Etiquette Question - Tipping

[Guest D***el B***e]

Honestly, I think tipping ensures a maintenance of good service / and mostly, priority to this lady. If she knows you for tipping well, she'll fit you in wherever and whenever you want-- however, if you don't tip well, you're going to be pushed behind guys that do. It's a job, after all. Eh, I'm not sure though.

 

I don't think I've ever been pushed back because of poor tipping, and conversely I'm not sure I ever pushed someone out of a time slot because of that. When I make an appointment it's quite often "yes, I'm available at the desired time" or "I'm only available on such a time on such a day". I'd be interested to find out from other ladies if you push out a date over a good tipper, I doubt it ... wouldn't be a good business practice in my mind. just saying.

[WealthyCowboy 5281]

Boone: I don't think you can bump someone with money, unless it's a huge payoff: $5,000 for a weekend, maybe.

 

You can't expect anything in return just for being generous. The male mind probably functions this way and expects a better experience. However, guys may be let down...

 

That is not to say that some ladies won't go the extra mile the next time around because they remember you as the guy who takes extra care of them. But expectations may lead to disappointment. I think you should give because you want to and not worry about a return on investment. If you don't have any extra to give, then don't and I do not believe you will be penalized for it.

 

For example, I've been known to give 100% tips to certain massage girls only to have a very boring experience the next time. So, tipping does not always ensure that you will get a better experience the following session, even if she remembers you. You can't buy chemistry... and some girls just have a lot of restrictions no matter who you are or for how much. Gotta love the girls that play hard to get... :icon_smile:

 

My suggestion is to find a girl who is actually into YOU, spoil her silly right off the bat and see what happens. Besides, why would you want to spend time with someone who's not into you?

[johnybird 4391]

So far, with the ladies I've seen, I have never had an issue with them fitting me in whenever I wanted, they usually have been available the times I requested. And the dates have just gotten better and better the more I see them. I can't imagine the dates getting any better than they are at this point with the women I see regularly.

 

If the chemistry is there and you genuinely respect her and the 2 of you have some sort of connection, I would imagine she would prefer to see you over someone that she didn't have the same connection or chemistry with just because they tipped better.

 

I would rather bring her a gift (which I have done in the past) that I know she would like and appreciate based on our past conversations together, and take the effort to actually think of something and go out of my way to get it for her because I genuinely want too, not because I think I will get a better date out of it. I don't find anything wrong with tipping, it just feels impersonal to me.

 

Now if I knew somehow that the woman I was going to see expects or prefers tips then without a doubt I would tip her, but if she really has no preference or doesn't expect it, I would rather bring her something a bit more personal and thought out.

 

I'm just basing this on my limited experience, I could be totally off on my way of thinking.

[TFZL1 229]

Honestly, I think tipping ensures a maintenance of good service / and mostly, priority to this lady. If she knows you for tipping well, she'll fit you in wherever and whenever you want-- however, if you don't tip well, you're going to be pushed behind guys that do. It's a job, after all. Eh, I'm not sure though.

 

I see lots of varied opinions on this subject.

I usually tip, and I hope the lady's I see appreciate it. And usually with the donation at the beginning for a lady I know.

I guess in a way, I do expect good service, and I hope that tip gets me better service as in a YMMV type situation.

I also buy gifts for my favorite lady's, seems to be appreciated. It doesn't get me extra time or services, but if it makes them happy, puts a smile on there face, or they look extra hot in an outfit I bought, its worth it to me.

[WealthyCowboy 5281]

My suggestion is to spend $2.99 on a can of whipped cream and lick them silly. :tongue:

 

Now that is a tip!

 

(And also throw in extra $ too, of course)

[mrgreen760 37785]

Honestly, I think tipping ensures a maintenance of good service / and mostly, priority to this lady. If she knows you for tipping well, she'll fit you in wherever and whenever you want-- however, if you don't tip well, you're going to be pushed behind guys that do. It's a job, after all. Eh, I'm not sure though.

 

An honest and direct comment. Like with most anything $$$ do matter.

 

Peace

MG

[Ice4fun 78396]

In my opinion there are many things that could make a client a good client.... frequency of bookings, length of bookings, the client's behavior before during and after the booking, bringing a gift, remembering special occasions or special things about the lady.... being extremely discrete about the lady... posting reviews if she wants them or not posting them if she doesn't.... so many things can go into it and of course Tipping is one.

 

Some have suggested that being a good tipper can ensure better service or better access to bookings.... in many ways that is probably true whenever a lady sees a client as a "good client". Most ladies I have met have always said something like "tips and gift are always appreciated but never expected" and I think they have treated that way.

 

Just my Opinion

[hockeyfan266 110]

I often tip GREAT service and have often been told that it wasn't necessary but often appreciated. Been told a few times that a tip was expected and I do not repeat if asked.

[Guest D***el B***e]

TIPS - To Inhibit Poor Service

[Moon Seerose 760]

I'm still pretty new to this and I'm going off what I've seen and been told by friends that have been in the business. I personally have my "base rate" as I call it. I'm told that's standard. And when someone contacts me for the info, I tell them the rate and that it's for my time. Regardless of what we do. So if they have fun and feel that the experience and time with me was worth it they are welcome to give a little more but by no means is it expected.

 

I had one gentleman who felt badly because he was unable to enjoy our time together thanks to his nerves. He wanted to give me a bit more then the rate because he felt he wasted my time. I smiled and told him that I would much rather he save that extra and that the next time he decided to try this again, that he give me call. As much as a tip would be appreciated (especially when unexpected expenses like broken brakes on a car comes up) I couldn't accept the tip from him. For me a tip should be for an experience that left a smile on your face.

 

I don't go into any booking with the idea of earning a tip though. I don't even go in with the thought of the base rate. I go in with the thought of making sure we both have fun and that we are both left with a smile.

 

Hopefully this makes sense in answer to the question. If not, please feel free to ignore this silly newbie. *smiles*

[blacklabdog 3049]

Great info.

[Bigsmooth87 100]

That's good to know

[carrieann 110]

I am always pleased if I am tipped however I feel it's strictly up to the client. It feels good to be tipped knowing that the individual felt "a good job " was done. A" thank you!!!!" text is also nice .

 

I know some may lean on the client to tip....don't feel obligated to do so unless you , yourself the client felt it was deserving and prepared with a bit extra in the pocket.

 

Other than that have fun :) play safe .

 

Just my 2 cents

 

Cheers!

Carrieann

[Kate von Katz 49953]

Welcome to the board, bigsmooth and Carrieann!

 

As has been said a multitude of times already: tipping does indeed help encourage a pleasant time. However, if you are going to use that tip as a means of plying a lady into offering you more than she normally does then it's viewed as a manipulation tactic. So be mindful that you are not using a tip to try to push your luck.

 

Tips are not required (though some require tips for extra curricular activities) by most ladies. If you are uncertain, best to ask in advance so there are no misunderstandings.

 

Like any customer service job, good tippers are absolutely remembered. True story: I am a semi-regular at a local pub. I always tip well. As a result, I have noticed when it is busy, wait staff always make sure I am taken care of first. This is true of any customer service job: if you are a good tipper it shows you appreciate them enough to demonstrate it above and beyond the normal "bill". It makes you stand out from the other customers. It is remembered and it works favorably for you. Much like the opposite of being a poor customer is remembered and works against you.

 

Now you don't need to tip or stand out to have a wonderful time with a lady. But it certainly doesn't hurt!

[guy2009 100]

I was wondering about this myself, appreciate the thread.

[ogreray 703]

This thread is definitely worth the read.

 

My first encounter with an SP involved a lot of communication prior to the encounter. We shared a few common interests and I saw something one day in a store that I thought would make a nice gift.

 

By the reaction I witnessed after giving her my gift, it was most certainly appreciated. Really made me happy seeing how happy she was.

 

Of course, I took a risk in giving that gift. You never know if a gift will be appreciated or not till given. And a lot of us guys kind of suck at picking gifts. It's kind of hard to mess up a tip.

 

Best bet is to read a lady's website, see her interests, and if you have a strong enough grasp on those interests, give an appropriate gift. Don't think toys are worth it, unless of course tgey are on a wishlist. If completely unsure, stick to cash.

 

Oh, I forgot to mention the idea of a thank you card. Someone mentioned it and it seems to make perfect sense.

[TorontoMelanieJolliet 4458]

Of course tips are welcome. They let someone know that they put their best foot forward and it was appreciated. After the session of course.

 

Giving before is a sign that more is expected and kind of puts an expectation on the escort. So it's not really a tip so much as it is to get more than she is willing/comfortable with.

 

But for someone like me, gifts are kinda a touchy way to say thank you. Gifts are reminders. And part of these interactions is to not be too involved outside of the interaction. I would not use gift because of that reminder. So when receiving a gift, it would seem that to display that gift for the next interaction is what is expected. And in that case it is not really a gift so much as a prop for someone else's enjoyment. So it would be tucked away until the next time. So that would be fine then because it would allow me to wash the prop for safe use next time. But then sometimes with gifts, people get territorial, so it cannot be used for pics or for others. Not a really good way to express 'thank you' (for me anyways).

 

But that is just me

 

Additional Comments:

In my perspective if I am bringing the woman something special to me, like a book or music it is to enhance my gfe fantasy. I don't expect that she sees them as meaningful gifts to her. They are props in a role play. I think that once we rip away our own agenda, the only thing that the lady wants from us, like someone mentioned before is cash.

 

 

DS

 

 

But it just doesn't sit right with me that because a woman is in this industry, they cannot enjoy a non-monetary gift or that gifts can't have a personal (yet neutral) touch that they could still bring home and be unnoticed by family or SO. I guess the answer is that every woman in this industry is different. Some will want strictly $ and others will appreciate anything received, and all of that is ok. It's a personal preference based on their situation.

 

 

I see that some have a good understanding :)

[looking123 100]

Very good answer Cat

[smokedogg613 100]

Thank you for all the advice this will definetly help me not insult an SP or make myself look like an idiot.

[f0rd 100]

Great info in this thread. Thanks!