Wondering...

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

I largley it depends on your personality. I have always been comfortable around people. I have a natural ability to put people at ease, and feel welcomed. So for me, it did sort of come naturally.

However, yes it does take time to get used to it. To feel confident and learn how to take controll of how the session may go.

However, it is strange, because as comfrotable as I feel with taking the lead with new dates, I sometimes feel awkard in a "normal" social experience.

And with a board like this one, I think it is much easier to feel at ease. As we can sort of get a feel for what kind of person I will be metting.

[Jhena Grey 25615]

I find that I am more comfortable around clients that I have exchanged a couple e-mails and/or chatted with. I feel like I kind of know them in that sense and it breaks the tension. Naturally I am an awkward person so I do not know if I hide it well enough. lol

 

Gena

[Guest Is*****e S**les]

I just had my first 'date' last night! Carrie has been a good friend of mine for a while and encouraged me to become an escort because I just love sex so much... and she invited me to a duo with a regular client of hers. I was definitely nervous but grateful she was there to guide me. We had a fabulous time.. so I was really lucky to have my first encounter be with a good friend. The client was very happy too to enjoy our fantastic chemistry. I am excited to having more duos and a bit nervous still to have solo but I'm ready!

[Kate von Katz 49953]

My first time was awful. I was with an agency back in BC, and of course with an agency, you don't have nearly as much control over your clients as being indy. He smelled awful, was rough, and hovered less than 3 inches from my face the whole time. Basically he embodied all the worst things a client could do. After becoming an indy, I made damn sure to make no bones about my expectations as far as cleanliness and behavior.

 

I also had similar issues when I moved here and worked for agencies. It's my body, and I will be damned if I give any old Joe admittance! I love being indy because I have the final say in whose company I wish to share. Thankfully it's rare I have to restrict or refuse service based on bad attitude or poor hygiene.

 

I've said it before and I'll say it again: I don't settle for mediocrity. Which means, unfortunately, I do a fair bit of weeding out. But ultimately this is to everyone's benefit, since we've all had lackluster encounters, and they're no fun.

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[Carrie Moon 68826]

My first time was about 24 years ago.. but I still vividly remember it. It was an agency outcall and the client was visting his friends so we were actually on the couch. I was nervous people were going to walk in on us but it didn't happen..

To me it was like a blind date only you knew it was fastforwarded to the end of the night make out session.

 

I had 2 followup appts that very night and quit my 'square' job the very next morning. I was a security guard while I was going to school... so I went from a very ill-fitting not sexy at all navy blue uniform to buying lingerie and more skirts!

 

My 2nd appt was very unusual.. I went with another agency girl to the Royal York Hotel to a bachelor party. I was quite overwhelmed and not very well prepped as to what was going on. An obvious low end provider was already there walking around offering $50 blowjobs to anyone.. and the companion escort I arrived with went with one gentlemen to a bedroom. I sat there like a deer caught in the headlights while a very drunk slobbery man started coming at me.

 

I was immediately whisked away by a gentlemen to a room.. and was left alone with a much older gentlemen who turned out to be a recent widower. I was now the only other woman he was going to be with. He was gentle, sweet and appreciative. I left a very happy safe girl.

 

I agree with Emerald though.. in my experience agency's do not take very good care of you.. they just saw the dollars they could make and it was luck of the draw whether the clients were nice or not. It wasn't long before I went indy.

 

Those first two appts were so unique that I don't remember the third..

[Cara Silver 32412]

Terrifying. :icon_eek:

[April Dawn 12207]

Awful. I actually saw him quite a bit and each time it was worse. He had zero respect for me and tried quite aggressively to push my boundaries. I saw a client who is a member of this board and another and we actually sat around and discussed the business side so much. If i wouldn't have met him who knows what would have happened. He showed me the respectful gentleman aspect and the importance of screening.

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[Gabriella Laurence 301886]

Even though I was terrified, I was even more excited by the thought of sharing intimacy with someone I had never met before.

 

My first rendez-vous was a 'pre-book' and the gentleman was well aware of the fact that it was going to be my first experience so he made sure to make it a memorable one for me. He greeted me with a bouquet of flowers and offered me refreshments. We sat on the couch and talked for quite some time before we moved on to other things. I have to say that everything evolved in the most natural way possible and we had an awesome time together :)

 

To this day, I still believe I was a very lucky woman to have had such a nice experience for my first time.

[Emma Alexandra 123366]

I had just started with an agency...my first call was with a first time client...i walked in ...we looked at each other and i said...ummm what do we do? He said "i don't know" ..so we just went for it...I jumped him{in a good way}. The rest is history...lol. When in doubt I just did what comes naturally...lol...he turned out to be a regular for some time. I guess i was one of the lucky ones. A little shy at the time but it all worked out.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Seriously, I can't remember!! Probably because I was a zombie since I was working 2 jobs and going to school at the time. I guess the first time was nothing to write home about or terrible either if I cannot recall the encounter. I was not at the agency for very long before I ventured out on my own and quickly realized I was a natural from day one with the clients as well as the business aspect of it. This explains why I'm still here with a few hiatus' in between to pursue other avenues.

 

Now the second time was a hot scenario. It was an outcall to a downtown residence and it was raining. A man in his early 40's opens the door and he was cute who beared a minor resemblance to Richard Gere ( I kid you not!) with his facial features and hair. We went to his room, I looked directly into his eyes and my beige trenchcoat fell to the floor only revealing red lingere on underneath on the body a young, flawless blonde. He laid me down on his bed and we kissed passionately as if we clicked. I realized at the moment that I had the knack of seducing men. It was a hot sensual encounter that ended well but I never saw him again. The rest goes down in history as my time as an SP in Ottawa.

[omehgosh 736]

Although I still don't really know what it's like (and can't), I'm at least a slightly less curious.

 

Thanks for sharing ladies! :smile: