Etiquette Question - Tipping

[Guest ****ven]

Tipping is a nice bonus - however I never expect it. I had a client this week give me a very generous tip and I was very surprised to receive it! Totally made my day :)

[Derek 140]

I think I would rather visit the ladies slightly less often and use that extra money to provide a nice tip on each visit. I'm not sure if this makes sense but it seems like a good idea to me.

[northernguy800 100]

Has anyone seen negative reactions from not tipping or bringing gifts to repeat SPs? I don't think its a big deal to give a little extra, but is it expected?

[Phaedrus 209521]

Has anyone seen negative reactions from not tipping or bringing gifts to repeat SPs? I don't think its a big deal to give a little extra, but is it expected?

 

Never expected, always appreciated.

 

At least, that's what the SPs say, and I've never had any reason to disbelieve them.

[Ice4fun 78396]

Never expected, always appreciated.

 

At least, that's what the SPs say, and I've never had any reason to disbelieve them.

 

Me either... never any negative feedback about not tipping... but I do often bring a gift if I have seen the lady mire than once.

[roamingguy 300291]

I've never seen any negative reactions, but then again I tip and give a gift

I don't think a lady would hold it against someone who doesn't give a gift and tip, but I do think a lady will appreciate those clients who do tip

 

RG

[gimlee25 366]

I have only seen a couple of ladies, as this is a hobby for me.

 

I have tipped both encounters, and felt like it was appreciated, I was glad that I did for the feeling I left with. The fact that it wasn't expected made it feel even more appropriate.

 

Whether it's proper etiquette or not wasn't really a thought in my head. I know it made me feel good to go that little bit extra just for the pleasant reaction.

 

This is an interesting topic, thanks for the great advice...

[50 Shades Raven 31380]

Tips for what we provide are always appreciated and never expected.

For me, a great tip from a first-time client is a request right there and then for a second session.

 

Gifts are wonderful, and a thoughtful gesture on behalf of the gentleman, depending on the circumstances of the lady in question.

As Cat stated, agencies get a huge percentage of the rate (hence the reason I will never belong to one) and although gifts are appreciated, they do not pay the bills.

 

I, on the other hand, appreciate the thoughtfulness of a gift from a gentleman, it shows he took the time to think of something I may like.

A tip of cash is always a great standby if you are unsure, but taking the time to read a profile or website, or talking with the lady herself, will certainly give insight into what is deemed appropriate.

 

I tip in the service industry, as I've been there done that, and appreciate the hard work that goes into service.

[asuran 1138]

Tipping is a nice way to tell the companion you enjoyed your session very much.

 

She'll also have fond thoughts of you if you are to see her again.

[poodockets 100]

Is there such thing as too big of a tip? Has anyone ever had a gift turned down?

[waterat 20911]

No. It's like too much sex. Can't be done.

[conquistador 18487]

Is there such thing as too big of a tip? Has anyone ever had a gift turned down?

 

i had an SP try to give me some back, but i said NO :)

 

give whatever you think is appropriate.

[roamingguy 300291]

Is there such thing as too big of a tip? Has anyone ever had a gift turned down?

 

How much, that's up to you

Too much, well that depends on the lady you see. Your chemistry/connection you had/have in the encounter, how many times you've seen her (a lady on a first date not as likely to get as big a tip as say if you've seen her say four times and this is now the fifth date) and so on

The only person who really can say if you are giving too big a tip is you

The tips and gifts I've given have never been turned down. But I got a hug/kiss and thank you...which btw isn't why I gave a tip and gift. I gave a tip and gift as a token of appreciation for the time the lady spent with me

Give what you think is appropriate and shows your appreciation to the lady for a good encounter

A rambling

 

RG

[tanyathetgurl 857]

I'm a transexual passive-only escort and for many of my clients, I'm their "first time" -- and they are understandably overwhelmed by all the uncertainties.

 

To the extent viable, I actively try to manage these variables down to a psychologically pleasant level for my client.

 

Me saying "and my rate includes the tip" removes a major social-propriety question-mark in the minds of many gentlemen -- and it also helps them plan their budget.

 

And, at least initially, when they're still shopping by price, it also helps them to compare apples to apples, and it heightens their awareness that some girls do appreciate a tip to the point of expecting it, and thus forewarned, the gentlemen can better calculate their finances accordingly.

 

Ironically, even so, one gentleman insisted on tipping me heavily (as in close to 400 dollars, total, wow, for one hour). I didn't immediately accept it but he was adamant. I finally relented. :-) In such situations when the gentleman is adamant enough, then I think he's driven by the need to communicate his appreciation in a way where he'd feel frustrated if I continue to refuse. So, my "tip included" policy has this "except if" clause built-in.

 

Probably the mainstream of SPs are perfectly fine using a more low-key approach than I do, but I hope my input is helpful nevertheless.

 

.Tanya

[WealthyCowboy 5281]

I am looking for good Christmas gift ideas for someone special I have seen a few times and am very fond of.

 

I have read through this thread and so far have seen jewelry, cash, gift cards, perfume, books, electronics and written notes.

 

Any other ideas?

[roamingguy 300291]

I am looking for good Christmas gift ideas for someone special I have seen a few times and am very fond of.

 

I have read through this thread and so far have seen jewelry, cash, gift cards, perfume, books, electronics and written notes.

 

Any other ideas?

 

Is there anything in particular she likes?

Gift cards to a store she likes is a good idea

Maybe a pre Christmas dinner out at her favourite restaurant (mind you you should give a Christmas card with her donation, respects the money is for time and companionship issue)

Really it's hard to say without knowing you, her, and your relationship with one another

But most important, It's the Thought That Counts

Giving a lady a Christmas present no matter what (well no Tim Hortons cards LOL) she'll appreciate the thought

 

RG

[Ice4fun 78396]

Good Wine.... lingerie... travel vouchers.... Restaurant Gift Certificates... prepaid Visa....

 

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[WealthyCowboy 5281]

Thank you for the suggestions RG and Ice4fun. All good ideas.

 

My initial thoughts were that cash or gift cards are too impersonal. But I hear you that any gift should be well accepted. I guess the main concern I have is more in what the lady will imply from the gift if it is over-the-top.

 

For example, jewelry or travel cards may come accross as me wanting more in the relationship realm and may be awkward for her. I'm also curious about what kind of budget to allocate for this. Too much or not enough may stand out. So, trying to avoid the shock factor, I'm thinking that $100-$300 would be a fair range and appropriate gift. Anyone disagree?

 

I saw someone post they once gave 1K. I could do it, but seems like a ''you didn't have to|shouldn't have'' moment.

[roamingguy 300291]

Thank you for the suggestions RG and Ice4fun. All good ideas.

 

My initial thoughts were that cash or gift cards are too impersonal. But I hear you that any gift should be well accepted. I guess the main concern I have is more in what the lady will imply from the gift if it is over-the-top.

 

For example, jewelry or travel cards may come accross as me wanting more in the relationship realm and may be awkward for her. I'm also curious about what kind of budget to allocate for this. Too much or not enough may stand out. So, trying to avoid the shock factor, I'm thinking that $100-$300 would be a fair range and appropriate gift. Anyone disagree?

 

I saw someone post they once gave 1K. I could do it, but seems like a ''you didn't have to|shouldn't have'' moment.

 

The budget is completely dependant on the nature of the relationship you have with this lady. Again, only you and the lady know that, so it's hard for me to say. I would speculate a $100-$300 range is safe

As for the 1K that seems a lot. Mind you I'd be willing to be your friend if Santa was that good to me LOL (definite tongue in cheek here :-) )

Sorry can't be more help

 

RG

[Ice4fun 78396]

roaminguy has hit the nail on the head the amount is really dependent on what the relationship is but I don't see anything wrong with the range you suggest.

 

As for how the lady will perceive the gift I think that depends on a lot more than the value of the gift but in my experience most ladies would simply be grateful unless you place other conditions or suggestions on the gift. A gift should be just that... no strings or expectations attached.

 

Just my Opinion

 

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[WealthyCowboy 5281]

I totally agree. A gift is in addition to a regular donation and in addition to any tip provided. No question about that. I view it as a way of saying ''I appreciate you and care about you'' to the lady.

 

I read a few posts in this thread that were suggesting that cash may be better for those ladies who are in need of $ to pay their bills. Might be sad to give a tangible gift when they'd prefer $ (and I'd never know because I know this lady has class and would have manners and be gracious to receive something) but IMO it would be terribly uncivilized to inquire as to what she'd prefer. I guess I'll have to make an educated guess based on what I know of her.

 

Another question: how to go about picking a gift card if going that route? Which are the best ''for everyone'' options?

[roamingguy 300291]

I totally agree. A gift is in addition to a regular donation and in addition to any tip provided. No question about that. I view it as a way of saying ''I appreciate you and care about you'' to the lady.

 

I read a few posts in this thread that were suggesting that cash may be better for those ladies who are in need of $ to pay their bills. Might be sad to give a tangible gift when they'd prefer $ (and I'd never know because I know this lady has class and would have manners and be gracious to receive something) but IMO it would be terribly uncivilized to inquire as to what she'd prefer. I guess I'll have to make an educated guess based on what I know of her.

 

Another question: how to go about picking a gift card if going that route? Which are the best ''for everyone'' options?

 

Well if concerned about the issue of giving money, I'll go back to something I suggested before. The gift, take her out for a pre Christmas dinner. But in her Christmas card, a donation for her time. That way it doesn't appear you took her out for free time, you respected the money is for her time and companionship.

Gift cards, well if it was me, I like Bass Pro Shops LOL

Seriously, the skies the limit, Victoria Secret, Sephora, La Vie En Rose, Apple Store, La Senza etc etc etc. Ummm knowing all those ladies stores, do I lose my man card LOL...wait, did I mention I like Bass Pro Shops...did I get it back LOL :-)

 

RG

[Ice4fun 78396]

Many ladies list gift card preferences on their websites.

 

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[WealthyCowboy 5281]

I think Bass Pro Shops redeems you RG.

 

Thanks for the list of options. There is definitely something to pick from... Perhaps I'll book an appt and propose a panty shopping outing instead so as to get a glimpse of the panty selection process. :icon_wink:

 

Unfortunately for me, the ladies I see don't all have websites with lists, but I agree with Ice that it is helpful if they do.

[Kellyxo 11682]

Interesting topic, I thought I would give a ladies perspective.

 

"they" say it's the thought that counts, but there is overthinking this as well. Bringing home flowers or tangible gifts can often be uncomfortable based on the ladies situation. So give extra cash or a gift card or even prepaid visa. It's discreet and actually more considerate.

 

A gift is not so different than a tip. We are in this service industry to make money. I would to prefer I have a better financial day over having a new pair of panties or flowers.

 

I will remember a 50 dollar gift card more than 50 dollar flowers. It is much more appreciated.

 

Kelly

 

Xoxox