When private life meets work. Awkward situations...

[Guest m**t****ka]

Hi ladies. I'm just curious. Have you ever booked and appointment with a client only to find out, when he's at the door, that he is someone you know in your private life? Maybe it's a family member (close or distant), maybe it's a friend, a co-worker from a non-sex related work, or any other person you know in your private life. What did you do in such an event?

 

Thinking about it, I think this question might be open to you as well fellows. Have you ever found out at the door that the lady you booked for a session is someone you know in your private life. How did this work out?

 

Don't be shy, people lol.

[Jamico 100]

I am also curious to find out what will be the reaction in such case?

 

adding to this, i will like to know how to react when you bump into a client or SP at a public place, event, grocery, restaurant etc while you are with your friends or relatives, would it be OK to say Hi, chat a little or just ignore the person?

On my side ignoring the person sounds really rude, at least a little smile and Hi will be perfect.

I experienced this at Calipso, there was an SP I met few months before and she was with her apparently BF right behind me in a line-up and when she "I assume" recognized me she was hiding behind her BF all the time avoiding my eye. I think that during those 30mns line-up she had more stress thinking that I will point at her or say something stupid. I think it was really sad and if she only said Hi, life would have be less miserable for her.

[Guest S**a*Q]

I'm a little different, since I show my face in most of my photos, there's no chance they don't know who I am...

 

If I opened the door to someone I knew, I think I'd feel like he was being shady by not telling me and just booking.

 

I'd definitely be pissed off.

 

If I haven't slept with them in my personal life, I sure as hell won't be doing it cause they are dropping an envelope on the table.

 

As for bumping into me somewhere in public... Please say nothing. You don't know who I'm with, maybe they don't know what I do. You don't know me in normal life, so please don't yell out my name, it's not my real name. Do nothing... Don't make things awkward... Please keep your distance.

 

[Phaedrus 209521]

adding to this, i will like to know how to react when you bump into a client or SP at a public place, event, grocery, restaurant etc while you are with your friends or relatives, would it be OK to say Hi, chat a little or just ignore the person?

 

Say nothing. If you make eye contact, that's enough, but in the name of all that's sacred DON'T DO ANY MORE! Don't even smile, or wink, or anything.

 

You don't know who she's with, or whether they know of her occupation. She doesn't know whether or not you're here with your wife. There are far too many risks involved for any overt contact to be worthwhile.

 

By all means drop her a PM later to say, "Hi, nice to see you earlier". But NEVER. EVER. do anything in public. Ignore her. She'll understand. So should you. If you don't, you'll understand the day you meet an unprofessional SP while you're out with your wife :)

[cometman 35115]

If I met my favorite SP in a public venue, I'd flash mob her and propose marriage.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Just shittin' ya.......read the post above.

 

 

 

 

The first statement would be a hoot though, huh?

[VedaSloan 119179]

I've met clients who later turned out to have mutual personal friends or who ran in the same circles I did, and I haven't been uncomfortable about it. I'm totally out in my personal life, so it happens sometimes.

 

As for bumping into clients in real life, I just smile and keep walking. A couple of times I've run into clients who were on their own and we've had a quick, "hey, how are things" type convo, but that's about it.

[igab 5629]

I've never met an SP whom I knew in my real life at the door of the incall or outcall but I have bumped into SPs during the course of my real life.

 

I think it depends on the situation. If I or she is obviously with someone or there are others within earshot or observation distance it is best to not react at all, for both of us. On one occasion we were both with SOs. I pmed her later that it was nice to see her and she responded in kind.

 

I did see an SP one time where we just bumped into each other in a Tim Hortons line and it was obvious that neither of us was with someone else. We both smiled and said hi and we just moved on. It wasn't awkward it was situational and was spontaneous on both our parts. No one watching would have guessed how we knew each other. In general though it is best to just avoid any indication that you know the other person.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Yes, it's happened a few times but either I knew the person and they didn't know me like a high school teacher. I never told him I knew who he was and would never put someone on the spot like that because I'm discrete.

 

There were also men who were professionals that I had encountered in my private life that found out I was an escort through certain avenues and while it was awkward, I would never call them out or make them feel uncomfortable. In certain professions, there is a code of ethics to follow and they did just that. They were never a client but I knew they were a hobbyist and they knew I was an escort. And their secret is safe with me.

 

I see clients around all the time like at the Home Depot or grocery store with their wives and half the time they never notice me because I dress down when I'm out running errands. If they do notice, I just hit up another ailse or go in the opposite directon. if I knew the client was single and we literally bumped into each other, a smile or "Hey, how's it going?" and keep on walking type of deal doesn't bother me if both of us are alone.

 

If someone were to come up to me and be a real douchebag and not discrete ( ie. "Hey Nicki, I had a great time last wee!k" Total douchebag scenario and I'd never see that person again as a client), I'd have a real big problem with that and it would not be pretty esp if I were with someone..but I don't think that would happen esp if I were with someone! LOL. If I'm with a man or whoever else, don't approach me. I think someone would be too intimidated to pull a stunt like that if the SP was with her bf or SO...No way that would happen unless the person wants to set themselves up for failure in that scenario.

[autowaman 110]

omg, that would be sooo funny. i can just picture it meeti in aisle of grocery store "hey nikki i had so much fun last week, i can't believe we did it 3 times" then within 2 seconds a hard fist to the side of the head from your bf who was just behind. cleanup in aisle 3 please. LOL.

 

as with most tense or uncertain situations in life, step back and think first. hopefully this will give the other person time to step away or turn as well and situation avoided.

[BootyLoving 2441]

Happened once. Was out shopping for cloths and saw an sp I just saw the other day also doing the same with a bunch of her friends. She noticed me, I noticed her. Did a quick eye to eye, and continued on with our own things, like I would with any beautiful lady. Clients and SP all have their own lives. Sometimes making that external connection and keeping it hush makes it more fun.

 

Everyone of us can practice being a 007. Then book another appointment to giggle about how sly we were!

 

Additional Comments:

Hmmm this provokes an interesting topic!

 

If the two met and neither realized who the other was.

And it turned out to be someone you knew, and the other party was willing, or even really turned on ...

 

 

Would you if:

 

 

1) it was someone you knew professionally

2) it was a friend

3) it was a past teacher

4) a distant relative

5) a close relative

 

666) it was your daughter / dad / brother / sister

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

omg, that would be sooo funny. i can just picture it meeti in aisle of grocery store "hey nikki i had so much fun last week, i can't believe we did it 3 times" then within 2 seconds a hard fist to the side of the head from your bf who was just behind. cleanup in aisle 3 please. LOL.

 

 

OMG!! I wouldn't go as far to say that would happen but someone would end up running and it wouldn't be the bf if I had one at the time. I've got a thing for guys with muscles. lol.

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

I knew a guy at my dayjob who I had asked to refrain from bathing in his cheap cologne and he retaliated by wearing even more the next day. I am highly allergic to certain colognes, and his workstation was right next to mine. I ended up asking my supervisor to help me and he was sent home to "shower" and not wear cologne anymore.

 

Well, low an behold, didn't he show up at my place once for an incall. I just thought ok, now what do I do. I kinda hesitated, and he said "Oh, I forgot my wallet in my car". Normally this kind of tactic irks me, but I was so relieved that he chose to leave right away and not try to push the call through.

 

And of course, he was reeking of cologne. Guess some guys don't learn.

 

I also had a client who declined to complete a call because I looked exactly like his sister, and when I first opened the door, he thought I was his sister. We both chuckled, and I graciously let him leave without giving him a problem, but he still paid me a cancellation fee.

 

Also at work one day some guy came up to me and said in front of EVERYONE, "have we met before?" with this cockeyed grin on. This was a new job, I had just moved here, and my co-workers knew I did not know anyone in this Province. I replied "no, we have never me, but I have a twin sister, did you know she now has aids?". He never pulled that crap again on me.

 

If I run into a client in public, I do not stop and talk, or say anything different then if they were a total stranger. Yes you can make brief eye contact, but please, pretend I am a stranger if you see me in public.

 

xoxo

[Guest ot***amal***]

I'd hope that an sp or client would be discreet if they encountered each other in public. Let people keep their personal lives separate from the hobby. If an sp ignores your eye contact or smile don't be offended. She's being discreet on both of your behalf.

 

As for arranging a meeting and it ends up being someone you know. If it's awkward give her a fee and walk away. The same basic rules of not giving out an sp's information still applies.