Acceptable amount of time to wait for an appointment ( After Arriving 5 Mins before set time )

[walter2010 144]

So here is the Million Dollar Question 

 

So after communication with provider or booking agent a time is booked and location ( General Idea of Area or Hotel ) is given . Now 5 to 10 mins before set time you reach out again and let them know your in the area and need instructions as to where exactly to go . At this point you’re waiting for instructions as to where to go with the hope that you arrive on time for the set appointment . You then get a text back saying please hang tight or maybe nothing at all . My question is What’s actually acceptable time to wait before it’s time to cancel or just leave ? I understand things happen I get it . The key here however is clear communication and consideration . Also say you get that information finally then say by the time you get to the room or location you now 10 mins behind planned schedule . Is it acceptable to bring it up what time it is as so to add to the tail end of the appointed time ? 10 mins of a $500 per hour appointment is over $80 you’ve spent before you even arrive . Kinda hoping for some feedback 

 

[BenDover 348]

everyone gets ghosted sooner or later 

and about half the time you are right on schedule and you get

‘ hey babe i’m still getting ready sit tight 15 mins or so 😘’

 

for someone established i’d give 15 mins or so leeway , for an unknown if i'm on time and she’s not , i’d just leave 

once i rescheduled about 3 times in an afternoon while she changed hotels all over the place , the pics were that hot ,   and it turned out to be in the top 5 worst encounters ever 💁🏻‍♂️

 

[AdamSandler 417]

Personally I expect to be given the address and not just a general area 1-2 hours before the scheduled time at least. I try to arrive and park early and then I wait until about 5 minutes before the meeting time to text that I'm here/nearby but always add that I know I'm early and no rush at all on their side. 

I'll give anyone a little time. But there are a couple different situations. No response at all to my first text then message again maybe 5 minutes after you're supposed to meet. Still no response I'd probably give until 15 minutes after the scheduled for maybe 1 more text saying I'm leaving in 5 if I don't get a response. 

Now if they are actively responding I'll definitely give more flexibility but again if we hit 15 minutes or so past the scheduled time I'll probably hit them with a text asking how much longer. Maybe throw something in about having a tight timeline and if they aren't ready soon I will have to reschedule (whether it's true or not). If it seems like they are just stringing me along I'll leave but thankfully that hasn't happened to me when they've been actively replying. 

 

To your other question 5 minutes I probably wouldn't worry about at all but when we hit 10-15 or more I would expect my booking time to be honoured and shifted. If we were supposed to meet at 9 and she wasn't ready until 9:15 I would expect to stay until 10:15 for sure. I'd say most independent providers would do this anyway and I often see SPs put a timer on their phone rather than watch the clock. Now if we are talking Agencies like YFL if the provider is running late you will likely lose the time. I think YFL only gives the ladies 15 or so minutes between appointments which is not much time at all and doesn't really give them the flexibility to extend their time in the moment. 
I probably wouldn't bring it up at the beginning but maybe at the end if it seems like she's trying to get you to leave early you can try to bring it up in a gentle way. Maybe something like "we started a little later than expected but I am really enjoying our time together. Is there any way we could take just a few more minutes?" Or something along those lines. I'd keep the focus on her rather than strictly on the time and money aspect.

[DaveM2 221]

My rule is 15 minutes after the scheduled time before I leave if I don't get any response. If they text me something generic like "just a few minutes" I'll give them 15 from when I get that text. I'm willing to be more flexible if they have clear communication but that rarely happens.

Your second question is a good one. if the client is late to the appointment then I think its totally reasonable and fair for them to send you out at the end of the time slot you booked. But if they are late they really need to be giving you the full length of time you booked. If they made you wait there's no reason they can't make the next guy wait as well. I always check my phone for the time right before knocking and compare to the clock in the room (many set it ahead) so I know exactly how long I've been there. That way I don't get scammed and also don't risk overstaying.

[AdamSandler 417]

32 minutes ago, DaveM2 said:

My rule is 15 minutes after the scheduled time before I leave if I don't get any response. If they text me something generic like "just a few minutes" I'll give them 15 from when I get that text. I'm willing to be more flexible if they have clear communication but that rarely happens.

Your second question is a good one. if the client is late to the appointment then I think its totally reasonable and fair for them to send you out at the end of the time slot you booked. But if they are late they really need to be giving you the full length of time you booked. If they made you wait there's no reason they can't make the next guy wait as well. I always check my phone for the time right before knocking and compare to the clock in the room (many set it ahead) so I know exactly how long I've been there. That way I don't get scammed and also don't risk overstaying.

Checking your phone is smart. I'm curious though do you check it when you're leaving and if they're kicking you out early do you say anything about it? 

I often leave my phone in my pants or jacket so I'm not watching the time. I let the ladies control the time and usually take the hint when they ask if I want to grab a shower that I've probably only got 5-10 minutes before my time is up.

[DaveM2 221]

12 minutes ago, AdamSandler said:

Checking your phone is smart. I'm curious though do you check it when you're leaving and if they're kicking you out early do you say anything about it? 

I often leave my phone in my pants or jacket so I'm not watching the time. I let the ladies control the time and usually take the hint when they ask if I want to grab a shower that I've probably only got 5-10 minutes before my time is up.

What I meant is I calibrate the real time against the clock in the room at the start of the session. If my phone says its 12:00 and the clock says 12:15 I know they set it ahead by 15 minutes. I like to keep an eye on the clock throughout the session so I pace myself accordingly, but that doesn't do you much good if the time is wrong.

I'm not a very combative person, so I'll usually just roll with it but obviously warn other people that they do that if I see someone asking about them in the future. I mean lets face it you're not going to get an enthusiastic finale after calling them out for trying to scam you lol.

[AdamSandler 417]

1 minute ago, DaveM2 said:

I mean lets face it you're not going to get an enthusiastic finale after calling them out for trying to scam you lol.

My thoughts exactly haha