"Vulva 101"

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

QMI reports, 2 Feb 2012:

 

http://www.torontosun.com/2012/02/01/up-close-and-extremely-personal

 

New coffee table book is a valentine to vulvas

 

Despite its vaguely stodgy academic title, the new coffee table book Vulva 101 (vulva101.com) is nothing less than a valentine to vulvas everywhere.

 

Within its pages, 101 external female genitals of all shapes, sizes and colours are lovingly documented by Canadian photographer, Hylton Coxwell.

 

Coxwell was inspired to begin photographing vulvas because he was uncomfortable with society's near-Victorian mindset vis-a-vis female genitalia.

 

"I noticed the shame and embarrassment women have regarding their vulvas," says Coxwell. "Many would say the word 'penis' in casual conversation, but would hesitate to say vulva or clitoris, often using childish terms or 'down there' instead. When I asked them why they didn't feel comfortable even mentioning the words for their own body parts, the answer was usually a long thoughtful pause and then 'I don't know why. It just seems wrong to say it.'"

 

As a child, I was not taught the proper words for my genitals. I'm impressed by the mothering skills of my good friend, a new mother, who taught her baby daughter the word "vagina" as soon as she became aware of that part of her body. Mother and daughter alike use the word unflinchingly, just as they use the words "nose," "ear," "mouth," "eyes" and "elbows."

 

It feels almost as though there has been a Disneyfication of female genitalia in pop culture. When we aren't pretending that they don't exist, we refer to our genitals as "ladybits" or -- very unfortunately -- "vajayjays" (thanks but no thanks, Oprah).

 

Why is the proper terminology verboten? Did you cringe when you initially read the word "vulva" in this article? Did you absentmindedly wonder if a newspaper should even print such a word? Why are we hesitant or reluctant to use words that simply correlate to parts of ourselves?

 

Some women attach feelings of shame and inadequacy to their vulvas. What Coxwell garnered from conversations with women was that many felt that there was something actually wrong with that part of their body.

 

"(Some women felt) their lips were too big or too small or too dark. Frequently, they didn't know specifically what was wrong, but they had a general sense that they weren't normal."

 

Coxwell was thus inspired to put together a book that celebrated the vulva, using images of more than 100 women of all ages, body types and ethnic backgrounds in an effort to help normalize the conversation and give women insights into what constitutes a "normal" vulva.

 

The diversity within its pages is astonishing and beautiful. Any woman who feels that her vulva is ugly, strange-looking or unappealing in any way should flip through its pages.

 

"It seems crazy that it's 2012, and there still are women who haven't looked at their own genitals in the mirror," says sex educator and author Tristan Taormino (puckerup.com). "I'm thinking back to Betty Dodson's body sex workshops in the '70s "¦ the very first thing is take off your pants and look in the mirror and really get up close and personal with your vulva. Betty's work continues to this day because we still haven't gotten to a place where we are ready to accept all of our differences and really embrace what we look like and not try to change it or compare it to something else."

 

Says Taormino, "The more we look at these pictures and see the diversity, the more we can come to terms with our own bodies."

 

And when people fully come to terms with and embrace their bodies, better and more satisfying sex will surely follow.

 

Coxwell's hope for Vulva 101 is that it "helps people -- both men and women -- realize all vulvas are uniquely beautiful, and they shouldn't be a source of shame or embarrassment."

 

[Carrie Moon 68826]

Any other dirty minded people notice his last name?

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

Any other dirty minded people notice his last name?

 

I was too busy looking at the pictures. But now that you mention it, it's true that sometimes they do swell ... when they're in to the hylt.

[Carrie Moon 68826]

ah ha! I was trying to think of a smartass way to use his first name.. count on your wit WIT!

[VedaSloan 119179]

My vulva is in this book. :)

[northerntantra 4671]

In case you missed this on the Humour thread, there's an hilarious text message conversation between a mom and her son concerning Uncle Dick and her car (a Volvo) ...

 

 

Don't you just love Autocorrect!

[renegade 11027]

I watched a documentary not long ago about the making of the book, interviews with some of the models and the reasons for the project. As a guy who truly thinks all womens vulva,s are unique and beautiful in their own ways i was amazed to find out that most women felt so insecure about their "look" I found the doc highly educational and i believe it helped me to better understand some of my partners "shyness" with exposing their genitalia under the Lights so to speak. My appreciation for that Beautiful flower only increased and i think any women who is shy about her look should definitely puruse those pages.

[VedaSloan 119179]

I watched a documentary not long ago about the making of the book, interviews with some of the models and the reasons for the project. As a guy who truly thinks all womens vulva,s are unique and beautiful in their own ways i was amazed to find out that most women felt so insecure about their "look" I found the doc highly educational and i believe it helped me to better understand some of my partners "shyness" with exposing their genitalia under the Lights so to speak. My appreciation for that Beautiful flower only increased and i think any women who is shy about her look should definitely puruse those pages.

 

 

Seriously, some women feel so insecure about the way their vulvas look that they get plastic surgery (labiaplasty).

 

When I got my copy of the book, I basically showed everyone who came over and made them try to guess which one was mine. Haha.

[billybob 20128]

Seriously, some women feel so insecure about the way their vulvas look that they get plastic surgery (labiaplasty).

 

 

I've heard it happens quite a bit with adult film stars.