nerves? A: Does my sparkling personality count as an aid? Lol kidding. Sometimes music, mood lighting and a glass of wine, including non-alcoholic, are always great ways to relax. Q: So what about you? Do you ever get nervous before a session? A: Absolutely, meeting new people can be stressful no matter the situation. Q: What has helped you personally with feeling confident before a session? A: I like to pick out some of my favourite outfits that make me feel sexy. Then I'll look in the mirror, take a deep breath and say "I look great and I feel sexy". This gets me in a confident mood, and I believe feeling good about myself is a good thing for the person I'm seeing. I really enjoy what I do, and anyone I see will know this. Also a glass of wine can help, hehe. Q: Thanks so much for your time! Anything else you’d like to add? A: Thank you, I appreciate you asking to contribute to this wonderful forum. I will add, getting to know your client/companion helps set them at ease. Find out likes/dislikes, boundaries and expectations. I believe these things are necessary for the best possible interaction, xo.
Happy Sunday sexy, smart and sensual people! Today's interview is with someone I've had fascinating discussions on Twitter with and who is relatively new to Lyla - @Callista Carter ❤️ I hope you enjoy and please do comment with any life lessons you have learnt from this industry, whether you're a Client or Companion. Q: Hey Callista! Thanks for being our interviewee on this exciting topic. Let’s start with getting some info on you - where are you from and what do you do? A: I'm from a little bit all over. Originally Alberta, although I've been in BC for almost 5 years. I've lived on Vancouver Island, Prince George BC, and now in the Okanagan. I am currently a masseuse! I just rebranded from fully escorting when I moved to the Okanagan. Q: Thanks for the intro! So how long have you been doing this? What services do you offer? A: I have been in the industry most of my life off and on. I was trafficked quite young and was brought into the industry on a few platforms then. As a sex worker, I have been working off and on since I was about 21 (I'm now 26). I say as a sex worker - because that's what I currently do and there is a huge difference between a label of child trafficking and sex working. Q: I am so sorry you went through that. Can I ask what the transition was like between trafficking and consensual sex work? A: Unfortunately it happens in this world. But I've really made a good transition between the two. I didn't work in the sex trade for a few years and decided to go on my own will and sought an agency at that time. It changed my entire life for the better. I've had tons of shuffles too, don't get me wrong. But I'm able to get back on my feet and heal and I'm feeling quite self empowered since deciding to work as a worker. Q: Did you have any preconceptions before going into sex work? A: Getting into sex work from a past of being trafficked, was a whole new world for me! I definitely had a stigma going into it, but honestly sex work gave me my power back! Q: This is a slightly loaded question but… sex work. Easier or harder than it looks? A: Sex work is way harder than everyone thinks. People think we just lay on our back and get paid. Or think that we JUST have sex. My typical day as a sex worker: Wake up, check my work Facebook, Twitter, Email, Text messages. I then get in the shower, get ready. I spend anywhere between 1-2 hours mentally preparing for my day via meditation, motivation podcasts, blazing, eating, hair, makeup galore! By that time, I'm then taking pictures, posting ads (which costs money too), I'm accepting texts, occasionally phone calls. About 1 in probably 15 messages are actually for the city I am located in, and half of those are people just wasting my time, or calling me horrendous names. The actual appointment is the easiest and best part of my job (aside from the fact that half the time you have to drag a gentleman into the shower so they aren't gross and actually smell nice). Q: It’s so much more than doing the session and getting paid, right? What else goes into it? A: Marketing lots and lots of marketing... that's a difficult part on its own.... ESPECIALLY Facebook and Twitter with the algorithms to flag most SW anything! I love the pay of my career, although sometimes the emotional labour that comes with it isn't ALWAYS worth the extra cash. That being said I absolutely adore my job! It keeps me challenged, every day is different, you meet the most amazing clients and people, you are part of making someone's day (even sometimes month or year). All that is such a rewarding feeling and keep me at it. Although I'm looking at school for another career, I feel I'll always still do SW in some form or another. Q: What life skills have you picked up during your career? A: As far as life skills go; there is so much to SW. Especially as an independent provider. I own a business. I have learned things like marketing and algorithms, how to make a website. Also how to get ready quickly. I've learned about budgeting, saving, and investments (I still have TONS of work to do, but I'm working on it). I've learned the value of my own boundaries and to value myself. I'm slowly becoming more knowledgeable on taxes too! And those are just the basics! Q: What about “emotional” skills? So stuff like setting boundaries, putting a Client’s nerves at ease? A: I used to have a hard time putting up boundaries and would beat myself and hate myself for almost letting someone harm me. Even emotionally. Now as I'm developing as a woman and have the time and space to do the work on myself that I need to, I see myself flourishing! I'm more clear in knowing what I like and don't like (and it's forever changing, as I evolve and explore more things too). Q: What about in terms of self exploration - has sex work enabled you to get to know yourself better in certain ways? A: Sex work has given me lots of opportunities to practice self care. I love the outdoors and can go often! I can afford a really good therapist. I have a life coach too, that's able to work in my corner. Although sex work is isolating in the "real world". I get to develop a beautiful relationship with myself. I have learned self respect, self empowerment, integrity, hard work and an ample of other personal skill sets. Q: There’s a stigma that sex work is a “dead end” job, right? But all these things we’ve spoken about proves the opposite. How would you “dress up” certain skills to make them civvy friendly? E.g. writing ads = copywriting. A: I have recently updated a resume and I was able to transfer a lot of skills. Instead of just saying I'm a masseuse, I just painted a picture I own a massage company and gain clientele via word of mouth/ Facebook marketing. The transferable skills I was able to highlight are things like, bookkeeping, reception, cleaning, organization, massage etc. I would also add, I feel that a lot of my career is also therapy for my clients. Being a good listener is super pertinent! Q: Do you think that Clients can learn something from participating in sex work too? Such as manners? A: Oh yes, Clients can learn tonnes of things!! Manners and how to treat a lady 100%. But also some sexual and non sexual techniques. I often will guide clients when trying new things to "teach" how to go about pleasuring in those ways! Clients can also have an opportunity to work on themselves I'm sessions too. That be patience, confidence, learning to relax/self care. Thank you sooo much for your time Callista!