jimbean 101 Report post Posted April 30, 2011 Went home last weekend, ran into a regular SP in a local Mall. Been enjoying her company for over 4 years, wonderful lady. I would call her at least every six weeks, sometimes more frequent, sometimes less frequent..but regularly. She was with a gentleman, so I didn't say/do anything except keep walking. I wanted to have acknowledgement as we approached, acknowlegement in the form of a glance, maybe, but something/anything. We passed, nothing. I didn't feel bad, upset or basically anything. New experience..she is a wonderful woman, whom I will call again...as a man who enjoys the time spent with a SP...was I wrong? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Megan'sTouch 23875 Report post Posted April 30, 2011 Discretion is paramount in this industry and you did the right thing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Reddog01 30280 Report post Posted April 30, 2011 I agree you did the right thing. Shakespeare said: 'The better part of valour is discretion; in the which better part I have saved my life.' and perhaps others.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FrancoisParis_ 100 Report post Posted April 30, 2011 If as a client we ask for discretion, maybe we should return the same favor and do the same in return. Why not! SPs are human being and deserve the same treat as any other worker. As a matter of fact they should deserve more discretion than any other since they are delevering very intimate services that should be kept secret. I would probably dislike if a SP come tell me hi while I am with my friends or my daughter. I think it works both ways. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheSanityAssassin 160 Report post Posted April 30, 2011 If as a client we ask for discretion, maybe we should return the same favor and do the same in return. Why not! SPs are human being and deserve the same treat as any other worker. As a matter of fact they should deserve more discretion than any other since they are delevering very intimate services that should be kept secret. I would probably dislike if a SP come tell me hi while I am with my friends or my daughter. I think it works both ways. Well said! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Angeltbay 612 Report post Posted April 30, 2011 definately not wrong in doing what you did. Discretion goes both ways. I may see someone, sure i have to look to be able to notice, but dont stare, dont walk up to them, it keeps your personal encounters between you and your SP to yourselves, and that courtisy is always appreciated Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Catfish101 171 Report post Posted April 30, 2011 i would just notice how pretty she was and stared for a sec. Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Boomer 33202 Report post Posted April 30, 2011 A lot depends on the circumstances and how well you know each other, take your cue from her. She'll give an indication if she's comfortable with acknowledging you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EmilyRushton 253367 Report post Posted April 30, 2011 You did the right thing...Granted every situation is different and if you have had the "if we pass in public" chat then it may fall under different circumstances. I have seen people I have met in this business and always kept to my self(this always seems to happen in an airport for some reason, I always keep to myself unless previously discussed. I would never jeopardise anyones privacy ever. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Butterfly Kisses 2301 Report post Posted April 30, 2011 Because you never know who either person is with, it is important to play this as if you just saw them for the first time. I don't see a problem with eye conyact and a simple smile to acknowledge each others presence. That can be done with discretion and ensure no unforseen or uncomfortable situations arise. The only other way would be to have a previously designed signal you both knew, to assure the "coast was clear" to confirm it was safe to approach each other. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rounding Third 9568 Report post Posted April 30, 2011 There is no question in my mind that Jim handled the situation correctly. In fact it is my understanding that it is common courtesy within the industry between SP's and hobbyist to always look the other way if we meet in public. It has never happened to me and I have often wondered how I would feel if it did. No doubt there would be a tug in my heart at the time, and a huge temptation to smile, or wink or something. I am positive I would resist such temptations and we would laugh about it later in an email exchange. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites