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    Welcome, random visitor! Thanks for dropping by.

    I'm just an average guy, like most of the others here, probably. But I've discovered that I can have lots of fun with lots of very hot people, so... um... that's what I'm doing here. But I guess you're the same, unless you're one of the hot people I might end up having fun with.

    A quick request to the other gentlemen here: please don't ask me whether a particular MA offers extras. I usually don't know, because I've never asked. If you're looking for mileage beyond the usual MA experience, why not go see one of our awesome SPs? That's what I do :)
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  1. LOL. The law did not have a grossly disproportionate effect; the whole point of it is to make sex work as difficult as possible (within the bounds of the SCC's ruling in the Bedford case) and therefore force people out of the industry. It was doing exactly what it was intended to do.
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    It isn't. There have been posts like this from providers who are sick of people trying to haggle with them for as long as I can remember. I have no doubt that there will be more in future, because some things - unfortunately - never change. What's not allowed is posting and discussion of any particular provider's rates. It's unpleasant when people start to say things like 'I don't think she's worth that'. And even if people just post rates without comment, providers can and do change their rates whenever they please, and so those posts can get out of date and misleading pretty quickly. That makes it a lot easier for everyone if they just don't happen.
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    Privacy Tips and Tools

    Two things that can be done. Providers can advertize that it's an acceptable way to communicate, if they want (the ones who aren't keen on texting probably won't). That may get clients and even other providers to check it out. Clients can ask providers whether they're OK with it for communication. That might prompt the providers to offer it, even if they don't right now. But again, probably best to only ask the providers who use texting, because the ones who prefer email or calls probably won't like Signal either.
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    Byward Market

    Brass Club and CMJ's downtown location are both within walking distance, if you don't mind a bit of a walk :)
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    Asian massage in Hull

    DNR means do not discuss. At all. Usually that's because the provider in question has requested it, and their opinions are more important than ours. If that's a deal-breaker for anyone, they're free to go see someone else.
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    The question of fragrance.

    Perfume is great, in general. Well, I think so, anyway. But in this industry, there's two issues... First: you never know when a client is going to react to it badly (in terms of sensitivity, etc) Second: as others have said, a scent can linger, and some people have issues with anyone else smelling anything... compromising. So, I'd say - probably best to stay away from anything but the most subtle dab of perfume unless everyone involved is definitely OK with it.
  7. Hah. The markets might be high for now, but I can't help feeling that the entire economy is running on a sugar rush right now... and the comedown is going to be brutal when we realize the central banks can't cut rates to help out.
  8. Yup. Next day at least for a follow-up. And... unless it's a provider you're already well acquainted with, I think your first message needs to make it clear that you're interested in booking. By all means start out with a pleasantry or two, but make sure you get down to business (e.g asking about availability, or something) in the same message. The ladies seem to get an astronomical number of texts/emails/DMs from guys who are just stringing them along and have no intention of ever seeing them, and you don't want to get lumped in with the timewasters.
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    What happened to this board?

    Bear in mind that that was the same Mod as we had back in the glory days. To my mind, the problem was two things that happened more or less simultaneously: first, we lost a few of the key contributors to the board, and secondly the change in the law that was C36, which meant that the people running boards (all of them, not just this one) had to be enormously careful about what was said. Some played it safer than others; the folks running this one were on the more conservative end of the spectrum, I think. A lot of people also stopped posting because of this. A few got suspended because they couldn't adjust. And the community began to wither as a result. I think you're half right... the real issue here is that back in the glory days I think most people were sitting behind a keyboard, and were able to write long-ish posts... but now everyone's using their phones, which make typing a lot far more of a hassle. And so people have moved to platforms that promote brevity. It's a shame, because there has been no replacement for the in-depth discussions we used to have here. You just don't get those conversations on Twitter. This is not a new complaint. People have been wanting to trash providers and complaining about not being allowed to do so here for as long as I've been around, and that's quite a while. Whatever the reason for the decline, this isn't it, because the rules here have always been the same. I don't really agree with this either, I'm afraid. The spas are very active, yes, but they always have been. But there are still a lot of independent providers around... they just aren't active here the way they used to be. And yes, we've lost some legendary providers, but we've gained others :)
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    Washington DC bill to Decriminalise

    Good that they're talking about this, at least. Unfortunately, even if DC allows it, Congress could strike it down (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/District_of_Columbia_Home_Rule_Act)
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    For you guys complaining about being rushed... please bear in mind that you have no right to any more time than you paid for. If you book for an hour and you're walking out the door exactly an hour after you walked in, you have nothing to complain about. If you want a longer session, book it. Sure, there are some providers who will have you done and out the door in rather less time than you booked for - but those just need to go on the "do not see again" list. Accept it and move on. Some providers will give an extra few minutes, or even more, but this is entirely down to them. You have no right to expect it. And bear in mind that even if she'd like to hang out with you a bit more, she may not be able to because she has another appointment booked, or she needs to get on with her personal life. And if you're finding that you're always being rushed out the door... maybe re-evaluate how you're picking the people you see, and how you're behaving with them. The first step to getting a bit of extra time is to be the kind of person the provider wants to spend time with. Okay, that's enough of that digression. Back to your previous conversation about edging...
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    New topics in club

    No idea. Maybe message the mods to ask? Or post a link to the club in this thread and other folks can see if they can find it...
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    Any ebony woman in the south end?

    I'd definitely recommend Cleo Pearl, although I don't think she's in the south end.
  14. Join the queue. Guys with cameras are a dime a dozen in this industry.