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Have you ever fell in love (not lust) with an SP?

Have you ever fell in love (not lust) with an SP?  

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  1. 1. Have you ever fell in love (not lust) with an SP?

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OTTAWA STUDS!

 

Have you ever fell in love (not lust) with an SP?

Needs no further explanation.

 

Please share your thoughts, experience if you are so inclined?

And perhaps the SP? :)

 

Thanks

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In a wide (and true) definition, service providers include dancers, escorts and masseuses, so, yes I have fallen in love with service providers (I have fallen in love with three dancers but not escorts and I have not seen masseuses). So I voted yes.

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I think u should leave it up ..

I'd love to see the response

 

Okay. I will leave it up in the Ottawa section.

 

So Ottawa guys, have you ever fell in love with an SP?

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First off Origin, don't delete it. I think this is a great subject matter, and I have true first hand experience on the subject at hand.

 

Many of you know that I had previously dated an SP from Montreal, and things ended and life goes on. However, my life very recently changed and I never saw it coming! I had been talking with an SP for sometime and we both realized we had a great deal in common and started to hit it off. She knew I wasn't really involved in the scene other than just here on CERB due to certain circumstances in my life. I had seen a few SP's over the last year, but for the most part I had been retired as a hobbyiest. We started to spend time together, and then thought it would be best to take the next step. We've been together ever since.

 

Now you ask the question have you ever fallen in love and not lust with an SP. In this case I never saw this woman as a client, which can make a difference. I had planned to, but the timing was never right. Remember, as a client it is all a fantasy scenario. Even if you are a regular, you don't actually know the woman. I know her, I've held her in my arms when she is sick, been there when she needs me, we have quiet nights together watching movies and just hanging out together. She knows what makes me tick and understands the life I've led, she's there for me when I need to talk. Having been around the hobby for 20 years, I am lucky to have found her. It's a loving relationship, like any other loving relationships and it works for us and my heart is hers till the end of time.

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I voted no, BUT feelings do develop... i've had to remind myself, that it is a job, and part of it is to make a connection with their client, so that its enjoyable for everyone and maybe they get a regular client from it... I definitely have had feelings stirred though, and have wanted to ask a lady or 2 on a 'real' no sex date.... and let me add that its never about how good the sex was, its always about the ladys personality, kindness, attitude etc...

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Guest ***ky12***

I fell in love with my fav SP in Halifax, we had a 6 year relationship together but are separated now. We lived together for four years, she stopped doing calls when we got serious. I still love her and always will.

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I voted yes. But unfortunatley financial situation meant she could not reciprocate. As long as she was in the biz, she wont let it go any further. I continue to have strong feelings for her and hope that they dont get in the way of our continued friendship. She has always been upfront with me, so I have no-one to blame but myself for any letdown feelings.

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I fell in love with a Spanish beauty who I started seeing as an SP for about 10 years, which graduated to dining out as friends, out dancing, out-of-town stays, and I was in love because aside from the physical liaisons, I did care for her and supported her at times financially. I had to put an end to it abruptly as I was a married man.

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I think u should leave it up ..

I'd love to see the response

 

He meant remove the duplicate post in the other section.

 

Additional Comments:

I think u should leave it up ..

I'd love to see the response

 

They're referring to the duplicate post he made of this one in the other section.

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We did fall in love with each other, at least I was and she showed me that she was also so I believed her when she said it. We have not seen each other since last winter but keep in touch often. I consider her a very very good friend and I'm sure she still has feelings for me has I do for her.

 

I have taken her to the airport to see her off to another location. It is tough to see someone leave like that for a while, I have seen her on the train again going to another city and just waving goodbye was overwhelming.

 

That's no way to say goodbye. ( by Leonard Cohen )

 

I loved you in the morning, our kisses deep and warm,

your hair upon the pillow like a sleepy golden storm,

yes, many loved before us, I know that we are not new,

in city and in forest they smiled like me and you,

but now it's come to distances and both of us must try,

your eyes are soft with sorrow,

Hey, that's no way to say goodbye.

I'm not looking for another as I wander in my time,

walk me to the corner, our steps will always rhyme

you know my love goes with you as your love stays with me,

it's just the way it changes, like the shoreline and the sea,

but let's not talk of love or chains and things we can't untie,

Hey, that's no way to say goodbye.

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It was easy for me ... or at least the falling was easy. I'm not married and have no SO ... so it all happened pretty naturally.

 

Then in comes reality ... we became very close and did some dumb things that may have harmed her business (broke cerb rules)

I had to reflect and reassess what it was I was looking for and so did she. Got some really good advice from a fellow cerbite ... (You know who you are and the my debt to you is remembered!)

 

Anyway, I still love her very much .. but it seems as though her life and mine are not a particularly good mix. So we've cooled it off ... best thing for both of us I figure.

 

But, like all really good love affairs ... it was magic and fire and passion. It was exhausting and exasperating and frustrating ... and it was lovely and gentle and loving!! ... I'm a better person for having been with her. I'll cherish the experience and remember it always!!

 

Scout

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I see that you posted also in the other thread Christina (I thought you posted or voted in this thread by mistake).

 

 

I just thought the ppl in this thread would like the story too - seeing as the guy I fell for was a CERB member and did fall for an SP (whom he nearly married :)) <3 xo

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I just thought the ppl in this thread would like the story too - seeing as the guy I fell for was a CERB member and did fall for an SP (whom he nearly married :)) <3 xo

 

Yes you did the right thing Christina. I first saw your post here, so I thought by mistake you posted here after I saw your name and picture. So, I first commented that you may have posted in the wrong thread. If so, then please also post in the other thread. Then I realized you have already. But we can no longer delete our posts here on cerb, so I edited it to above comment. Great story btw. Thanks for sharing.

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Like a few others on this thread, I am not married and have never really had a serious SO, so I have always tried to keep in mind that this business is about fantasy or temporary companionship. I have seen some very nice and definitely beautiful ladies. There was one young lady I visited for nearly a year and felt very strongly for until she moved on. There's a lady I met through CERB only a few months ago who I currently consider a very good friend. So I wouldn't say I've ever fallen in love, but felt strong friendship for and protective of, definitely.

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At the beginning it was not Love - it was business. As time went by we spent more time together. We got to know each other more and more. We became more familiar with each other's private lives. Trust was developed. After many years I actually began to feel what I think was Love for her. I think I'm not entirely sure because my mind whispered continuously to me this can't happen, it does not make any logical sense given each of our situations. The problem is that my heart and my soul told me and made me feel differently. It was a constant battle.

 

After a few years with this constant battle and conflict within me, I began to develop a different understanding. It was still a feeling of Love but of a different sort. A Love between 2 people who cared and most importantly trusted each other as much as 2 people can given the situation. It was about being there for each other when life was not so pleasant for each other. It was about spending time together and escaping the realities of each others different problems. It was about being able to do and say anything in each other's presence given everything we knew about each other. It was about laughing, being crazy, having fun, even arguing sometimes, helping each other and most important being able to move forward with each other despite any incident. It was like having a Lover and a Best Friend, all wrapped up in one beautiful package - is that Love ?

 

I think it was Love because I always wanted it to be more. I'm not sure about her thoughts on this. We never spoke of it. I think despite all the great times and how far we both pushed the connection we had , deep inside we both knew it would never be permanent and forever. It was and has been the most special of times I have ever spent with another person for so many years. I guess maybe it is Love, a different, very special and very unique kind of Love.

 

Even today, there are times my mind still says it cannot be Love, my heart still tells me otherwise. My heart missed her when we were apart for many months, my heart missed her when I was not in her presence while seeing or talking to her on a daily basis. Finally I still miss her now that I only talk or see her very occassionally. I guess it must be Love. I never remotely thought it possible that I could Love 2 people in 2 very different ways so very much at the same time and that both these people could affect me personally so much and in such an intense fashion.

 

I am so lucky for having experienced this and just want to say thanks and I love you.

 

Finally sorry for the long post but there is no other person or no other place where I can say this. Thanks for your patience.

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All that I know it is that when I am in his arms nothing else has importance. I feel safe. His voice make me quiet and very receptive ... and what to say about his body except that I want to admire it and kiss it all over again and again ... :bowdown: I like the person he is ... the way he think ... I can see throught the kind of "wall" he's hiding himself sometimes ... Hopefully, he will understand that I will never ask him more than what we already share ... and he will drop this wall.

 

but hey, sharing my life with him is just impossible ... our story doesn't match togetter ... and most of all ... I'm a lonely girl and I don't think I can handle a long term relationship. loll

 

I still think that nothing is better than loving him for an hour ... sometimes. lollll

 

 

For all the rest.. There is VISA :rolleyes:

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