You ever wish you could talk to someone about this?

[Monique Matheson 2615]

Interesting... I would never want to talk about this with anyone, ever.

[Athos 108589]

I agree that it would be nice to be able to talk about this, and I'm reminded of Nathalie's thread on destigmatizing clients. If I were to talk about this with friends or people I work with I don't know what the reaction would be. Some would be accepting, others not. However, negative reactions would be devastating for my career and work relationships. so I'll stay anonymous behind my handle and discuss things here. This is one of the great things about CERB; it allows us to be part of a community rather than isolated and alone.

 

Porthos

[Guest webothscore]

While the only full proof plan is to trust yourself, some of us still talk to others. The pyschology behind this is fascinating, and makes life exciting, good or bad.

[Polydeuces 1167]

I have a few close friends that I talk with pretty openly about this. Other close friends know, since I have hinted and also since I haven't dated for a long time, but they don't really care one way or the other.

 

Some married friends want me to take them to a spa one day.

 

Polydeuces

[CoolCucumber 2610]

Not even me? :P

Interesting... I would never want to talk about this with anyone, ever.

[Monique Matheson 2615]

LOl okay.... maybe with you Mike M :)

[shaved 3174]

How about me...:icon_biggrin: you could whisper in my ear !!

 

 

Interesting... I would never want to talk about this with anyone, ever.

[Ice4fun 78396]

While I would love to see the negative image around this industry disappear and feel safe and comfortable with people knowing that I was a customer in the industry I am not sure it would change the amount of discussion I would have with anyone.

 

I have been married for 30 years and my sexual life with my wife is only discussed with her. Prior to that when I dated I would never think to discuss intimate details of my dates with others.

 

I consider my relationships that I have with the amazing ladies I have met in this hobby to be extremely personal and that the details of our meetings would not be discussed by her or I without permission. That's not just about discretion or security...it is also about respect for this amazing personal time we have spent together.... it is valuable because it is so personal and intimate.. not something I would want to share... perhaps I am just too greedy.

 

I have from time to time written about wonderful ladies I have met... let's face it... it is their business and recommendation can be helpful. in all of these cases it is written with no private details and always with the ladies knowledge... in fact if I am writing something about a lady I will often PM them a copy before I post it.

 

I hate the stigma of this industry but appreciate the privacy.

 

Just my opinion.

[FunValerie 8573]

I have had several clients tell me that they have told their therapists that they see SPs and all of them told me that the therapist have never said not to see SPs. There seem to be lots of open-minded therapists out there. Especially, some of my fetish clients have discussed their particular fetishes with their respective therapists and have told me about it.

 

On another note, I see several special needs clients whose families know that I see them and again I have never had any issues with any of the families whom I have actually met. Most of them are actually happy because I add happiness to their special needs family member, make sure that correct protection is used and do not promise to become a permanent girlfriend (which might be confusing to a person with a mental health issue).

 

The bottom line is that there are professional and unprofessional people who are very open about people who see SPs. If anyone needs an ear, there is someone available to listen and not to judge.

[kmwq 5477]

I've had that desire but it was short lived. Writing reviews on the various boards fills in the void of wanting to share. You read and maybe now and then judge, I get it off my chest and hopefully you'll enjoy reading the reviews as much as I enjoy reading your reviews.

[Guest c**io**m7]

A few months ago I confided in a buddy who was very supportive and he quite enjoyed my stories. Since my SO found out, a great deal of my family and friends are now aware of the curiousm7 persona.

Sadly, I am now an out-cast...I have been labelled as "disgusting", "revolting", "scum" etc...etc. With the exception of that original friend, I am viewed by most around me as a sexual deviant who cruises the streets looking for strung-out SWs giving $20 blow-jobs. Once minds are made up, there is no convincing these folks that the escorting community is not what you see on TV.

[Guest P*rry]

Yes, I do. Yet, I'm content to keep my sharing to within the CERB community.

[Guest S****r]

A few months ago I confided in a buddy who was very supportive and he quite enjoyed my stories. Since my SO found out, a great deal of my family and friends are now aware of the curiousm7 persona.

Sadly, I am now an out-cast...I have been labelled as "disgusting", "revolting", "scum" etc...etc. With the exception of that original friend, I am viewed by most around me as a sexual deviant who cruises the streets looking for strung-out SWs giving $20 blow-jobs. Once minds are made up, there is no convincing these folks that the escorting community is not what you see on TV.

 

That is terrible, curiousm7! I am sorry to hear that!

 

Myself--I have made friends with several other SPs over the last year and we actually meet once a month now to socialize. It is so great to have others I can be fully open and honest with. Not that we discuss particulars of clients or encounters, but we are able to share general frustrations and celebrate good news related to work together and give each other advice. I now consider them some of my best friends!

 

I also have a great therapist with whom I am totally honest, too. She is completely non-judgemental and instead is supportive in helping me think through decisions I have to make, etc.